Escort questions

[Tigger]

Christ - an escort I have seen several times has posted a BB video on his RM ad, which still says "Safe Only".

My new primary care provider told me there was highly antibiotic resistant gonorrhea in the area. It might not be able to be cured.

[sincitymix]

My new primary care provider told me there was highly antibiotic resistant gonorrhea in the area. It might not be able to be cured.

 

Ive heard there are many antibiotic resistant strains of everything going around

[ChrisWydeman]

The "not a cop" thread reminded me of this situation -

 

I recently noticed an ad on RentMen for a guy who seemed very interesting. We emailed back and forth a bit and seemed like this would be a match - a fun time. I was about to violate a few of my own hiring rules - hire someone without a review on Daddy's site, not have a voice conversation first. In this case I was willing to make an exception.

 

The day before we met he asked about my STD status. The question was not about HIV status but STD status. Personally, I would never engage in sex with another person if I knew I had an active STD. Looking at a larger picture, I thought this is a weird question. If a person does not have an STD or does now know he's got an STD, the answer is no. If a person knows he has an STD, I'm assuming most guys who can afford to hire escorts on RentMen or RentBoy would get it treated.

 

Is my assumption wrong - am I giving too much credit to those who hire?

 

My personal conclusion is this guy is a new escort. My experience with guys new in the business has not been good, so I cancelled.

 

Thoughts?

Before I left the forums I tried to explain STI's to folks but it was on deaf ears so I will try again.

 

STI's happen and usually they are not a big deal and require a shot of ceftriaxone and 2 pills of azithromycin (or a 7 day corse of doxycycline). There are other STI's that stick around forever such as HIV but I think we all know about that one so I won't go into it. There are 2 STIs that are worth mentioning because even the most sexually active folks glaze over HPV (human papaloma virus or warts) and HSV (herpes 1 and 2).

 

HPV can be spread from skin to skin contact as can HSV and while condoms can reduce risk these are STI's that just about everyone has. Have you ever had a cold sore? If so you most likely have HSV 1 which is being transmitted to genitals more often than it used to be and then there is HSV2 which is genital herpes which USUALLY doesn't transmit to a mouth. As it was explained to me by a nurse, Herpes 1 & 2 can are nerve based so while you may generally have confined outbreaks to the mouth or genitals you can also have an outbreak on your back or legs. Most adults have HSV 1 from kissing and I think the stat was something like 20% of sexually active adults have HSV2. Herpes is not a big deal and can be easily treated with daily suppressive therapy.

 

HPV is easily contracted from skin to skin contact and can still be transmitted even with a condom. As men who have sex with men we are at risk for contacting HPV rectally so that means you should get a check up anal dysplasia. You want to get this treated because it can process into cancer if gone untreated. the treatment is burning the warts off, internally and externally. If I remember correctly I think 80% of people have HPV.

 

While these might sound scary they aren't and are very treatable. Most folks have some form of transmutable disease from HSV to HPV and they aren't that big a deal. Dealing with STI's is a fact of being sexually active and more often than not a minor impediment. Use what ever protective methods you deem necessary. I apologize for any grammatical or spelling errors I full of cold medication and not particularly coherent.

[+ Gar1eth]

Before I left the forums I tried to explain STI's to folks but it was on deaf ears so I will try again.

 

STI's happen and usually they are not a big deal and require a shot of ceftriaxone and 2 pills of azithromycin (or a 7 day corse of doxycycline). There are other STI's that stick around forever such as HIV but I think we all know about that one so I won't go into it. There are 2 STIs that are worth mentioning because even the most sexually active folks glaze over HPV (human papaloma virus or warts) and HSV (herpes 1 and 2).

 

HPV can be spread from skin to skin contact as can HSV and while condoms can reduce risk these are STI's that just about everyone has. Have you ever had a cold sore? If so you most likely have HSV 1 which is being transmitted to genitals more often than it used to be and then there is HSV2 which is genital herpes which USUALLY doesn't transmit to a mouth. As it was explained to me by a nurse, Herpes 1 & 2 can are nerve based so while you may generally have confined outbreaks to the mouth or genitals you can also have an outbreak on your back or legs. Most adults have HSV 1 from kissing and I think the stat was something like 20% of sexually active adults have HSV2. Herpes is not a big deal and can be easily treated with daily suppressive therapy.

 

HPV is easily contracted from skin to skin contact and can still be transmitted even with a condom. As men who have sex with men we are at risk for contacting HPV rectally so that means you should get a check up anal dysplasia. You want to get this treated because it can process into cancer if gone untreated. the treatment is burning the warts off, internally and externally. If I remember correctly I think 80% of people have HPV.

 

While these might sound scary they aren't and are very treatable. Most folks have some form of transmutable disease from HSV to HPV and they aren't that big a deal. Dealing with STI's is a fact of being sexually active and more often than not a minor impediment. Use what ever protective methods you deem necessary. I apologize for any grammatical or spelling errors I full of cold medication and not particularly coherent.

 

I've never had a old sore.

 

I think your rate of HPV prevalence is too high. But I know of a former escort who had reviews on Daddy's who died of rectal cancer. He was first treated around 2004. I don't know if they thought they got it all then. But he died from a recurrence either in 2013 or 2014. And no I'm not going to say who it was. He had been retired for a long time at the time he passed. But his partner is still alive and as far as I know without any outward signs of HPV (i.e. No genital warts).

 

There are multiple strains of HPV-not all are cancer causing.

 

The reason I bring this up is that we all need to talk to our physicians about HPV. There are currently two or three vaccines that help prevent some of the cancer causing strains of HPV. The one that covers the most strains is fairly new and called Gardasil 9. Technically it's not approved for males over the age of 26. But I would definitely talk with your physician about receiving it if you are in good health and over the age of 26. I previously went to a gay physician/gay practice, and he advised me to get the older Gardasil years ago. The way older males respond to it in terms of building up protection against HPV isn't really known. But in general it shouldn't really have any more side effects in a healthy male with no contraindications to receiving it.

 

Gman

[ChrisWydeman]

I've never had a old sore.

 

I think your rate of HPV prevalence is too high. But I know of a former escort who had reviews on Daddy's who died of rectal cancer. He was first treated around 2004. I don't know if they thought they got it all then. But he died from a recurrence either in 2003 or 2004. And no I'm not going to say who it was. He had been retired for a long time at the time he passed. But his partner is still alive and as far as I know without any outward signs of HPV (i.e. No genital warts).

 

There are multiple strains of HPV-not all are cancer causing.

 

The reason I bring this up is that we all need to talk to our physicians about HPV. There are currently two or three vaccines that help prevent some of the cancer causing strains of HPV. The one that covers the most strains is fairly new and called Gardasil 9. Technically it's not approved for males over the age of 26. But I would definitely talk with your physician about receiving it if you are in good health and over the age of 26. I previously went to a gay physician/gay practice, and he advised me to get the older Gardasil years ago. The way older males respond to it in terms of building up protection against HPV isn't really known. But in general it shouldn't really have any more side effects in a healthy male with no contraindications to receiving it.

 

Gman

I was wrong its 70% which is still pretty high. While all strains may not cause cancer many do so go get yourself checked out. As warts many are internal which is anal pap smears are a good idea for yearly physicals

 

http://www.aidsmap.com/High-rates-of-anal-HPV-infection-among-young-gay-men/page/2741248/

[+ Gar1eth]

I was wrong its 70% which is still pretty high. While all strains may not cause cancer many do so go get yourself checked out. As warts many are internal which is anal pap smears are a good idea for yearly physicals

 

http://www.aidsmap.com/High-rates-of-anal-HPV-infection-among-young-gay-men/page/2741248/

 

I made a correction. The former escort died in 2013 or 2014 about 10 years after diagnosis. I don't want people thinking that being an escort is how he caught HPV. It may have been. But he was a very popular/sexual guy even before he started escorting. It's just as likely he caught HPV from an encounter outside escorting. But that's why we all need to take care and speak with our medical caregivers. Even if yours aren't gay, it's helpful if they are knowledgeable about gay health issues other than safe sex and HIV.

 

Gman

[LADoug1]

What if the situation were reversed? Is is appropriate to ask an escort his HIV/STD status?

[ChrisWydeman]

What if the situation were reversed? Is is appropriate to ask an escort his HIV/STD status?

Yes its completely appropriate to ask a escort if an escort has any transmittable infections but you might not get the answer you want because most people don't even know they have HPV or don't think telling you that they got a cold sore once warrants a disclosure.

 

From my experience when you ask someone there STI status that covers gonorrhea, chlamydia and HIV

[seaboy4hire]

What if the situation were reversed? Is is appropriate to ask an escort his HIV/STD status?

 

Yes it is completely OK to ask about HIV status. But keep in mind some may fib about their status and some may not know since they're in-between tests. I'm positive, on meds and have always been honest about my status. It is in my profiles, on my review page and I mention it in email or text since often times clients don't bother reading and go right to stats and pics.

 

Hugs,

Greg