Worried about risk of STIs

[JIm]

Hi I am really looking to hook up with an escort to have safe sex but am paranoid about the risk of STIs and scabies or pubic lice. I know it sounds paranoid but if an escort is having multiple sex partners every day then the risk must surely be high. I am in a relationship so don't want to bring anything home.

 

Am I being dumb?

[Keenan]

My suggestion is to be informed but also make sure you do everything safely that way you don't have to worry as much. Escorts look out for their health, of course it is true that there could be high risk with an escort of catching something. If you are careful you should be fine.

 

Keenan

[+ Funguy]

In addition to the advice above, you should consider asking your doctor for Hepatitis B and HPV (Human Papillomavirus) vaccines. If you are in a situation where you do not think you can talk to your physician, try to find a LGTB health center and also consider changing physicians, or at least having a a gay-friendly doctor with whom you can discuss these issues freely.

 

Good Luck

[Steven_Draker]

http://www.cdc.gov/std/healthcomm/fact_sheets.htm

 

From the link posted above by a previous poster:

 

CDC Fact Sheet: What Gay, Bisexual and Other Men Who Have Sex with Men Need to Know About Sexually Transmitted Diseases

If you choose to have sex, you need to know how to protect yourself against sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

 

 

What are sexually transmitted diseases?

Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are very common in the United States—half of all sexually active people will get an STD by age 25. These diseases can be passed from one person to another through intimate physical contact and sexual activity.

 

http://www.cdc.gov/STD/life-stages-populations/images/msm-228-2.jpg

Am I at risk for STDs?

While anyone who has sex can get an STD, sexually active gay, bisexual and other men who have sex with men (MSM) are at greater risk. In addition to having higher rates ofsyphilis, more than half of all new HIV infections occur among MSM. Many factors contribute to the higher rates of STDs among MSM:

 

• Higher rates of HIV and STDs among MSM increase a person’s risk of coming into contact with an infected partner and becoming infected themselves.
  
• Certain behaviors- such as not using condoms regularly and having anal sex - increase STD risk.
  
• Homophobia, stigma, and discrimination can negatively influence the health of gay, bisexual, and other men who have sex with men.
  

How are STDs spread?

STDs are spread through sexual contact with someone who has an STD. Sexual contact includes oral, anal, and vaginal sex, as well as genital skin-to-skin contact.

 

Some STDs—like HIV, chlamydia and gonorrhea—are spread through sexual fluids, like semen. Other STDs, including HIV and hepatitis B, are also spread through blood. Genital herpes, syphilis, and human papillomavirus (HPV) are most often spread through genital skin-to-skin contact.

 

How will I know if I have an STD?

Most STDs have no signs or symptoms, so you (or your partner) could be infected and not know it. The only way to know your STD status is to get tested (you can search for a clinic here). Having an STD such as herpes makes it easier to get HIV, so it’s important to get tested to protect your health and the health of your partner. CDC recommends sexually active gay, bisexual and other MSM test for:

 

• HIV at least once a year;
  
• Syphilis;
  
• Hepatitis B and C;
  
• Chlamydia and gonorrhea of the rectum if you’ve had receptive anal sex, or been a “bottom” in the past year;
  
• Chlamydia and gonorrhea of the penis (urethra) if you have had insertive anal sex or received oral sex in the past year;
  
• Gonorrhea of the throat if you’ve performed oral sex (i.e., your mouth on your partner’s penis, vagina, or anus) in the past year;
  
• And sometimes your healthcare provider may suggest a herpes test.
  

Your healthcare provider can offer you the best care if you discuss your sexual history openly. You should have a provider you are comfortable with. CDC’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Health Services page will help you find health services that are gay-friendly.

 

Can STDs be treated?

Some STDs (like gonorrhea, chlamydia and syphilis) can be cured with medication. If you are ever treated for an STD, be sure to finish all of your medicine, even if you feel better. Your partner should be tested and treated, too. It is important to remember that you are at risk for the same or a new STD every time you have unprotected sex (not using a condom) and/or have sex with someone who has an STD.

 

Other STDs like herpes and HIV cannot be cured, but medicines can be prescribed to manage symptoms.

 

How can I protect myself?

For anyone, choosing to be sexually active means you are at risk for STDs. However, there are many things you can do to protect your health. You can learn about how STDs are spread and how you can reduce your risk of getting infected.

 

Get Vaccinated: Gay, bisexual and other MSM are at greater risk for hepatitis A, hepatitis B, and the human papillomavirus (HPV). For this reason, CDC recommends that you be vaccinated against hepatitis A and hepatitis B. The human papillomavirus (HPV) vaccine is also recommended for men up to age 26.

 

Be Safer: Getting tested regularly and getting vaccinated are both important, but there are other things you can do to reduce your risk for STDs.

 

• Get to know someone before having sex with them and talk honestly about STDs and getting tested—before you have sex.
  
• Use a condom correctly and use one every time you have sex.
  
• Think twice about mixing alcohol and/or recreational drugs with sex. They can reduce your ability to make good decisions and can lead to risky behavior—like having sex without a condom.
  
• Limit your number of partners. You can lower your risk for STDs if you only have sex with one person who only has sex with you.
  

Know Your Status: If you know your STD status, you can take steps to protect yourself and your partners.

 

http://www.cdc.gov/std/images/promos/factsheets-145.jpgAll STD Fact Sheets

Where can I get more information?

CDC’s Gay and Bisexual Men’s Health page - Information for gay and bisexual men and other men who have sex with men

 

Ten Things Gay Men Should Discuss with Their Healthcare Providerhttp://www.cdc.gov/TemplatePackage/images/icon_out.png - Fact sheet from GLMA

 

Fenway Healthhttp://www.cdc.gov/TemplatePackage/images/icon_out.png - Safer sex information from Fenway Health

 

The GLBT National Help Centerhttp://www.cdc.gov/TemplatePackage/images/icon_out.png - GLBT support and referrals

 

AIDS.govhttp://www.cdc.gov/TemplatePackage/images/icon_out.png - HIV/AIDS information and resources from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services

[Steven_Draker]

Escorts look out for their health ...

 

It depends on the escort. Some do, others do less, and some don't care.

 

Hi I am really looking to hook up with an escort to have safe sex but am paranoid about the risk of STIs and scabies or pubic lice. I know it sounds paranoid but if an escort is having multiple sex partners every day then the risk must surely be high. I am in a relationship so don't want to bring anything home.

 

Am I being dumb?

 

By all means, Jim, practice safer sex and select your partner carefully. To minimize (but not eliminate risk) avoid guys who have an escort ad on BarebackRT.com; guys who who list in their profile "sometimes safe" "never safe" or those who leave the safe sex question unanswered. Avoid ads that mention drug use. Drug use and safer sex don't mix well. Avoid like the plague ads that mention "parTy" and "parTying" ("T" is a code name for crystal meth). Avoid anyone who mentions "uninhibited" in his ad. "Uninhibited" is an euphemism for barebacking. Exercise caution with any ad that says "on PrEP". Many (not all) guys on PrEP are known to bareback with others. PrEP minimize HIV risk, but doesn't protect you against other STDs.

 

Finally, TALK and DISCUSS safe sex practices with your escort, both before the meeting and in person. Ask questions.

 

Ask when was the last time he was checked for HIV and for all forms of STDs. The answers may be revealing.

 

Good luck and stay safe!