How soon is too soon to talk about international travel?

[+ WhamIAm]

I'm travelling to China for a month in January 2016 and am likely going to take a week solo in Bangkok and Phuket afterwards. There's a guy I've been seeing very regularly for the past 6 months whom I'd really love to invite to join me for that last week. I'm making my arrangements now, and airfare and hotels will only go up between now and the trip. (My travel/recreation budget is not limitless.) And, I'd gladly arrange his flight so he could get into BKK a couple of nights before or after if he thought there were other business opportunities there (with him responsible for all of his other costs until we meet up, of course, and no extracurricular hires while we're together (unless I want to join in )).

 

Is it too soon to broach the subject at least tentatively? If I talk to him about availability and his rate for the trip with appropriate caveats, is the general consensus from those who have been down this road (especially from the escorts) that we are irrevocably locked in? Or, would it be appropriate to raise the possibility of joining me to get him thinking about whether he'd be interested without a full commitment on either side. (He has a boyfriend.) It's not impossible (though very unlikely) that one or the other of us might not be feeling it any more as we got closer to January, join a cult, or otherwise lose interest, and a week with a sullen escort (or sullen client) would be unpleasant regardless of the setting. Of course, as we get close to the trip, second thoughts on either side are no longer possible. Should I broach the subject now, or wait? And if I wait, what would be a fair amount of lead time for him to decide/get it on his calendar?

 

Thanks in advance -- Wham

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

Sent you a PM.

[Juan Vancouver]

There's absolutely nothing wrong with talking about the possibility and making it really clear that it is just that, a possibility. You could even talk about details, agree on rates and conditions and agree on a date in which confirmation would happen. When that date arrives, if he has not heard from you it just means the trip will not happen.

 

Nothing weird about that.

 

Either way, hope you have a fantastic trip.

[down_to_business]

Whatever you do, learn from my experience if you can. Always book such a trip with insurance or the ability to get most of your money back. When the escort I planned such a trip with cancelled on me, even with a few months notice, I lost everything (air, hotel, cruise, pre-paid tours, etc. etc.). It was a definite learning experience and one I hope you don't have to go through.