Planning a session in advance

[kaboom35]

I'm going to start out this thread by saying I hate booking sessions in advance. I've been hiring for the better part of a year and 99% of my sessions have been the "day of" or even a few hours notice. My schedule is absolutely crazy and there have been times i've booked with an escort in advance and had to cancel but something always comes up. I have managed to piss off a couple of escorts because of canceling, and to my loss they have asked me not to contact them again. I get it. Whether it's last minute trips, getting sick, or trying to work things out with my ex (which that was a bust), I have canceled appointments that were scheduled. So first and foremost, if you are one of those escorts and you are reading this, I apologize. I'm sure you know who you are. I am no long planning sessions in advance and i'm going to stick with trying to hire the day of as that hasn't not worked for me.

 

With all that said I did book a session with a popular escort for last night. We made the appointment around end of May. I've been trying to see this guy for almost a year but he's the busiest person ever. I finally made an appointment with him a few weeks ago but of course, I had a last minute trip and I emailed him to cancel and see about rescheduling. We rescheduled for last night. Long story short, he flaked. He never emailed me to confirm. I emailed him twice yesterday and I still haven't heard from him. We never did phone contact but I just shot him a text and still nothing. I guess my question is who should of contacted who first to confirm this appointment? I didn't contact him until yesterday (the afternoon of the session) but I didn't during the week nor did he contact me to confirm. My question is, is it the client or escorts responsibility to make the confirmation?

 

This is another reason why "day of" sessions work better for me. But I own my faults with canceling in the past but in this case is it the fault of the escort?

 

Go ahead, I can take all criticism. lol

[+ azdr0710]

in the period between when you rescheduled the meeting (which I'm guessing was done "around the end of May" when you had to postpone) and when you tried to reconfirm yesterday, did you have any contact at all?...

 

I suppose I would've made a reconfirmation for yesterday's meeting several days earlier than....yesterday!......

 

he may've given up on you, having not heard from you since late May.....in an effort to communicate (the most important part of all this), I certainly stay in contact with the escort to make sure we're all still on!...if he's as busy as you say, he may not have time to reconfirm already-once-postponed meetings and/or he may be being discreet in not contacting you

[+ WhamIAm]

I always book sessions in advance, usually a week or so, but sometimes as long as a month for someone I really want to see. Just makes me feel more comfortable (and gives me a better shot at seeing a guy I really want to see, I think). Most guys confirm/check in by text a day or two before. If not, I do, and again a couple of hours before the meet. Been lucky in that I've never had someone flake out at the last minute. I've had a couple of guys cancel a day or two before, but still with enough time for me to go to Plan B. And, I've had to cancel, usually because of a cancelled business trip. Except in one case of the hospitalization of a family member, I've always been able to give at least 24 hours notice and I've never had a guy react poorly or not see me again.

 

In your situation, I don't think it's a matter of "fault." It's a matter of both client and escort engaging in basic courtesies (and, on the part of the escort, good business practices). Your guy was a flake. Plenty of them out there. I'd shake it off and move on. Plenty of other fish in the sea.

[+ smara]

Sorry this happened & don't we all dread such times........

I think as a personal choice I always make it a point to "confirm" a few hrs before appt..... not that there have been times when I have been stood up even after a final confirmation.

Since you say "we rescheduled..." on the day of encounter, was that not a confirmation on both sides? Did you show up if it was an incall and there was no answer? If so that is terrible.

If it was a travelling escort, it is indeed possible that he might have been busy with other appointments to answer repeated confirmations.

 

Just consider it as hazards of the business and moven on to others especially since as clients there is not a whole lot that one can do I guess.

[kaboom35]

in the period between when you rescheduled the meeting (which I'm guessing was done "around the end of May" when you had to postpone) and when you tried to reconfirm yesterday, did you have any contact at all?...

 

No we did not have any contact between the rescheduled and yesterday. The last email he sent me was that he was putting June 12th on his calendar to meet with me. Then never heard from him again. He is an escort that lives in my city and it was an in-call.

 

I'm not upset or angry with him..so don't get me wrong. I mean its just sex. lol. I'm more bummed than anything because its a guy i've been trying to see for a long time and he just completely flaked, yet he has really great reviews and seems to be a favorite on this board.

[instudiocity]

You're the best judge of how your schedule works with either same day appointments or advance appointments. I prefer advance appointments. I also prefer earlier appointments - I don't want to be guy #2 or #3 of the escort's day. Just my idiosyncrasies...

 

As to your question, "Who should confirm?" Both of you.

 

This is a sales function - you're selling some hot guy on gettin' nekkid with you. He's selling you on getting' nekkid with him. The $$$ is for his time, because, you're willing to give up your time to get nekkid with him. A terrible thing happens when you don't connect, you have too much money, too much stress and too much cum. He has too little money.

 

It is in BOTH your best interests to communicate regularly.

 

I have a policy when I must cancel with an escort. I offer to PayPal him my fee for the no-show or promise him DOUBLE his fee the next time we meet. After all, if I am paying for his time, and I didn't show up. He's still yielded his time to me. Funny, the few guys I've stood up are always ready to get together when I set up the new appointment.

 

What's the difference between a time-waster and a legitimate first-time client who has a sudden need to cancel? From the escort's perspective, NOTHING AT ALL!!! What's the difference between a first-time client that cancels and apologizes versus a first-client who cancels and offers to pay for the time anyway? Getting a rescheduled appointment, most of the time.

 

It's all about your attitude. If you're paying him for sex, you think one-fee is enough. If you're paying him for his time, wouldn't you still owe him, if you canceled? Try standing up your doctor, lawyer or dentist one day and see how long they keep you as a patient/client.

 

I frequently think about $300/hour equalling $5/minute. Then I remember, my escorts are providing the apartment, furniture, clean linens. He's going to the gym, brushing his teeth, using mouthwash, scraping his tongue, showering, douching, and preparing for me. For that lousy hour with me, he's spending at least 2 hours preparing for our time. Me, I show up, usually, freshly showered, stick my tongue down his throat, stick my dick in his mouth, flip him over and stick my dick in his ass. I cum all over his clean sheets and walk out the door.

 

P.S. Don't tell G-man I was defending the escort again.

[curiousnomore]

Almost all of my hires are scheduled weeks in advance, if not a couple of months. I'm married and don't travel for work, so I find an event (concert/sports), buy two tickets and book a hotel. If the guy I want to meet has any concerns about my seriousness, I can assure him that I'll be there, whether we meet or not. To date, I've met my first choice, because they know I'll be there. Just my 2 cents.

[tedbear]

Now that I live in the hinterlands (Kentucky) and I must travel to a city to find an escort, I always have to plan in advance, since hotel reservations and other plans are required. And there aren't that many escorts to choose from in the cities near me, so I have to schedule early to get someone I want.

[Guest RexB]

I like to book in advance because I really enjoy looking forward to the meeting; having it dangling in front of me for a while and then thinking of it afterwards prolongs the experience. It's especially enjoyable if the escort is responsive to my checking in occasionally just to ask or say things like, "If you have a jock-strap I'd love for you to be wearing it when we meet", etc. For me all this counts as foreplay, so that when I spend the one hour with him the encounter will already have some built-up energy invested into it. Since I'm not wealthy, it also appeals to me because I feel like I'm getting more bang for my buck.

[+ smara]

I like to book in advance because I really enjoy looking forward to the meeting; having it dangling in front of me for a while and then thinking of it afterwards prolongs the experience. It's especially enjoyable if the escort is responsive to my checking in occasionally just to ask or say things like, "If you have a jock-strap I'd love for you to be wearing it when we meet", etc. For me all this counts as foreplay, so that when I spend the one hour with him the encounter will already have some built-up energy invested into it. Since I'm not wealthy, it also appeals to me because I feel like I'm getting more bang for my buck.

Very true. The flirtatious emails ar a prelude is always very exciting as long as it not excessive and is two-sided. I always look forward to that.

[loverboy95]

Just want to comment that I tried to book a meeting only a few days away and I wasn't able to meet the escort. I am the exact opposite; I can't do it on such short notice because I need time to get everything prepared. I want my meetings to be special and planning months in advance rather than a few days really helps with that.

[Lankypeters]

Since I seldom, if ever, know in advance when I may feel like getting laid, I almost always book on the spur of the moment. That often happens on weeknights, when, perhaps, the working boys aren't so heavily booked, if they're booked at all. And usually I've been able to see whomever I wanted, including the popular, well reviewed guys. There are about four or five guys I see frequently, so at least one of them will be able to come on over. On occasion, I've booked in advance and, when the day finally arrived, I just wasn't "into it." Booking at the last minute, or when one is "horny," is one of the great advantages of hiring -- instant gratification. It seldom, if ever, worked out that way back in the days of going to bars and baths. Strike while the iron is hot. Ba --- da ---- BOOM!

[tedbear]

When I lived in Chicago, where escorts are plentiful, I did sometimes hire impulsively. And when I was younger, I very much felt like you do, Lanky. I didn't want to plan ahead at all, but after years of seeing traveling escorts where you almost have to plan ahead, I've gotten into the anticipation. And, as I said earlier, now that I live in a small town, I have to plan ahead unless I'm going to somewhere like Chicago.

[thickornotatall]

I like to have something to look forward to....I have always made plans ahead.....2 years ago I was in Scottsdale for the winter and needed a referral from the man I regularly saw....He had a good friend that fit my needs...after some email....cell calls and a Skype talk we came to a great agreement...I rented a casita at a resort and he came by every few days for sightseeing...meals...shopping....just hanging out...I am athletic and like to hike...swim...and just stay busy....being from New York I never really got the hang of driving on Xprswys...So he did all the driving....a great time....

But for home hires....the day before to ask "will you be available"?....

[Epigonos]

Basically you have answered your own questions.

 

It seems that last minute booking work best for you so that is exactly what you should do. With last minute hirings you really don't need to concern yourself with re-confirming after the initial setup.

 

I, on the other hand, never do last minute bookings and thus I always make the effort to confirm a couple of times as the scheduled appointment approaches. That is especially true on the day of the appointment. I usually go to the escort and call and confirm as I'm leaving my place. I have never had a situation where he didn't answer and am not exactly sure what I would do if he didn't.

[+ stevenkesslar]

I have never had a situation where he didn't answer and am not exactly sure what I would do if he didn't.

 

Really? How interesting.

 

Have you ever had a situation where you were driving to an airport to meet an escort in Mexico on a one week appointment and he was desperately trying to call you on your cell phone because the TSA had shut LAX down for two hours and as a result even though the escort had arrived at the airport two hours in advance he missed his flight but he could not reach you because you did not have your fucking cell phone on and you had not even set up your fucking voice mail in which case he had to wait by the boarding area for the airline you were flying on to explain the situation to you in person because you were too fucking stupid to pick up the god damn phone?

 

And if so, what did you do about it? Blame him?

[ZhenXBear]

So far, I've booked as early as a week and as long as 5 weeks out. The first time being when my companion of choice was going to be in my city and I arranged an afternoon appointment.

 

The second time was a detour to his city as an add on to an already planned trip for a 24 hour booking. This was about 4-5 weeks in advance. Um, now it's for a weekend and I'm returning to his city; except this time the mission is just to spend quality time with him. Again about 4 weeks in advance.

 

Each time I am traveling to him, he gets copy of my flight itinerary. He's never asked for it. I just send it to him out of respect. It's my way of saying "I'm committed to this." Geesh, how could I not go...I'm counting down the days now and am already excited!

[ZhenXBear]

Really? How interesting.

 

Have you ever had a situation where you were driving to an airport to meet an escort in Mexico on a one week appointment and he was desperately trying to call you on your cell phone because the TSA had shut LAX down for two hours and as a result even though the escort had arrived at the airport two hours in advance he missed his flight but he could not reach you because you did not have your fucking cell phone on and you had not even set up your fucking voice mail in which case he had to wait by the boarding area for the airline you were flying on to explain the situation to you in person because you were too fucking stupid to pick up the god damn phone?

 

And if so, what did you do about it? Blame him?

 

People that don't set up their voicemail are....annoying.

[+ stevenkesslar]

People that don't set up their voicemail are....annoying.

 

Yes, which leads us to today's exercise in deductive reasoning.

 

1. People that don't set up their voicemail are annoying.

 

2. For years, Epigonos did not set up his voicemail.

 

3. For years, Epigonos has been an annoying person.

 

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[+ Chris Eisenhower]

Really? How interesting.

 

Have you ever had a situation where you were driving to an airport to meet an escort in Mexico on a one week appointment and he was desperately trying to call you on your cell phone because the TSA had shut LAX down for two hours and as a result even though the escort had arrived at the airport two hours in advance he missed his flight but he could not reach you because you did not have your fucking cell phone on and you had not even set up your fucking voice mail in which case he had to wait by the boarding area for the airline you were flying on to explain the situation to you in person because you were too fucking stupid to pick up the god damn phone?

 

And if so, what did you do about it? Blame him?

 

Paint us a picture, Steven.