My first time traveling with an escort...need advice.

[Guest JON1265]

Hey guys -

 

I am taking an escort I know and I am comfortable with on a trip to Vegas at X-Mas. I am of course paying for the trip, food, etc, plus his rate on which he gave me a good deal considering what others charge for trips.

 

I just have some questions about some certain things.

 

1. Am I required to give him money for gambling? I don't think he gambles much, but if we end up in the casino should I give him some money? My concern is if he won big I would be really pissed.

 

2. Is he "ON" the whole time we are there - or should I give him some down time, or at least offer it?

 

3. As far as sex goes - should I initiate it whenever I want it? I certainly don't want to treat him as a sex toy - but that is one of the reasons I asked him to go with me.

 

4. What if I want some down time away from him - how do I approach this?

 

5. What about payment? Should I pay him daily for his fee so he has money if he wants to go and do something on his own? He suggested half up front and half at the end - but it was not etched in stone.

 

Any suggestions would be most helpful.

 

Thanks.

 

Jon

[marc anthony]

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>1. Am I required to give him money for gambling? I don't think

>he gambles much, but if we end up in the casino should I give

>him some money? My concern is if he won big I would be really

>pissed.

 

You are not REQUIRED to give him money to gamble, but it would be a nice gesture to give him some money to play with during the times that you will be playing. Not a lot... because if he wants to gamble big, that is his own business. But if you are going to gamble, it would be nice if you funded a means that he could at least stay occupied.

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>2. Is he "ON" the whole time we are there - or should I give

>him some down time, or at least offer it?

 

You should keep it informal, but YES, you will both need down time. I usually just say... if you ever need to do something on your own, let me know so that we can get you there. That way, they have the opening to let you know if they need a break. By the way, that is the great thing about cities like Vegas (and Montreal). There is so much to do there, that it is natural that you will spend time away from each other during the course of the trip. Keeps the relationship fresh and positive.

 

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>3. As far as sex goes - should I initiate it whenever I want

>it? I certainly don't want to treat him as a sex toy - but

>that is one of the reasons I asked him to go with me.

 

Yes and no. Obviously you are hiring him so that you can have fun in bed, and that can certainly be more than once per day. Just remember that he is a human being, and you just have to read his body language and make sure he is up for it as well. I like to start with some playful kissing, and if it turns passionate... you know the time is right!

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>4. What if I want some down time away from him - how do I

>approach this?

 

Just say so. Tell him you need to run some errands, or gamble, or whatever... and that you will be gone for X hours and will meet him at such and such a place at this time. That will give him some time to himself as well.

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>5. What about payment? Should I pay him daily for his fee so

>he has money if he wants to go and do something on his own? He

>suggested half up front and half at the end - but it was not

>etched in stone.

 

I pay at the end. But I also give my travel dates spending money on a daily basis... not a lot, but enough for him to never feel poor.

 

Have a great time, Jon. Escort travel dates are my favorite type, and Vegas is a great city to do it!

[theDCeBOY]

hmm... i'll be there at the same time...

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

An Escort Perspective

 

I think Marc Anthony gave great advice, I would simply add some other thoughts:

 

Many of your questions can AND should be discussed with the escort in advance. If he gave you a good deal, it is likely that he has a sense of what you will want to expect from him based on your prior experience(s). However, if you anticipate a significant amount of sex more than he might expect, it would be better for BOTH of you if you brought this topic up in advance. You have nothing to lose in doing this and you will help clarify this and other matters. Another thing to discuss is down time - for both of you. He may want to work out while you gamble, that is what I did in Vegas on an extended weekend with a client, since I do not gamble.

 

However, this client did offer me a small amount (apart from my rate) of 'spending money' so that I would have money to gamble or 'whatever' as my client put it. I told him I did not gamble and rather than give me that money, he could simply cover my cab fare and day rate charge at the gym (about $75 less than he offered me). My client paid for everything else except for my cab fare from the airport (we flew in from different cities on different flghts) and a copy of the Sunday New York Times.

 

If your escort DOES gamble and you might enjoy his company during such gambling, find out. Then give him an amount to spend and make it clear that this is a set amount. As for your specific comment about your escort winning big, I think you will simply need to get over that needless concern or ask him not to gamble while he is with you.

 

Finally, as to the fee requested, if he suggested half up front, I would do so; if you have some valid reasons for believing he will somehow cheat you, you should discuss these concerns AS WELL in advance. Otherwise, you need to clarify what agreement you have made. You may have felt this was not "etched in stone" while your escort may have felt that his "suggestion" was a polite way of stating his requirements.

 

Good luck.

[Guest ncm2169]

RE: My first time traveling with an escort...need advic...

 

< Am I required to give him money for gambling? I don't think he gambles much, but if we end up in the casino should I give him some money? My concern is if he won big I would be really pissed >

 

Why not tell him that you'll give him money to gamble, but if he wins anything over $X, you split it 50-50? :o

[Guest]

Here's my two cents:

 

>1. Am I required to give him money for gambling? I don't think

>he gambles much, but if we end up in the casino should I give

>him some money? My concern is if he won big I would be really

>pissed.

>

It's good that he's not a gambler. If you're going to be apart from him (by your choice) for a good deal of time, and there isn't really a good entertainment alternative for him, I think it would be a nice gesture to give him some gambling money (enough to keep him occupied at the nickel slots). For God's sake, in the unlikely event that he wins, let him keep the money. It's not fair to say "If you lose, too bad. If you win, it's MY money!"

 

>2. Is he "ON" the whole time we are there - or should I give

>him some down time, or at least offer it?

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I think that depends on how much you're paying him. If you're paying him anywhere near what most escorts post in their websites as their "daily rate," then I think his personal time should be rather limited. If he's giving you a deeply discounted rate, then I think you only have the right to dinner and night-time nookie (and maybe a show).

 

>3. As far as sex goes - should I initiate it whenever I want

>it? I certainly don't want to treat him as a sex toy - but

>that is one of the reasons I asked him to go with me.

 

Same answer as above.

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>4. What if I want some down time away from him - how do I

>approach this?

 

You're paying him. It shouldn't be an issue. But if you want to be away from him for a considerable amount of time, you should make sure he has something to do that's enjoyable (especially if you're paying him a discounted rate--if you're paying him >300 a day, he has enough to entertain himself with).

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>5. What about payment? Should I pay him daily for his fee so

>he has money if he wants to go and do something on his own? He

>suggested half up front and half at the end - but it was not

>etched in stone.

 

I would not pay ANYTHING in advance, except what he needs to join you (i.e. if he needs to buy certain clothing, such as a Tux I once bought for an escort I took on a cruise). The fact that you bought his non-refundable plane tickets is sufficient to demonstrate your seriousness. There have been MANY stories documented here about escorts that bailed on their clients, even in the middle of a trip! In fact, there's a recent one on the escort forum in which the client had previously hired this particular escort 19 times!! The client simply arrived to find out the escort hadn't taken the plane, and the escort never even called him to advise him of the situation (nor did he respond to his client's attempts to find out what was going on).

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[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Just To Clarify. . . .

 

>>5. What about payment? Should I pay him daily for his fee so

>>he has money if he wants to go and do something on his own?

>He

>>suggested half up front and half at the end - but it was not

>>etched in stone.

>

>I would not pay ANYTHING in advance, except what he needs to

>join you (i.e. if he needs to buy certain clothing, such as a

>Tux I once bought for an escort I took on a cruise). The fact

>that you bought his non-refundable plane tickets is sufficient

>to demonstrate your seriousness.

 

Your question very clearly asked: "should I pay him daily for his fee . . . which I, and I believe most of the other posters, took to mean once you were both in Las Vegas, at the start of each day there over your trip. As I stated in my response, I think you should discuss this with the escort and come to a mutually acceptable agreement, which could be perhaps half of his daily rate at the start of each day, but I do not believe it is unreasonable for him (or any other escort) to ask for some of his fee once he arrives. I never have done this but then again, I also travel with sufficient funds and have sufficient credit available to me that I do not forsee any reason to do so otherwise.

 

Again, I have always made it clear to ALL of my clients, when asked, whether it is my first or tenth meeting with them, that my fee is not expected until the end, but I have requested deposits from two clients I had not met to hold lengthy hour session appointments for them. This reflects my own practice AND preference but the escort you have chosen to travel with may have different feelings and this would be best resolved by speaking with him, trusting your instincts about him (good and bad) and proceeding in a mutually acceptable manner.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

RE: My first time traveling with an escort...need advic...

 

Valid concerns... Very happy with the advice given so far, but here's for throwing my opinions into the wind~

 

1. Am I required to give him money for gambling?

 

Of course not. Honestly, you aren't required to do anything but give eachother mutual respect & have a great time in Sin City If gambling is something he is truly hot on, then let him spend his own money and take his chances like everyone else at the tables. Now, if you'd like to provide some initial spending cash just out of sheer kindness, then wonderful. It should never be expected or requested.

 

2. Is he "ON" the whole time...

 

I suppose it depends on what you mean by 'on.' I can easily spend 24-7 with one of my guys, as my daily personality at home is truly no different than when i'm traveling with someone. It's just easier to be honest with someone, even if that means learning to compromise a little to suit eachother's personalities. Giving an escort some alone time is something you two should talk about. Everyday, i need gymtime and a little time at the end of each evening to check my email. I'm perfectly fine with someone working out with me (... always nice to have a spotter) or surfing the web next to me. I suppose it's just personal opinion and how your guy feels overall.

 

 

3. As far as sex goes - should I initiate it whenever I want it?

 

I say initiate it. Some escorts aren't crazed sex-mongers & give off lukewarm signals at times. It's best to let him know when you'd like to get frisky so there's no doubt or issue. Hopefully he's the type who really throws himself between the sheets so you won't need to feel odd about getting things going... Hell, looking foward to a blowjob is worth the plane ride alone *evil grin*

 

 

4. What if I want some down time away from him - how do I approach this?

 

Simply let him know. Be honest. I would say that 90% of escort-client problems could be solved through better communication and honesty is a HUGE issue. If you're going to hang out together and do more than just sit in a hotel room & screw like bunnies, then you're going to need to build a friendship. Start with honesty & trust. Be upfront, even if it seems a little odd. It saves a lot of hassle in the longrun...

 

 

5. What about payment...

 

A plane ticket should be enough with most escorts for travel within the USA. I see a ticket as a bond of trust, so asking for deposit or half up-front is unnecessary. Again, discuss this with him and figure out what would work best for the both of you. If you're uncomfortable with paying up-front, then simply take care of things at the end of the trip. Nothing to worry about

 

 

 

Aside from your questions (which were great BTW), have a safe trip into Vegas and enjoy the over-the-top glitz it offers. If you need any additional info on shows, resturaunts, hot nightlife or picks & pans, email me. I'd be glad to shoot you some info.

 

(This message has been brought to you by the Las Vegas Comission of Tourisim and Escorts) *grin*

 

 

Warmest Always,

 

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

[VaHawk]

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Oh, sh*t, I guess everyone will accuse me of cheerleading, but I don't care! This is why you are the best out there Benjamin!

[theDCeBOY]

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THAT isn't what we'll accuse you of...

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[VaHawk]

RE: My first time traveling with an escort...need advic...

 

Well, THANK YOU, as most people accuse me of just this! Are you saying I should be accused of something else?

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

RE: My first time traveling with an escort...need advic...

 

Thanks Hawkster You're my compadre...

 

Honestly, who really gives an apeshit if you verbally/morally support an escort? It suddenly seems so passe around here to actually speak positively about working boys.

 

Granted, there are some hustlers out there, but i'm more than certain that HB doesn't put this free site together just so people can browbeat escorts while calling them 'whores.' MC posters waste his bandwidth & his money when they post something totally asinine and hateful...

 

Basically, why not just lighten up a little? You're going to give yourselves a corinary if you're not careful

 

 

Warmest Always,

 

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

[theDCeBOY]

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is a "corinary" bad?

[theDCeBOY]

RE: My first time traveling with an escort...need advic...

 

>Are you saying I should be accused of something else?

you should be accused of MANY things... but, politics aside, none of them are bad things.