How to pay for social evenings?

[Daverwr]

If you're going out for a social evening only with an escort - dinner, theatre - when and how do you pay the gentleman? There isn't exactly a dresser or nightstand around.

[BSR]

You could hand him the cash, ask him to count it, then shake hands goodbye.

[adriano46]

On such occasions, I usually have the money in a small envelope (sometimes with a card), which I give to him at some point in the evening. If it is a guy I know and have been with previously, usually at the end of the evening. Generally when it is the first time with a guy, I hand over the envelope discreetly at the beginning. I have never had a guy open and count it in front of me (if one were to do that, I would assume it was a bad choice on my part on the "right" escort). One last thing - when it is a first time, I tell the guy before we even meet, "I'll give you the fee up front when we meet," and the others know from past experience that it will be given over at the end. Communication ahead of time saves guessing.

[bigvalboy]

Social evenings or hires that encompass multiple hours are done only with escorts that I have had experiences with before or come highly recommended from 'personal' friends. Money is never expected up front so at the end of the evening, I pull the amount due from my pocket, never in an envelope (my personal choice), I drop my hands down to below my waist, turn slightly and count it so that they can see. I do this so that the counting and exchange of money is more personal. Although I have precounted it a couple of times to make sure the amount is correct, I count it again in front of them just so they can see immediately that all the money due, is there. On a recent all day hire, I trusted the escort so much that I offered the money up front. This is NOT recommended ever, but in this special circumstance I wanted to let him know that I trusted him explicitly. He refused the money and told me that it was absolutely not necessary....and we were off to great day.

[Daverwr]

Thanks adriano and BVB, that's the info I was looking to receive, although slightly differing. I appreciate your insight greatly! I just don't want to embarrass both of us or cause a spectacle at the venue.

[SteveEscort]

I have a very private arrangement with a gentleman and we do just that. He books me for extended period of time. He always hands me my fee, never in my hand, it's always left somewhere for me to see it, but I always ask him to leave it in the hotel safe until I am due to depart the next day or day after. I NEVER count it in front of him and my payment is left totally to his discretion. He's never ripped me off or seen me short. It's treated more as a treat and a way of him looking after me a little

[MrMiniver]

I always have the money in a sealed envelope. It makes it feel more discreet and less like a business transaction. In my experience, the best escorts are the ones who quietly put it in their pocket or bag. Invariably, if I've had a not so great experience, the guy rips open the envelope in my presence. I think it's really tacky.