GAY MARRIAGE--all that important??

[woodlawn]

>>What happens if and when the obstacles disappear?

 

>They wouldn't have anything left to whine about? They

>wouldn't have anything else to blame their individual failings

>on? They'll all be good little "str8" acting boys and girls

>with their homes in the 'burbs and 2 children one of each

>gender? They'll all end up boring the living shit out of each

>other? They'll make a movie of it called the "Stepford Fags"?

 

That isn't quite what I meant when I started (apparently) this subthread. I certainly don't support the view that there is something wrong with gay men who want to marry and I didn't intend to provoke yet another long list of rationalizations from those who think it's somehow more fulfilling to hire a lot of hookers.

 

What I meant was that when two gay men who are considering a relationship talk about their goals now, each can say he wants a long term relationship but each can mean something quite different by that statement. To some gay men a long term relationship is one that lasts as long as a magazine subscription.

 

If one tells another that his goal is to get married, however, that's a different story. There's nothing ambiguous about marriage. If one man tells the other his goal is marriage and the other says he doesn't want marriage, that would seem to be the end of that. If one says he wants marriage eventually and the other agrees and they begin a relationship, on the other hand, the time has to come when one of them asks whether they're going to marry and if so when. Then what?

 

This is an issue that almost all straight couples have to deal with. Gay men haven't had to deal with it. Yet.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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>>Is this a

>>case of "be careful what you wish for"?

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>Well, my thoughts exactly! If gays want all the legal rights

>that come with gay marriage, then they better not start

>complaining about all the legal responsibilities that come

>with it also. Be prepared for divorce proceedings, alimony,

>child support, etc.

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>If gay marriage becomes legal, does it mean that a long time

>gay couple are now considered common law husband/wife (even if

>they don't choose to be married under the new law?).

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>I personally don't see any reason for gays to want to take on

>the extra burdens and see it mostly as Flower said wanting

>some label just because others are saddled with it. Sounds a

>little like the proverbial "killing the goose that lays the

>golden eggs" to me. So many companies/state governments offer

>full domestic partnership rights to gay couples in regards to

>health/life insurance/annuity and bereavement benefits. So

>many states allow gay adoption if a couple wants to have

>children. I really don't see any advantages to acquiring the

>"label" just disadvantages.

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>I'm not an attorney, but surely one can designate his/her

>partner with the power of attorney to manage his/her affairs?

>As far as inheritence of property, etc. can't such things be

>handled via joint accounts/joint ownership and gifts?

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