bj etiquette

[Guest verymarried]

This is a bj etiquette question. Dear Abby, When you give a bj, are u supposed to shave all stubble from above your upper lip? Partner complained about dick being irritated by stubble. Or maybe I just do it wrong...

[adriano46]

This is a bj etiquette question. Dear Abby, When you give a bj, are u supposed to shave all stubble from above your upper lip? Partner complained about dick being irritated by stubble. Or maybe I just do it wrong...

 

On another thread we discussed the stubble question. Personally -- I like the feel of whiskers when getting a bj or being rimmed... it makes it even more exciting, but that's me. However some men have steel-like or brillo-like stubble that can be abrasive and leaves marks. Remember you are working on "very sensitive" areas of the body!!! I once spent 3 hours in a sauna in Amsterdam with one single guy - he was shaved from head to toe except for the stubble and had covered his body with baby oil. I came out looking like I had a rash caused by his very voracious mouth and stubble covering every inch of my body during those three hot hours; was forced to cover myself in skin creams for 2 days to get it under control.

[Guy Fawkes]

ahhhh.... But would you have gone back on the 3rd day?

 

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On another thread we discussed the stubble question. Personally -- I like the feel of whiskers when getting a bj or being rimmed... it makes it even more exciting, but that's me. However some men have steel-like or brillo-like stubble that can be abrasive and leaves marks. Remember you are working on "very sensitive" areas of the body!!! I once spent 3 hours in a sauna in Amsterdam with one single guy - he was shaved from head to toe except for the stubble and had covered his body with baby oil. I came out looking like I had a rash caused by his very voracious mouth and stubble covering every inch of my body during those three hot hours; was forced to cover myself in skin creams for 2 days to get it under control.

[Nvr2Thick]

This is a bj etiquette question. Dear Abby, When you give a bj, are u supposed to shave all stubble from above your upper lip? Partner complained about dick being irritated by stubble. Or maybe I just do it wrong...

 

If you're rolling your lips into your mouth to cover your teeth you may be exposing his dick to the stubble far more than you think you are. After years of using that technique I started sucking a guy who could not stand the sensation of feeling my teeth under the skin of my lips. With him I learned to focus on using only lips, mouth, tongue on his dick. My face and lip muscles got stronger to the point of being able to hold my teeth away from his fat dick by keeping my jaw open while maintaining pressure with my lips. Before that I was using my jaw (and teeth) to provide tightness and pressure, and sealing with my lips over my teeth. He, and subsequent recipients were much happier and I noticed far less wear and tear on my inner lips. The abuse to my upper lip was often on the reverse side of the stubble you mention, so guys must have been feeling any stubble I have. I do, however, have softer facial hair.

 

You're only doing it wrong if he doesn't like it.

[whipped guy]

One escort started giggling, chuckling, and squirming like a little child... and this in the middle of an S&M session... because my facial hair was tickling him down there... He kept exclaiming, "Oh! It tickles! It tickles!" Well, it did give both of us a good laugh... even if it was a mood breaker of sorts and not quite in sync with the activities in progress...

 

So the opposite end of the spectrum... to be filed under "tickle torture"!

[adriano46]

ahhhh.... But would you have gone back on the 3rd day?

 

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Hee Hee - I actually DID go back but he was no where to be found. This was one of those chance encounters after work hours (5:00 p.m.) when I was wandering the corridors where the private rooms are set up, and noticed his door was wide open and he was completely covered head to toe in oil; the ONLY hair on him was his 5 o'clock shadow which was not so apparent as he was blond, and there was hardly any light - maybe one blue florescent one - in the place. It was one of the hottest encounters ever - this guy had an insatiable mouth and tongue (geez three or four times needed to take a beak and RUN to a water fountain down the hall - hoping no one would jump in there and take my place). When we finally ended the session a little after 8:00 p.m. I went to shower and noticed in the mirror how RED and bruised my skin was, especially around pecs, underarms, groin and inner thighs. But it was a nice bruising that - despite the next few days with skin creams - reminded me of how hot it was being with a guy who was totally shaven (except... that stubble)... and lathered in oil. Those were the good 'ole days of saunas in Europe.

 

BTW - recently had an encounter with two guys with nicely cropped beards, Michael Bender and Steven Ponce (and others - review is in the line), and their beards all over my skin were heavenly, and left absolutely no marks....

[+ Axiom2001]

This is a bj etiquette question. Dear Abby, When you give a bj, are u supposed to shave all stubble from above your upper lip? Partner complained about dick being irritated by stubble. Or maybe I just do it wrong...

 

I've never noticed this when I'm getting a blowjob; I have a mustache, and NO man has ever complained about it while I'm "servicing" his "blessing!" - -

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[JT Brooklyn]

If you're rolling your lips into your mouth to cover your teeth you may be exposing his dick to the stubble far more than you think you are. After years of using that technique I started sucking a guy who could not stand the sensation of feeling my teeth under the skin of my lips. With him I learned to focus on using only lips, mouth, tongue on his dick. My face and lip muscles got stronger to the point of being able to hold my teeth away from his fat dick by keeping my jaw open while maintaining pressure with my lips. Before that I was using my jaw (and teeth) to provide tightness and pressure, and sealing with my lips over my teeth. He, and subsequent recipients were much happier and I noticed far less wear and tear on my inner lips. The abuse to my upper lip was often on the reverse side of the stubble you mention, so guys must have been feeling any stubble I have. I do, however, have softer facial hair.

 

You're only doing it wrong if he doesn't like it.

 

Now you definitely have made a "Blow Job an Art Form"! I like the part about less wear and tear on the inner lips!

[Juan Vancouver]

This is a bj etiquette question. Dear Abby, When you give a bj, are u supposed to shave all stubble from above your upper lip? Partner complained about dick being irritated by stubble. Or maybe I just do it wrong...

 

I wrote a really long response to this question before the system upgrade so it is now lost. Maybe God it trying to kindly suggest that I acquaint myself with brevity. I take all responsibility for the crash. Blame no one but myself.

 

Here's the short version:

 

If your partner complained about your beard being abrasive, please shave. Every time. Carefully.

 

Some beards are soft and silky, some others are like brillo pad wire. Especially when there is only a couple lonely hairs that missed the shave. Sometimes a two hour beard feels like the most painful sandpaper. Imagine asking a man to trust you with his most cherished parts while you bring them close to needles or sandpaper. Only the most advanced S/M players will let you.

 

I am assuming you don't want to hurt your partner, and you don't want him to be tentative and worried whenever your face comes close to his soft areas. If I am correct, then I suggest to carefully shave one hour before every sexual tryst. Pay close attention to the corners of your mouth, the ridge under your lower lip, and especially the philtrum or infranasal depression, which is the little cavity atop your upper lip, right under your nose. Check gently with your fingers to make sure that no pokey lonely hairs were left, and moisturize.

 

Educate yourself about the proper oral technique using your lips and tongue, so that your beard areas never come in contact with his penis... and never... I will repeat this for all to read, NEVER rub his penis frantically all over your face. We have all seen frenzied ladies doing that in porn and we are used to believe that this is how people express their love for cock. Problem is that ladies -for the most part- don't have thick, painful beards. You would be surprised how many men aggressively rub penises on their faces and then are shocked when you recoil in pain.

 

Never do that.

 

If a dick is to be rubbed all over your face, let your man do it for you. It' very sensual and enjoyable and he will be sure to do it in a safe way.

 

You don't want to be remembered as "That guy who rubbed my dick raw and took me out of commission for a week." If your lover is an escort, you could potentially cost him A LOT of money. It's his dick, it's his livelihood. If he asked you to shave, either shave or be at peace with not sucking it.

 

But why would anyone not want to suck it?

 

So much for a short version. =)

[SeanXavier]

Stubble Stumping Blow Jobs Part 1

 

A man that gives a good blow job quickly finds himself back in my bed again, and again. Particularly furry men, because I do enjoy a guy with a bit of hair on the body and the face. That's why, I thought I'd chime in on this thread (with pictures! Provided that the site moderators find that my "soft-R" photos don't break any rules; otherwise, links to the examples are tagged with each heading ).

 

Wet Your Lips:

Before you unzip a man's pants to reach inside and grab that throbbing piece of man meat, start by moistening your lips. Think of it as "lip-lube": A masturbation agent for your mouth. If you're extra prepared, and this isn't a spur of the moment, corner Starbucks, Grindr hookup - spend the morning (and the days before) applying a smooth layer of lip balm (I hear they even make it Bacon Flavored, now)

 

Lead With Your Tongue:

Not all of us are blessed with silky-smooth, soft and playful facial hair. In fact, more often than not, in my experience, guys open their mouths and engulf my cock with diamond-bit sandpaper hair! If you don't want to be politely told to "take it out of your mouth" (or worse, slapped on the side of the head) Lead With Your Tongue! Lick from the balls to the crown, keeping a nose distance from the shaft. This "light-touch" builds the tension, before your warm, moist, mouth swallows the shaft.

 

Soak It:

If you're sucking a big dick...when you're sucking MY dick, you don't want to get choked up before your face is buried in my pubes. No, you want your lips to glide along every vein, feel every ridge, and smoothly reach the end of the shaft in one swallow. Soak that cock, slobber all over it, lick every inch of it, get it wet. Again, that light touch of your tongue sliding along your man's member, coupled with your runny, warm, spit, will only build the anticipation.

 

Warning: In all of this dick slobbering, tongue soaking action, it's easy to get carried away, and commit THE CARDINAL SIN OF STUBBLE BLOW JOBS:

 

See Part II In the next Post; and/or setup a private training session with me for lessons - happy to help :-):

 

Sean Xavier

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[SeanXavier]

Stubble Stumping Blow Jobs Part 2

 

Part II

 

 

No Face Rubbing:

If anyone has every complained of your facial hair "peeling off their penile epidermis"; or, if your genital licking causes grimacing, squirming, or non-ecstatic screams of ecstasy; do yourself a favor and drive to the Home Depot, buy a single sheet of 200 grit sandpaper, and there, in the store, do a single test-rub on your own Johnson. Then you will feel the utter pain and agony that we blow job receivers experience coupled with the same "it's too embarrassing to bring to someone else's attention how much this absolutely sucks right now" anxiety while a receiving a prickly blow job. Again, in short, no face rubbing.

 

If you want to feel the warm weight of your lover's tool sliding across your face, firmly grab his hand, place it on his equipment, and then rest it on your cheek. That should be clue enough for HIM to guide the action.

 

Lead With Your Tongue...Again:

 

The first sensation of mouth wrapped around cock can be electrifying or electrocuting - execute it well. This is especially true for you porcupine-bearded men (you know who you are); the underside of a man's crown is one of the most sensitive areas on his whole body, welcome it with the soft pillow of your tongue, and not the cold bristles of your stubble. Open wide...really wide, extend the tongue, and let the dick rest in its moist basin. Then, and only then do you have permission to close your mouth around the head, before sliding down the shaft.

**Pro-Tip Bonus** Now, with your tongue positioned under the length of his cock, experiment with some oral gymnastics - wiggle, gyrate, undulate, and write your name with that tongue - the ever observant cock-sucker will feel if his efforts are rewarded with blood-rushing throbs of enjoyment.

 

Don't Force It

This last tip applies to the stubbled and clean-shaven. Only go as far as is reasonably comfortable for your mouth and throat. The deeper you go, the greater your risk of teething on your partner's Love Maker. Secondly, the deeper you go, the more the gag-inclined swallower risks spilling that mid-morning mimosa all over the immediate sausage in your mouth (ewww). Again, signal your lover, by placing his hands around your head, and letting him guide you. Then, it's his fault if your razor sharp chomps clinch across his shaft, while he thrusts your face forward into his crotch.

 

Make Love, Not Abrasions, guys.

 

For personal training sessions, feel free to contact me by phone or email; I'd be happy to help you through this process

 

With Love,

 

Sean Xavier

407-900-9589

[email protected]

[adriano46]

Hot damn Sean you are amazing. I spent a few hours recently trying to work over the endowment of Karsin Knightly and how I wish I had your advice then-- but I have to admit (blush) I think I did a decent job trying to get down to the pubes on his member -- which is a gymnastic feat that probably matches trying to do the same for you. Now that I have been able to do it to his 9 inches -- have to see if I have what it takes to keep someone like YOU happy -- with that major 1" extra.

[SeanXavier]

Adriano,

 

Impressive. You certainly set the bar high (or should I say "long"), if you're working over meat poles like Knightly's to the base. Do they sell anything comparable to a shoehorn for your throat? I wouldn't want it to tighten back up, before I have you lolly-pop licking mine. :-D. We'll have to connect, when schedules and locations align. Send me a text/email sometime today, and I'll send you a freshly taken photo of me nice and hard for a size-to-throat comparison.

 

Sean Xavier

407-900-9589

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