"Finding Self-Worth When You Don't LIke Yourself"

[bcohen7719]

Interesting article....?

 

BC

 

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/michael-rohrer/how-do-you-find-self-worth-when-you-dont-like-yourself_b_3658485.html

[bigvalboy]

Interesting article....?

 

BC

 

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/michael-rohrer/how-do-you-find-self-worth-when-you-dont-like-yourself_b_3658485.html

 

Interesting indeed BC. I think that there are many members here who have come to this forum with the same concerns, fears, desires, and desperately wanting to be loved. Wanting to be attractive to other men, and wondering where it all fell apart. As the article points out, they are not suicidal, it is just that they don't like themselves very much. I went through a few decades feeling like that. I will spare all the self absorbed details, but I did find, that quite suddenly a few years back, I just found myself. I am now comfortable in my own skin, and happy with who and what I have become. I think when I started to like myself, others did to. I have more friends, better sex, and find that I am happy more than sad.

 

I still want to find love of course, but I'm perfectly OK if I don't....Great article BC, and an interesting read for many out there feeling many of the same emotions as the author. I was reminded of a saying, "What you think of me is none of my business"

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

BC - thanks for posting the article. I found myself in much of the writer's comments. I think it is especially true of many of us who stayed/remain in the closet too long.

 

Interesting indeed BC. I think that there are many members here who have come to this forum with the same concerns, fears, desires, and desperately wanting to be loved.

 

BVB - I agree. The need to be accepted contributes to my decisions of when to hire escorts.

[Diverdan]

Thanks for posting the article. I think it reflects the feelings of many gay men at various stages in their lives. The article was well written and is certainly on point. One has to be very comfortable in one's own skin in order to be attractive to others, and I don't mean primarily on the physical level. Sure it would be nice to have the same body at 50 and 60 that we had at age 20. I'd like to have the same mental abilities now that I had at 20-25 too, but with age and experience we have other attributes to offer our friends and colleagues that we simply did not have at 20 or 30. So enjoy who and what you are and make yourself available to be a friend to someone else. The old adage, nothing ventured, nothing gained is so true here, and living with disappointments of all kinds helps us sharpen other skills that we need to navigate this exciting and challenging time we call "aging" no matter at what physical age we make that discovery.