Dating an Escort

[actor61]

I ended up dating 2 escorts that I first starting seeing as a client. One relationship became a great friendship that has lasted, the other ended disastrously. I'd be interested to hear if anyone else has become friends and/or lovers with an escort after first meeting him professionally. And incidentally in both cases, the escorts asked me out. I never suggested that we see each other outside of the professional situation, so I was surprised and flattered when they did. And once we were dating, I always waited for them to initiate sex; it just seemed to make more sense that way.

[Greathands]

This post made me laugh out loud thinking about the past, though I never dated an escort.

 

I once responded to an ad in the local gay paper (remember those days?) and went to his place. When the guy opened the door, my heart sank because he really wasn't my type. I was somewhat young and naive back then and didn't want to hurt his feelings, so we went ahead with the appointment anyway.

 

By the end of the hour, we decided that we'd be better friends than escort/client ... and we've been friends since.

[LookingAround]

Never dated an escort but I've been in a multi-year relationship with my massage therapist. :-)

[JoeyBryant]

And once we were dating, I always waited for them to initiate sex; it just seemed to make more sense that way.

 

As desperate as I seem to want to date, I'm not terribly eager or fond on dating clients...simply because I know why many hire and that generally isn't inline with the fundamentals of starting a relationship.

 

But...not to say I haven't ever dated a client or 2. Or 3. Come to think of it maybe it was 4. Awhile back that is. But they weren't technically "clients", but more like guys who 'paid'. There's a difference, get into that another time. However, the reason why I quoted your post is because I just think even though you guys met in a professional manner, is not reason to not initiate anything in a relationship. I used to date someone who never initiated anything from a phone call or text to sex or anything. It made me feel alot of doubts, I don't know if that was part of his game or what. But he told me he felt it would be inappropriate to initiate things due to my younger age and how we met.

 

There's no harm in a little balance, give and take...

[actor61]

What I meant when I said I didn't initiate sex was that I felt that if he started the ball rolling, I knew he wanted it for fun and not as business. For some reason, I felt that if I made it clear that I wanted sex it would seem like business instead of fun. The dynamics were very confusing sometimes. But that was the only area in which I let him have complete control. I called, texted, emailed whenever I felt like it. No matter what, we always talked to each other on Saturday mornings, each with a cup of coffee, and if he was out of town, he called me almost daily. I really liked this guy and accepted what he was doing for a living but one day, he called and said it was over and never spoke to me again. I honestly have no idea why. We didn't have a fight, and there was no indication that things were going bad. It has been about 5 years, and I'm still kind of hurt and baffled by it.

[JoeyBryant]

I really liked this guy and accepted what he was doing for a living but one day, he called and said it was over and never spoke to me again. I honestly have no idea why. We didn't have a fight, and there was no indication that things were going bad. It has been about 5 years, and I'm still kind of hurt and baffled by it.

 

well most escorts i've met with the exception of the ones from this forum tend to behave in less than savory ways. It's the nature of the beast. They might turn on you at the drop of a fucking dime. Best to go with guys who have a significant amount of integrity in their bones.

 

Otherwise, that happens sometimes even if the guy wasn't an escort. Who knows. Just say next, x him and ex him. It's not worth it. Don't be baffled from this day forward. He wasn't meant to be.

[uwsman2]

I ended up becoming friends with someone I first met when I responded to his escort ad - after a few professional appointments, our common interests in other things led it to drift into friendship and away from sexual appointments, and we had some interesting times together before he went back to Europe after several years in the US. Since then, I've visited him once in Europe, and hope to do so again.