If a guy is gay, does he have sex with girls?

[Guest iloveboys69]

I'm an above average looking girl. I met a hot guy who dances at the Gaiety in NY a year ago. I found out that he caters to gay men and has been in numerous gay porn so I began to doubt his sexuality. I stopped talking to him for 6 months but we started seeing eachother again. I didn't think I'd be attracted to him anymore especially after all the unsettled drama we both went through but when I saw him again, my jaws dropped and boy was I excited. The sex is great and I feel so attracted to him whenever he is around, but we've never discussed about how we felt about eachother. I'm scared to bring it up for fear of rejection, especially knowing what he does for a living!

 

I haven't talked to him for over a month and I'm trying to figure out if he is gay or not!

 

Any input? If a guy is gay, does he have sex with girls?

[Guest Merlin]

A straight man is one who is sexually attracted to women. Gays are sexually attracted to men. Some men are bisexual, that is, attracted to both men and women. Some straight men engage in gay sex for pay while strongly prefering sex with women, and without even being attracted to men. Sex is somewhat different for women and men, in that women tend to be more emotionally involved, while men can engage in casual, mechanical sex without having feelings at all for the other person. In my opinion, the fact that the sex with your friend is great, as you say, indicates that he is very attracted to you, that he is straight and not gay. If he were gay or bisexual, the sex with you would, I think, be less intense. I don't know any other test but when you are out with him on a date, try to notice who he looks at. Does he look at the attractive women? More importantly, does he seem interested in the attractive men?

[Guest master12361]

Hi Well I know a few dancers at the gaithy and most are straight or Bi and the one guy that I know and took care of was Bi and seen girls only when he wanted to but was mostly gay. i think if he is straight he may not be doing nothing sexuarl becouse gaithy dancers are known for no sex but just posing or company. talk with him.

[Boston Guy]

I think your reply is very thoughtful and quite on point.

 

BG

[taylorky]

>Hi Well I know a few dancers at the gaithy and most are

>straight or Bi and the one guy that I know and took care of

>was Bi and seen girls only when he wanted to but was mostly

>gay. i think if he is straight he may not be doing nothing

>sexuarl becouse gaithy dancers are known for no sex but just

>posing or company. talk with him.

 

 

no offense intended,just an observation. i know this guy that talks with a bit of a lisp.........(he's not gay} anyway your post reminded me of him;)

[Flower]

>no offense intended,just an observation. i know this guy that

>talks with a bit of a lisp.........(he's not gay} anyway your

>post reminded me of him;)

 

Why? Doesn't he have a spell checker either? I enjoy most of your posts, but some things are best left unsaid. I would like to think I misunderstood your post, but I found it offensive.

[Flower]

>I haven't talked to him for over a month and I'm trying to

>figure out if he is gay or not!

>

>Any input? If a guy is gay, does he have sex with girls?

 

I'll tell you the same thing I told my daughter -- be very careful--the fact that you even suspect is a red flag. YOU NEED TO TALK WITH HIM and confront him with your concerns if you intend to have a LTR with him. Even if he denies it, don't be too sure.

 

I've had a LOT of sex with women and not once did I fantasies about the moment or other woman--always hot men. I spent many years in denial first to myself then hiding from the rest of the world -- not a good way to live for me or my wife. Trust me, there are a LOT of wives that wish they had asked the right questions or read the answers that were given correctly. It's not always easy for a guy to admit he's gay, even today, and those of use who were cowards hurt people along the way--sad but true. So take it slow and be very careful--and if still not absolutely sure, then walk away--you'll be happier in the long run.

[Guest iloveboys69]

Thanks for all your insight, especially Merlin, I think you got it right on!

 

I've come to a conclusion that he's more likely bisexual, which I have no problems with since I am the same way. It's difficult to have a LTR with an escort which is why I've kept my distance (not a fan of 'sharing'). I'm in that stage of limerence and infactuation so he's on my mind 24/7.

 

I'll let fate decide!

 

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[Bilbo]

I agree with practically everything Merlin says here, but I really don't see why he thinks that bisexuals would have "less intense" sex with women than heteros would? If a man knows how to live with passion, he does nearly everything with passion, IMHO. Certainly having sex with someone who excites him. Maybe not when he's like peeling potatoes. Of course, some foodies do that with passion, so there I am showing my prejudices. I just like to eat the stuff.