Married Men and Escorts

[Argos]

I am a married man and for the last year and a half have frequented escorts and sensual masseurs. I have always wondered what percentage of an escort's business is comprised of clients who are married men? Do these clients ever discuss whether they feel guilty about the encounter? If so, do they discuss how they deal with the guilt? Escorts does it ever bother you that you are hooking up with a married man?

 

I have a healthy sex life with my wife and have no complaints about the frequency of intimacy or the acts that we enjoy. However, there is just something about being with a man that my wife cannot replace. (The thought of her having a masculine body or hairy chest is a total turnoff. The fact she is beautiful, soft and sensual is a total turnon.) I would be interested in hearing some different perspectives on this issue.

[+ glutes]

Argos, why don't you post this under "Ask a Escort" column???

[Argos]

Good question, Glutes. I was actually seeking imput from both the escort and the client and I thought this forum would be more appropriate.

[TightBodyTouch]

Excellent question Argos, and something I have frequently wondered about too. Since I can only share my own experiences I hope to see other's posts here too.

 

Many of my clients who are married share a few common justifications behind their choice to hire men. For some, they made their vows in a time when there was no other choice. Now that their lives' have progressed and they have more time for themselves I think they consider man on man action a "right of passage", finally provided the opportunity to explore that other half of their sexuality. Clients like these have never admitted to any guilt. Rather, they feel that they are finally grabbing the chance to play.

 

There are times when married guys have told me about their sex lives at home and how they may or may not have changed within their marriage. Those who have active and comfortable sex at home claim that gay sex is so different for them from their marital love that they hardly consider it a threat to their marriage and feel no reason for regret. Those who no longer have intercourse with their partners admit that they prefer men and so finding male escorts is their only outlet for personal and intimate contact. Some men have even admitted to knowledge of their wife's own indescretions and so I guess the score is even among them.

 

I have a couple of clients whose spouses actually know that their husbands go away to see me, they don't have any idea about the specifics but they have the general idea and evidently they have their own understanding to keep their marriage intact.

 

To date, only one client has expressed incredible misery inside his marriage. He doesn't have any real desire for his wife and he's said repeatedly that he'd leave her if I would only say the word. I haven't made her a divorcee yet. He happens to be the only significant case where true guilt and remorse are evident but he also harbors other issues that make him very much a minority.

 

I personally don't have a moral dilemma with sleeping with married men. I know because of my clients admissions that they all have their own reasons for a liason with me and even though I know it goes against their vows it certainly isn't my place to judge them. I just try to give them what they want as best I can.

 

I gather these ideas from those who like to talk a lot about their home life but I always wonder about the quieter men who I know to be married but don't talk a lot about it. Amazingly, so many of my clients are incredibly open with me, they share detailed information and a precious candor that lets me know they trust me. Maybe others here can talk about what they are feeling when they are away from their wives, if they experience guilt. Apprehension, trepidation, and awareness are much bigger concerns for the married men I have met, no one seems to feel bad when we are together. I always take it as a good sign!

[axebahia]

>I have a couple of clients whose spouses actually know that

>their husbands go away to see me, they don't have any idea

>about the specifics but they have the general idea and

>evidently they have their own understanding to keep their

>marriage intact.

 

If all you do is massage, why would the wife be threatened? Do you provide normal escorting services that you choose not to advertise?

[TightBodyTouch]

You're talking to me, right? Did you even read my website or look at my string of reviews here on this site? See what I'm saying about communication? It's an effort, I know, but will open up so much for you. Can you read in french? Maybe you didn't see all the sites there in Paris afterall.

[TightBodyTouch]

Silly me, I neglected to actually say "Yes, I do escort".

 

But give me your number and I will contact you, I hear you like that. We'll work it out when I get there.

[axebahia]

>You're talking to me, right? Did you even read my website or

>look at my string of reviews here on this site? See what I'm

>saying about communication? It's an effort, I know, but will

>open up so much for you.

 

Far be it for me to give you advice on web site design, but I didn't see any mention of escorting so I did not bother clicking on your reviews. I don't think you are going to win any "great communicator" awards for a site that mentions massage but not escorting, but relies on reviews to describe your escort services.

[giovoni]

Oh come on.. read the whole page.. even the little words. It's right there! You can't miss it... I mean you can't miss it twice.. I mean YOU can't miss it three times. If you read the rest of the site it gets more and more in depth too. It's really quite a good read.

 

 

Gio in Denver

http://www.angelfire.com/co3/massagebygio

[TightBodyTouch]

For your information, I have my number on the wall of every frequented bathroom from here to Timbuktu.

 

But of course, it might also have occured to you that I advertise in more than one medium. Anyone wondering about more can simply COMMUNICATE an interest and trouble themselves to ask clear, demonstrative questions indicating what they want from me. Anyone who doesn't want to do that probably won't be meeting me. Clients can't rely on an ad to say it all, there's no fun in that.

[TightBodyTouch]

Furthermore, if it all came out in the ads then you'd be able to taste my ass from where you sit and then why would you hire me at all?

[axebahia]

>Anyone wondering about more

>can simply COMMUNICATE an interest and trouble themselves to

>ask clear, demonstrative questions indicating what they want

>from me. Anyone who doesn't want to do that probably won't be

>meeting me. Clients can't rely on an ad to say it all, there's

>no fun in that.

 

Funny, I always thought it worked the other way around. I am a lawyer so I say so and clients come to me for my services. I don't say, I am a paralegal but if you read my reviews you'll find out I am an attorney.

 

You have an interesting marketing approach if you think that advertising yourself - on your own web site no less - as offering massage services not escort service is going to clue most people into the fact that you are an escort. If it works for you, great, but somehow I bet you must specialize in the geriatric clients who have time to play such games, or for whom playing such games gives their shrivelled little peckers enough of a work out.

[axebahia]

>Oh come on.. read the whole page.. even the little words.

>It's right there! You can't miss it... I mean you can't miss

>it twice.. I mean YOU can't miss it three times. If you

>read the rest of the site it gets more and more in depth too.

>It's really quite a good read.

>

>>Gio in Denver

 

I guess you guys went to the same web designer to get a volume rebate. I am sure that you and your partner are swell, but if your sites focus on massage in big bold letters, don't be surprised if some prospective clients don't bother to read the fine print. I can't speak for all clients by any means but an escort who hides his escorting behind the word massage would set up a big red flag for me, and would not be getting my business. That said, you both have great pics so if the business model works for you, stick to it.

[TightBodyTouch]

Now now, time for you to go to bed. You're getting mean.

 

But first tell me: you don't suggest that older clients aren't also hot, do you? You must think that thing between your legs is solid gold to say things like that. My clients, like everyone else's, hail from every walk of life, socio-economic status, and how fortunate for me that they come in all shapes and sizes. It's particularly interesting that you view the question and answer process as a series of games, I hope escorts make a note of that. In any profession where a service is ordered and delivered this question and answer period is the only thing that can possibly guarantee that a client's request come to fruition. If you always expect service providers to equip you with the deal then I bet you run into trouble in more places than the escort circle. This summer will you have central air put in your home and get mad when they want to charge you? Maybe you expect that your newspaper be free since you are on friendly terms with the guy who throws it. Get real. I never met an attorney who didn't like to ask questions. And yes, I know some attorneys who ask me lots of questions before engaging me in a hot time. If there are any games involved I assure you they are in the nude.

[axebahia]

>It's particularly interesting that you view the

>question and answer process as a series of games, I hope

>escorts make a note of that. In any profession where a service

>is ordered and delivered this question and answer period is

>the only thing that can possibly guarantee that a client's

>request come to fruition. If you always expect service

>providers to equip you with the deal then I bet you run into

>trouble in more places than the escort circle.

 

Asking questions is one thing, but responding to an Ad for a painter in the hopes that I might find a plumber is not my idea of time well spent. If you have clients who think otherwise, bully for you!

 

>This summer

>will you have central air put in your home and get mad when

>they want to charge you? Maybe you expect that your newspaper

>be free since you are on friendly terms with the guy who

>throws it.

 

I don't expect my newspaper to be free, but if someone calls me over and offers it to me for free, I don't expect to be charged after the fact. Do you?

[TightBodyTouch]

Well actually, I sleep with the boy who delivers my paper. It's a win/win kinda thing. Goodnight, darlin! :9

[axebahia]

>Well actually, I sleep with the boy who delivers my paper.

>It's a win/win kinda thing. Goodnight, darlin! :9

 

Speaking of communication, why don't you advertise your age on your site? Why don't you want those married men to know that before they decide whether or not to communicate further with you?

[bluenix]

I am an attorney. No, really, I AM an attorney. REALLY!

 

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[woodlawn]

I think we can all assume that married men who hire escorts have needs that aren't being met at home. A better question concerns those who deceive their wives about what they're doing. What is the need that gives rise to that?

[giovoni]

Actually I made both of the websites and they were both conceived when escorting did not make up a part of our business. TJ has since modified his site as he has seen fit and so there are differences in both sites though you're correct that they were done by the same 'designer'

 

For my part, I'm happy to continue to be known by those who see me as a GREAT massage therapist who happens to be a great escort on occasion. Most of the people who see me see me still come for massage, probably because I didn't add escorting to what I do until 2 years ago while I've been practicing massage for 7.

 

In any case it never occurred to me that someone would be offended that I have chosen to highlight one aspect of my business over another. For many people, discovering that their favorite massage therapist was also available for escorting was a pleasant surprise. Since you've never been on my table for a massage I suppose I can imagine why you would see a picture of me nude or nude and hard, go to my website, let yourself immediately be put off that I focus attention on the massage aspect of my business and not bother to read enough to discover that I do offer escorting as well. However you're the first person to ever bring up this concern.

[axebahia]

>In any case it never occurred to me that someone would be

>offended that I have chosen to highlight one aspect of my

>business over another. For many people, discovering that

>their favorite massage therapist was also available for

>escorting was a pleasant surprise. Since you've never been on

>my table for a massage I suppose I can imagine why you would

>see a picture of me nude or nude and hard, go to my website,

>let yourself immediately be put off that I focus attention on

>the massage aspect of my business and not bother to read

>enough to discover that I do offer escorting as well. However

>you're the first person to ever bring up this concern.

 

I am in no way offended. You both have great pics, and you write well. When it comes to escorts though, in general, I focus on escorts that are escorts. I think a lot of hustlers hide behind massage. That may not be true in your case or that of your partner, but we all have to have some bright line tests in this business, and that's one of mine. I wish you well though.

 

At any rate, this is an intersting thread so let's let folk get back to the main topic. I was initially just curious about one aspect of TJ's otherwise fascinating insights. He clarified it. Now I understand.