addicted to hiring escorts...?

[tom1980]

Spunky -- I go through hiring spurts. I actually started out kind of slow and only hired a couple of escorts the first several months that I was hiring. Then I suddenly got addicted and probably hired about 10 guys over a 3 week period.

 

These days I'll get the urge to hire every few months. Sometimes it's a one and done situation, but other times I'll end up wanting to hire another guy and another and another until I've suddenly hired 5 guys in a single week. It's pretty rare that I do that, but it happens occasionally . . . especially when I am traveling alone or my family leaves me home by myself for a few days.

 

To answer your original question, I think the novelty does wear off. However, even after that happens, you may find yourself hiring lots of guys in a short time frame either because you are unfulfilled and constantly searching for a better experience or because you have a really great experience and cannot get enough of a particular guy (I often hire the same guy multiple times within a few days, especially if one of us is traveling and I know the opportunity is limited).

[unsub2O17]

Yet another way to look at it: Of course, I like the variety. But, I also like to "tinker". So, if I have a good experience with an escort, I like to see him again and again, to see if we can change this or that and make it better and better.

[Guest]

Let’s make a quick, informal poll here… how many of you guys would say went through “a phase” where you hired guys like crazy at first (within what was financially possible for you at that time) and then stopped?

 

Well, I hired less when I was younger because I could easily have good sex for free. I also ended up hiring less when I got a domestic partner. Although we have an open relationship, it's not as if I can say "I'll be late for dinner, honey. I'm stopping off to see an escort after work!". So now I usually hire when one of us is out on a business trip. I'm happy for you that you're in a financially comfortable position despite your youth. If you are able to make a mortgage payment, pay all of your bills (especially credit cards), and save for an IRA, and then still have money left over for an escort, I see no reason not to do it. I still look back at my old porn, and I often regret not hiring more when I was younger. I wish I had the opportunity to experience some of these guys. Although I've hired a few bad apples in my day, for the most part I look back very fondly on my memories of my escort hires, some particularly fondly. In fact, there have been some escorts I hired many years ago that I wish I could go back and tell them how much our brief time together meant to me, all of those years later.

Putting those few bad hires aside, I definitely don't regret the money I've spent on escorts. I do look back at some of my old porn mags, however, and think to myself "I wish I had hired him when I had the chance." So I'm in the camp which say that if it's not straining your finances, go for it. You can cut back or quit all together when you settle down with a domestic partner, if you like.

[Guest verymarried]

Big Val - How can you tell that the OP is "very cute?" I am sure the pic is obvious but I must be overlooking it...?

[Guest]

Big Val - How can you tell that the OP is "very cute?" I am sure the pic is obvious but I must be overlooking it...?

 

Click on his name, then "View profile." BTW, I'm curious about my own poll. How many clients, looking back, regret what they've spent on escorts? How many kick themselves over hires they wish they had mad while they had the chance?

[Michael Wayne]

JJ . YES IT IS A CONCERN. I have had to ask some clients ot cut back on visits if it gets a little too regular or if I feel they are falling in love with me. emotional issues more than finaces I have found with the younger clients

[Epigonos]

Spunky I have hesitated to involve myself in this thread but have, at last, decided to throw in my two cents worth.. Some of the advise you have been given thus far appears to be excellent and some appears to border on the trite and the trivial. Frankly and obviously none of us on this site know you personally so we are ALL shooting from the lip. You are young and have years ahead of you to look for long term, "meaningful" relationships. I certainly wouldn't suggest that you cut off school or work place friendships in order to hire escorts exclusively. However, if you have friends you enjoy spending time with and you also enjoy hiring escort my advise is go for it. You're only young once and you most definitely aren't going to wear the body out having sex with escorts. Thus if it feel good and you can afford it and it isn't destroying other relationships again I say GO FOR IT.

[spunky]

Oh wow… sorry guys for taking so long on getting back at you all. It’s almost the end of the semester so, as you can all imagine, that means a lot of final exams, final projects and final everythings to take care of.

 

To begin with, I do have to re-iterate something so that we get the money issue out of the question. For people who missed the hint on my previous answer I am a *trust fund brat*. I can blow as much cash as I want on escorts and still have enough to live without working a single day of my life. Yes, it may not be money I worked for but I still have free access to it. And no, I do not like what I just wrote because it makes me sound like a rich a-hole (and I am not one) but it seems like people keep on getting too hung up on that aspect which is, at least in my case, the least important one.

 

Now, on too the interesting points:

 

 

To Xander, mikey9nola, Juan and all the other escort-types who replied:

 

Thanks for taking your time to look at this and rest assured you’ll be on top of my list if I’m ever around your area in terms of hiring! . To be honest, I am starting to wonder if maybe those of us, Generation Y people, are just so used to get instant gratification with minimum investment that we are turning to escorts so we do not have to go through the drag that dating can be sometimes. This topic of conversation came up relatively recently during a holiday party I attended and was surprised to find out that a lot of people in my category (young & successful adult professionals, gay or straight) have actually hired escorts more than once in their life. The reason? Simple, uncomplicated fun. It does make me wonder where “the world” is going in terms of how relationships are going to play out in the future, but at least I felt better to know that I am not alone in this case. Ok, I maybe overdoing it (I’m currently hiring at a rate of 1 guy every 2 or 3 days) but it seems like it’s becoming a little bit more of a trend here. Is it good/bad? Who knows… but we’re moving there.

 

 

To Juan (because you have the longest responses):

 

I enjoy reading your posts. You appear to be someone with a very good insight into how the human psyche operates in terms of its sexual nature. Nevertheless, I do have to say I very respectfully disagree with some of the points you bring forward to the discussion (although I am very thankful for them because nothing gives me more pleasure than reading a well-articulated, reasoned-yet-different opinion from the one I espouse). Some of us are really just for the fun of it. There is nothing neither therapeutic nor spiritual nor fulfilling that we find in it. It is basically (and pardon my boorishness) that we just need someone to take care of the stiffy we have been carrying around all day. And we don’t have time to play games in MH, grindr or whatever outlets we have. For instance, getting someone as good-looking as you in bed would take me hours and hours of cajoling and begging on any given night in any nightclub, bar, website, etc. of your choice… and that is IF this hypothetical Juan happens to also (a) be in the mood and (b) find me attractive. I guess you can see the little impasse I am facing here from, let’s say, a purely economic perspective: too much investment (my time) for a very uncertain outcome (getting hypothetical Juan in bed w/ me). So why would someone like me (and probably many others) want to struggle with hypothetical Juan if we can get REAL Juan to show up at what, in my opinion, is a fair and reasonable rate? And, even better… REAL Juan doesn’t stay overnight unless I want to, doesn’t talk to me unless I want to, will not wonder if there is “something more” going on and (within previously-discussed and agreed-upon limits) will do everything I ask him to do… because REAL Juan is doing his job and hypothetical Juan is not. Therein lays the siren spell of selling sex: everything I thought was outside my reach and should be repressed is suddenly available… how can people not just walk towards that opportunity and just want to take it?

 

 

 

To my other fellow respondents:

 

I believe those of you who said the ‘novelty will wear off’ were correct. After hiring and re-hiring enough guys I am starting to realize that there is probably more interesting stuff to do outside of hiring callboys. If anyone else reads these threads and wonders about how long it takes, I would say a couple of months of constant hiring will wear you off eventually… I am down, as I said previously, to a guy every 2-3 days and the way things are it will probably be a guy every 4-5 days, a guy every 1-2 weeks until I find my optimal “hiring rate”.

The weird thing is that after spending a little too much time in Rentboy I’m strongly considering the possibility of moving to NYC once I graduate just so I have access to that HUGE pool of awesome local talent…

 

… omg, this is so fun! I am *loving* this board…

[JT Brooklyn]

Welcome Spunky! Well your "doin" Working Guys at 27? Most of us saved the experience til we were closer to 47!

 

I'm pretty sure you will have moved on way before 47... But I bet your a Welcome Change from the usual Clients..

[+ Cash4Trash]

All 460 members of our NYC "HUGE pool of awesome local talent" are rushing to the gym today in anticipation of your arrival.

[jawjateck]

omg, this is so fun! I am *loving* this board…

 

Fun is what Hooville is all about. Yeah, the novelty of hiring and the excitement of scheduling a provider tends to dissipate. I eventually settled into a slower pace (approx. 10-15 hires annually), but 12 years later I'm still hiring because it's a fun hobby.

 

Enjoy the run and have a blast!