First Meeting

[+ not2rowdy]

Questions for both providers and clients.

 

In your first meeting with an provider / client do you prefer (or even require) that the meeting take place as:

- an incall (your location)

- an outcall (their location)

- neutral territory (most likely a hotel)?

 

Any concerns or lessons learned to share?

 

It will reduce confusion if you indicate you are responding as a client or as an escort/masseur.

 

In my case, as a client:

I do not have an overwhelming preference. My history has been that:

- Incall meetings at my location have gone well.

- Neutral territory meetings with escorts / masseurs while traveling have gone well.

- Outcalls to masseur commercial business locations have gone well (non-sexual and likely government inspected).

- Other outcalls - to both escort and massage advertisers - have been less satisfying. Primarily due to sanitation concerns. And I am not a radical clean freak.

 

I tend to prefer longer meetings. But I'm starting to think that the best situation for a first meeting is a shorter (1 - 1.5 hr) appointment on neutral territory.

 

What can the client do to help alleviate escort concerns for a first meeting?

[jgoo]

As a client, for my first meeting I only had one time where I did an incall to their place and all the other times were outcalls to a neutral location (hotel). Never had and probably never will have an outcall to my place for a first meeting. I just feel most comfortable that way and it seems to work best for me.

 

I definitely did not feel comfortable with the one incall to the escorts place. To some extent it was sanitation concern and part of me just felt uncomfortable for some reason. Perhaps it is a matter of control and a feeling of safety for me.

 

I seem to have migrated towards shorter first meetings and find 1 to 2 hours very good, although I do like dinner dates and those can be 3 to 4 hours. Overnights or longer for a first meeting are very rare these days.

 

As to alleviating escort concerns, I try not to be pushy and not communicate with short or one word answers. I always express that I want them to feel comfortable and have an enjoyable time as well. I am never explicit or talk trash but still able to get my expectations across. I keep it light but on a professional level, always being friendly. I always give them the option as to how they prefer to communicate (phone, email, text). I always inquire about what their favorite beverage is so that I can have some on hand and if we do plan to go out to get dinner I inquire about what they like and don't like so I can make some suggestions but let them make the final choice. I also ask if they prefer to meet at the room or in the hotel lobby/bar. I guess as much as possible I try to involve them in the planning process and give them options on certain things so they feel somewhat in control of what they are getting into. I try to limit my communication so it is easy to set things up. Sometimes I am able to get a sense if they are uneasy or concerned about anything so I try to figure what that is and try to put them at ease. Finally, I try to be as open as possible (within my limits) by telling them to feel free to ask any questions they may have.

[SteveEscort]

As an escort, nearly all of my first meetings with clients are shorter appointments at my home or at their hotel. It's rare that I see a client for a first time in his own home.

 

I have gained some lovely clients from those first short appointments. One of whom invited me to his very grand country residence for a weekend appointment when his wife was away. He was initially a 1 hour hotel appointment and full on for most of it. He was more relaxed on the weekend appointment and we went to country pubs for lunch and fine dining for evenings out.

 

The flip side of this is that it's good for an escort to have a shorter first time appointment because if the client is a nightmare then 4 hours of a nightmare is a long time to endure. and I've been to a fair few nightmares in my time who sounded lovely by email/text or phone to begin with but who were the complete opposite when the appointment commenced. I've had short notice first time appointments and ignored future correspondence or made excuses because he was not what I was expecting from a client.

 

I don't think, in fact I know, I have never had an overnight with a guy I have never met before. I know some escorts who have and it's a mixed bag especially if he's difficult and it's an incall..... on an outcall you can just leave if it's too much but on an incall it's difficult to ask them to leave the premises without it turning ugly.

[SteveEscort]

- an incall (your location)

- an outcall (their location)

- neutral territory (most likely a hotel)?

 

Just a brief pointer because I had to read your post a few times to understand it. An "Incall" generally means a visit to an escorts premises (they're providing the service in-house so to speak) and "Outcall" generally means they travel out to you. If you contact an escort and ask for an incall he will always think you mean to his home and that could cause some confusion. If you ask him if he does incalls, he may say no, because he naturally thinks you want to visit him, whereas what you mean is does he do outcalls. Incall doesn't mean "In your home", it means "In Theirs".

[unsub2O17]

As a client, I have met escorts at my hotel, their hotel, and their places. All have worked out just fine. I wouldn't consider having an escort come to my place for all the usual reasons. I also haven't had an escort leery of visiting me right off in my hotel room. I certainly have no problem meeting in a neutral public place first if he so desired. But I think I come across as exactly who I am which seems to satisfy the escorts that I choose. I've even done an overnight as a first encounter, but that was after prolonged email correspondence and phone contact. And it worked out fine too. I've never even had the sanitation issues, but I don't think I'm very demanding in that department. The provision of favored beverages does seem like a nice touch.

[+ azdr0710]

within minutes of the start of a first-time meeting, a couple or more escorts have, for one mundane reason or another, given me their full real names.....and a couple clients who I've met for the first time for just chat and coffee, etc. while I was traveling in their areas, then felt entirely comfortable even showing me their houses and other personal info...

 

when I asked these clients and escorts why do you feel OK letting me in on all this personal stuff, they all said that I was a nice guy and they felt comfortable around me....

 

moral: be honest, respectful, and open when you meet somebody for the first time (and after)....certainly not an Earth-shaking revelation, but it's a reminder as a way to avoid future difficulties....communicate thoroughly....don't be a dick....smile and take it easy.....sorry to preach the obvious, but I see other asswipes act a certain way and swear to myself I certainly don't want to appear like that jerkoff....

 

(irony intended!)

[Edward]

I have never invited an escort to my home. Have to really know the guy (several meetings). The one questions excorts won't answer is what do you like all the way form sex, dinner, drinks, recreation? They just dont have preference. I know it is my time/night. But why shouldn't both of us have a good time. The better time my boy has, I hope the better time he shows me.

[unsub2O17]

I have never invited an escort to my home. Have to really know the guy (several meetings). The one questions excorts won't answer is what do you like all the way form sex, dinner, drinks, recreation? They just dont have preference. I know it is my time/night. But why shouldn't both of us have a good time. The better time my boy has, I hope the better time he shows me.

 

Absolutely agree with this observation. I don't give up trying to get answers though. I ask a lot of specific questions AT THE TIME. BTW, please note on Rockin Dave's new website, he specifically offers to give "feedback".

[GoodFella69]

As a client, I never schedule a first-time hire for longer than 2-hours. I travel for work and usually hire the escort to come to my hotel. Hosting at my home (in Chicago) is not an option since I'm a single dad with two teen-age sons still at home. Even if my sons were gone, I can't imagine feeling comfortable inviting an escort that I didn't know to come to my home. On the 3 or 4 occasions that I've met escorts at their homes (in Chicago and Dallas), I recall them always being very positive experiences--clean, comfortable, sanitary and safe.

 

Goodfella

[+ Axiom2001]

When I've scheduled appointments, all have been "outcalls" except for two. [i'd had knee surgery, and escort who'd I had been seeing for a while came to me!]

In terms of time, if an escort and I have seen each other on more than one occasion, and our time has been highly rewarding and worthwhile for each of us, then

I schedule one and a half hours to two to be with him.

 

Almost every appointment [for me] is always "out" and for an hour [with the above exceptions]!

[BostonPhil]

Just a brief pointer because I had to read your post a few times to understand it. An "Incall" generally means a visit to an escorts premises (they're providing the service in-house so to speak) and "Outcall" generally means they travel out to you. If you contact an escort and ask for an incall he will always think you mean to his home and that could cause some confusion. If you ask him if he does incalls, he may say no, because he naturally thinks you want to visit him, whereas what you mean is does he do outcalls. Incall doesn't mean "In your home", it means "In Theirs".

 

I'm getting confused now... It seems people are getting in and out confused :-(

[gp0560]

It seems people are getting in and out confused :-(

 

But Phil, it's so simple: in and out, in and out, in and out, . . .

 

What don't you understand, buddy?

 

Oh wait. Maybe it's out and in, out and in, out and in, . . .

 

Now I'm confused, too.

[Toulouse]

When I'm hiring locally, I always have escorts come to my home. So far, I've not had any problems doing so. If I'm out-of-town, the escort comes to my hotel. Typically, I enjoy hiring for two or more hours so we can incorporate good (not rushed) conversation and several rest-periods in between a couple rounds of sex.