Performance Review/Suggestions

[BostonPhil]

I'd really like to sink my teeth into your thoughtful post but I have no idea of what this means.

 

NO Teeth!

 

You know, I'm all for massaging and rubbing but the same technique that works on clit doesn't work on an ass. And if you press too hard above and below the anus, No Bueno.

[Boner]

NO Teeth!

 

You know, I'm all for massaging and rubbing but the same technique that works on clit doesn't work on an ass. And if you press too hard above and below the anus, No Bueno.

 

But...what's a girl bit? Oh wait, you edited "bit" to "clit"?

[Juan Vancouver]

I have many clients with whom I get together with the purpose of working on specific skills. Even though I am perfectly aware that all lovers like things slightly differently, I know that there are certain technical skills that will be useful in every single interaction. If you focus on working on those skills and practicing to listen the non-verbal cues and responding to them, that will give them enough tools to feel relaxed, confident and able in every single interaction.

 

I only do this when asked in advance. If someone asks me about his skills after the session is over I respond that we can only talk about that when we meet again and when we can work together in learning whatever skills they want to become better at. some clients get very excited about the prospect and book a session, some pass, having only been interested in getting a positive review.

 

Even though I am convinced we are all perfect as we are, when it comes to interacting with others we can all keep learning better ways to do it. I believe that one should never stop growing in that area. In the end I think that mature, well adjusted people should never have any problem clearly asking what they want, while at the same time carefully listen to what they are being asked to do. If there is a reciprocity, the interaction should thrive, if there is no common ground, they should move on to a different person.

 

And it can be tricky for an escort to determine the best channel for a client. I was with an escort a few months ago who repeatedly moved my hands toward or away from certain areas; for some reason, that bothered me - I would have preferred a verbal suggestion (maybe because I like to feel that I am the on 'in charge').. No way for him to know that, of course, and TELLING him would have probably made the situation more awkward. I have a habit of putting my hands on someone's head and pushing/pulling them down - but if there is resistance, I'll stop.

 

I think it's all in the way you do it. One thing would be to tersely say "Don't pull my hands. Ask me what to do.", and a totally different thing would be if you smile and say "Actually I would prefer it if you ask me what you like... I am not that good reading non verbal cues". But telling him is thousand times better than getting resentful and carrying that resentment through the session.

 

I tend to think that if there's feedback (& attention to it) during the session, there will be less need for a post-session debrief.

 

Couldn't agree more. That sounds like two adults having a healthy interaction.

[Maxx00]

Thanks for everyone's suggestions and honest feedback. It looks like asking for guidence beforehand is the way to go!

 

One other question: On the main topic screen, what do the stars mean by some of the topics and how do you get them?

[seeker630]

Thanks for everyone's suggestions and honest feedback. It looks like asking for guidence beforehand is the way to go!

 

One other question: On the main topic screen, what do the stars mean by some of the topics and how do you get them?

 

The stars represent ratings by Forum members. When you open a topic (thread), look on the right side at the top of the topic & you'll see a link to 'Rate this thread'.

 

As far as I can tell, the stars are an average of the member ratings - and there's no way to tell how many members actually rated it. (Admins - please correct me if I'm wrong.) It seems to be a little-used feature. I confess, I only use it when I feel a topic has been extremely interesting/valuable OR when a discussion has turned into a cat-fight.

 

One additional note - once you've 'voted', you can't change your vote or vote again.

[Maxx00]

Thanks, Seeker! I never noticed that before.

[Bart]

Maxx I have asked gentlemen that same question many times. As a client I do want to improve how I can inhance the meeting. I think one thing that helps is making sure up front areas that may be uncomfortable or activities that both parties don't like. Maxx I think you need to take the cues from your client. Rather than using negative comments to push a client away, redirect their efforts in a positive fashion. Like to the clint who likes to the gentlemen's cock as a teething ring, "oooh I like it when you use your lips and tongue to caress my cock." "I love gentle nibbling on my nipples" or "please pull harder on my nipples." I like when a gentlemen is willing to help the client throughout the experience.