OK, I'm naive - Fisting, Water Sports, Anal, S&M, PNP, Sneakers, etc.

[rguer]

I've noticed that many escorts on Rentboy have a long list of "Tastes / Specialties / Fetishes" - Vanilla, Leather, Fisting, Water Sports, Anal, S&M, Oral, Shaving, Spanking, Role Playing, PNP, Kissing, Sneakers, Toys, Feet, etc. - just about every fetish you can think of, in one person.

 

Is there something about data entry in Rentboy that makes it easy for escorts to accidentally check too many boxes?

 

What's especially puzzling about this is the number of times that the specialties contradict something else in the page, such as "Drugs: Never" but also "PNP". There are also some people who imply massage only, but then have a list that goes well beyond massage.

 

There are several escorts I find attractive, but their list of interests makes me think they might not be satisfied with my vanilla-ness. Especially with the more mainstream things like spanking, which I know from real life is something many people like, but it's a turnoff for me, and is something that guys sometimes do in the heat of passion.

 

Or is it just that you all list anything you have even a mild interest in? I've read some of the Phil Andros stories about foot fetishists, for example, and I can't think there could possibly be many people as interested (or knowledgeable) about it as some of his characters.

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey Rguer,

 

I have heard many times clients wondering whether they may not be able to fulfill their escort's needs and I think it is important to stress something: An escort ad is not like a dating profile. In a dating profile it is important that both partners are compatible and will find a way to fulfil each other's needs to ensure a healthy and successful relationship.

 

An escort profile is not designed to attract people that is a perfect overall match. An escort advertisement is -let's say, the technical profile of a specialist, where he mentions all the activities with which he is comfortable and has a certain level of expertise. This doesn't mean that if your escort advertises Japanese Rope Bondage amongst his talents you will be expected to hang from the ceiling and like it, it just lets know people who are interested in that that this escort is able to provide this service.

 

Imagine that you get to the office of a dentist you have never used before. When you read his qualifications you realize that he is great at doing fillings but also has a lot of experience doing root canals. He is very good at orthopaedic dentistry and he is a wonderful orthodontist. If you just need a check up and maybe one filling, would you ever feel intimidated by his excellent credentials? Would you worry that he would be bored by doing your filling? Would you be afraid that he would force you to have a root canal because he is great at them...or perhaps you would feel confident that he is a capable, well trained, nicely rounded dentist?

 

You should approach your escort exactly the same way.

 

An escort is not a lover that comes to you with the expectation of having his needs fulfilled. There are a few things that an escort will expect from you: cleanliness, a respectful attitude, communication and honouring of the agreements that you make. Aside from that, he is there, as a well rounded professional to help you explore your needs and fulfill them.

 

While Rentboy sometimes has glitches and checks boxes accidentally, it doesn't happen all that often, but if there is anything mentioned in the profile of the escort you are interested in that makes you uneasy, you should sit with it, decide whether you want to spend time with someone who does such things and then if you have any questions about those specific activities, ask the escort directly. I know many clients may not want to meet an escort who barebacks or does scat. Some are squeamish even about the mention of leather. Your comfort zone is yours to honour and it is you who has to decide how far you push yourself to go.

 

Lastly... some of the nicest, sweetest, kindest escorts that I know are well trained and very capable in S/M, bondage, and heavy fetishes. On the other hand, some of the escorts that only offer vanilla are the meanest people that I know. Just because an escort is capable of understanding the whole gamut of human sexuality doesn't mean that he MUST be a deviant, a wanton creep with no dignity nor respect for himself or others. Pay attention to the way the ad is worded, the pictures, the reviews... and read between the lines. Once you have a clear pictures of who this person may be, give him a call and find out on your own.

 

Here's wishing that you won't get a root canal that you didn't need! =)

[Strafe13]

Jesus! Why are you in Vancouver, Juan? Your answers just make me melt. Wish you (& Thor) were closer to my hometown of NYC. Sigh...

 

To respond to the OP'S issue, Rguer, don't worry about the myriad of interests an escort lists. As Juan said, it's likely he's just beung thorough so as to market himself to as broad an array of clients as possible. The most important thing is that your interests are reflected in the categories he checked. It's important for clients to own their experience and do the research on the escort (includung his ads, reviews, & forum posters' comments) , followed by directly discussing their interests with the prospective escort. Some like vanilla as well as kinky, but most good ones are willing to do anything within their limits to please the client, and likely have no preference either way. And although certain things might seem self-contradictory at first blush, they might not be so in reality upon greater consideration. Just have a blast with these amazing guys and guve us the lovely details afterwards!

 

Hey Rguer,

 

I have heard many times clients wondering whether they may not be able to fulfill their escort's needs and I think it is important to stress something: An escort ad is not like a dating profile. In a dating profile it is important that both partners are compatible and will find a way to fulfil each other's needs to ensure a healthy and successful relationship.

 

An escort profile is not designed to attract people that is a perfect overall match. An escort advertisement is -let's say, the technical profile of a specialist, where he mentions all the activities with which he is comfortable and has a certain level of expertise. This doesn't mean that if your escort advertises Japanese Rope Bondage amongst his talents you will be expected to hang from the ceiling and like it, it just lets know people who are interested in that that this escort is able to provide this service.

 

Imagine that you get to the office of a dentist you have never used before. When you read his qualifications you realize that he is great at doing fillings but also has a lot of experience doing root canals. He is very good at orthopaedic dentistry and he is a wonderful orthodontist. If you just need a check up and maybe one filling, would you ever feel intimidated by his excellent credentials? Would you worry that he would be bored by doing your filling? Would you be afraid that he would force you to have a root canal because he is great at them...or perhaps you would feel confident that he is a capable, well trained, nicely rounded dentist?

 

You should approach your escort exactly the same way.

 

An escort is not a lover that comes to you with the expectation of having his needs fulfilled. There are a few things that an escort will expect from you: cleanliness, a respectful attitude, communication and honouring of the agreements that you make. Aside from that, he is there, as a well rounded professional to help you explore your needs and fulfill them.

 

While Rentboy sometimes has glitches and checks boxes accidentally, it doesn't happen all that often, but if there is anything mentioned in the profile of the escort you are interested in that makes you uneasy, you should sit with it, decide whether you want to spend time with someone who does such things and then if you have any questions about those specific activities, ask the escort directly. I know many clients may not want to meet an escort who barebacks or does scat. Some are squeamish even about the mention of leather. Your comfort zone is yours to honour and it is you who has to decide how far you push yourself to go.

 

Lastly... some of the nicest, sweetest, kindest escorts that I know are well trained and very capable in S/M, bondage, and heavy fetishes. On the other hand, some of the escorts that only offer vanilla are the meanest people that I know. Just because an escort is capable of understanding the whole gamut of human sexuality doesn't mean that he MUST be a deviant, a wanton creep with no dignity nor respect for himself or others. Pay attention to the way the ad is worded, the pictures, the reviews... and read between the lines. Once you have a clear pictures of who this person may be, give him a call and find out on your own.

 

Here's wishing that you won't get a root canal that you didn't need! =)

[unsub2O17]

Is there any relevance to the order in witch interests are listed? I've noticed that some escorts always put vanilla first and then go on. But others put anal or water sports first and then go on. Does this indicate what they're most interested in or best at?

[BostonPhil]

Nope, they are just listed in the order RentBoy chooses.

 

It never hurts to ask about something. Some check everything and then some may not list everything they are interested in, what ever their reason. If you find them attractive and like what you read but the interests don't really match up, just contact them and find out what is up.

[seeker630]

Think of them as restuarant menus - you're not expected to order everything, and while some restaurants may offer a very extensive menu (sometimes more than they can really deliver in a quality fashion), others will only offer a shorter list of things they believe they do well.

 

Order what you like, and enjoy!

[BostonPhil]

Think of them as restuarant menus - you're not expected to order everything, and while some restaurants may offer a very extensive menu (sometimes more than they can really deliver in a quality fashion), others will only offer a shorter list of things they believe they do well.

 

Order what you like, and enjoy!

 

I like this way of looking at it.

[jjkrkwood]

Think of them as restuarant menus - you're not expected to order everything, and while some restaurants may offer a very extensive menu (sometimes more than they can really deliver in a quality fashion), others will only offer a shorter list of things they believe they do well.

 

Order what you like, and enjoy!

 

Ill have the WINE list please ! :o

[gallahadesquire]

Ill have the WINE list please ! :o

 

But sometimes you have to ask for the OTHER wine list.

[desertguy1954]

I like that also. It makes it much more fullfilling when there is a full menu to choose from

[Phil_musc]

Yes, but no whining if the menu list isn't a full one - unless you want to ;-)

 

My question, though, is what is the OTHER wine list mentioned above - PM if necessary/

[BostonPhil]

What about having the chef just come to your table and make something special?

[Michael Wayne]

Here is an old school suggestion: call. bypass all the emailing or even checking out the fine print of the profile and call. There is no better way to determine compatability than a 5 minute phone conversation in REAL TIME. I am vanilla as well but even that term needs definition. With me vanilla includes fucking- alot if my client is up for it! To some vanilla only means oral or only massage. I love to kiss and to some vanilla does not include kissing. A phone call with a very very direct and simple questions will almost always let you know if a guy is right for you. Mikey @ 239-464-6053 or http://www.rentmen.com/mikeyusatop

[desertguy1954]

Stafe13, I am like you. Wish that Juan was close to Palm Springs. He is one of the few escorts that not only looks fantastic, but from his reviews, he sounds like a the type of guy I would love to spend time with. Also in reading Thors reviews, he also sounds great.

[Guest Magnus]

Japanese Rope Bondage

Juan, I had never heard of this, thanks for teaching me about something new.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japanese_bondage

 

However, I still don't understand the "Drugs: Never", "Tastes/Specialities/Fetishes: PNP" oxymoron.

[bostonman]

Fun to see this topic. In terms of my own interests, I've always had a bit of a sneaker fetish, and am always surprised to see this listed on so many of the RB profiles (because it's something I almost never see mentioned anywhere else). I always wonder how many of the escorts would really enjoy something like that, and how many would just be willing to try it for a client who wants it. I think it would always be more fun with an escort who really gets his own kicks out of something like that - but in the long run, I suppose it doesn't really matter, lol.