On Deleting The Social Apps-Redux

[+ Gar1eth]

This really pains me to admit. But about 6 weeks ago, I re- installed the social apps. I had a good reason though. Initially I only reinstalled Scruff. I had a potential job offer in a city in what I consider the deep south. It's a fairly large city, but I wasn't sure what it would be like to be a middle -aged single gay male there. So I thought I would try to 'talk' to some inhabitants. Well that idea didn't work out very well. But I kept the app installed for several days. Initially my luck was the same as it ever was. Not many guys would text me. I was thinking of deleting the app again. Then I had an idea of tweaking my picture a bit.

 

Well the tweak worked. I am going to be an adult ( ? a man) and eat http://i.istockimg.com/file_thumbview_approve/6167108/2/stock-illustration-6167108-cute-cartoon-crows.jpg

 

I was wrong. Apparently it's possible even for me to meet an occasional guy and hook up. If any of you saw a star in the East, comets passing overhead, or an unscheduled eclipse, it was most likely due to me having sex with a guy who wasn't an escort ( although I did pay for dinner ).

 

So in case I hadn't made myself clear- as much as it pains me to say it- y'all were right , and I was wrong.

 

Gman

[+ Travis69]

Doesn't matter who is right or wrong as long as you had hot sex....... Congratulations. Now share your secret......

[bigvalboy]

Oh Happy Day....damn good for you. You know Gar, that always feels good to get the hookup without paying for it!!!

[josephga]

I ended up deleting those apps. I found them to make me extremely depressed over time

[JackTwist]

That is excellent news Gman. I'm glad you didn't give up. Hopefully this will give you even greater confidence to share yourself with others. It sounds like to me that you have much more to offer potential "dates" than you give yourself credit for. Good luck.

[maxwellissmart]

I ended up deleting those apps. I found them to make me extremely depressed over time

 

I think they are fun for the humor element, to see who is secretly (but not so secretly) whoring around just five feet from you! That's why I like match.com and okcupid, and Yahoo! Personals until they deleted it. And lots of clients will use the same profile name and voila!

 

You have a way of seeing what they look like.

[josephga]

I think it depends on what you are looking for to. grindr scruff and other apps are for instant gratification. If you are looking for a bf or longterm partner material those apps aren't the place to look. most are looking for sex while they hunt elsewhere for the relationship. most guys would never date or take someone seriously they meet there. I made that mistake once thinking so. As well as others I've spoken with. It's strange but true most gay men think just like str8 men. If they meet a girl on a hookup site or take her home from a bar in their eyes she is a w*hore. even though they had sex too lol I met this one guy we went out spent 4 hrs together. He was like oh Joe I just love your eye's love your teeth this is so great can't wait to see you again. my birthdays tomorrow can't do anything but text me in a few days I really want to get together again. Bull shit. soon as he left my place I was blocked.

[maxwellissmart]

I think it depends on what you are looking for to. grindr scruff and other apps are for instant gratification. If you are looking for a bf or longterm partner material those apps aren't the place to look. most are looking for sex while they hunt elsewhere for the relationship. most guys would never date or take someone seriously they meet there. I made that mistake once thinking so. As well as others I've spoken with. It's strange but true most gay men think just like str8 men. If they meet a girl on a hookup site or take her home from a bar in their eyes she is a w*hore. even though they had sex too lol I met this one guy we went out spent 4 hrs together. He was like oh Joe I just love your eye's love your teeth this is so great can't wait to see you again. my birthdays tomorrow can't do anything but text me in a few days I really want to get together again. Bull shit. soon as he left my place I was blocked.

 

Anyone who blocks you for those kinds of reasons is doing you a favor, so you don't have to see their stupid ass pop up and take someone else's spot.

[josephga]

one of my clients told me the other day he went over sucked some guy off he met on grindr and soon as he left the guy blocked him. people are strange here.

guys would rather ignore than reject. I had coffee with a guy last year he really liked me allot but I just felt no connection. He said he wanted to see me again. I touched his hand and said you are a very sweet man but i don't want to led you on. But I just don't feel a romantic connection. After that we became friends and hung out a few times. imo that's the proper why to reject someone.

Some guys will pretend they are interested pretend there's a chance for a second date. Go home block you on whatever site they met you on, block your text block your phone number or won't answer at all. I can't believe they are so scared of just saying no sorry not feeling you. not sure if this happens much in other city's but its common practice here.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Good news Gman. Congrats and keep it going.