Is he serious ???

[jjkrkwood]

Ok, so you meet a hot guy at ones of these anonymous sex clubs. You spend several hours with the guy, even taking in between sex breaks for chit-chat. He seems nice, and attentive, but you have no expectations considering the kind of venue that it is.

 

Afterwards, he says he likes you and would like to exchange info before he leaves. You agree and eagerly write your name a phone #...

 

He hands you a slip of paper with his email address. Several days pass with no contact so you figure OK, ill be the one to make the first contact. You email him and he replies that he was just gonna contact you since he was thinking about since that first nite.

 

Several emails back and forth over the next few days, but still no phone # offer from him.....

 

The question is: what do you guys think the deal is with this guy? IS HE SERIOUS, or just looking to be an online player? PS, he has never yet CALLED my number....

[socalboy2283]

Probably doesn't want to give you his personal details, wife might find out or something...

 

I guess that's what you get in such seedy places.

[jgoo]

It sounds to me that it is likely he isn't serious and as socalboy says may not want to give any personal details. However, there is a chance that he has had some issues in the past with people calling him and is ultra cautious. I suggest you take the direct approach and ask him for his phone number (say that you prefer to talk rather than just communicate by emails) and see what he says. Depending on how he responds, either no reply, his number or gives an excuse for not providing it, you'll know soon enough how serious he really is.

[instudiocity]

The email address he gave you may be a "for play only" email account. Not many of us have "for play only" phones. So keeping you on the playlist is his way of managing the contact and keeping it 'private'.

[jjkrkwood]

Probably doesn't want to give you his personal details, wife might find out or something...

 

I guess that's what you get in such seedy places.

 

Well he told me where he works, and I have already confirmed that he did.... And actually, the place is hardly seedy. I have visited escorts whose places were "seedier"...

[jjkrkwood]

The email address he gave you may be a "for play only" email account. Not many of us have "for play only" phones. So keeping you on the playlist is his way of managing the contact and keeping it 'private'.

 

LOL, sounds logical, but according to the conversations, he is a "relationship" kinda guy and wants to date. Sort of contradicts his actions.

[wayout]

Reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where Elaine would determine if some guy was "sponge worthy" (for those not familiar with it, she had a favorite contraceptive called the sponge that was discontinued so her supply was limited and she didn't want to waste using it on just anyone...therefore, a suitor had to be sponge worthy for her to have sex with them). In this case, it appears you haven't quite reached the level of being "phone number worthy"

 

In all seriousness, I sense from what I read of your posts that you are a direct type of person so I concur with a previous poster on the thread. If you are interested in a relationship, be direct and ask for his number.

[jjkrkwood]

Reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where Elaine would determine if some guy was "sponge worthy" (for those not familiar with it, she had a favorite contraceptive called the sponge that was discontinued so her supply was limited and she didn't want to waste using it on just anyone...therefore, a suitor had to be sponge worthy for her to have sex with them). In this case, it appears you haven't quite reached the level of being "phone number worthy"

 

Yeah, Always the Bridesmaid and Never the Bride. ;-)

[wayout]

Yeah, Always the Bridesmaid and Never the Bride. ;-)

 

Depending on your preference (top or bottom), it might be more appropriate to say "Always the best man but never the groom"

[gallahadesquire]

Depending on your preference (top or bottom), it might be more appropriate to say "Always the best man but never the groom"

 

Or, per the Raconteur Fran Leibowitz, "Always a Godmother, never a god."

[jgoo]

Well he told me where he works, and I have already confirmed that he did....

 

First thing I thought of when I read that is "stalker", lol

[jjkrkwood]

First thing I thought of when I read that is "stalker", lol

 

Hardly, just doing my homework. Dont wanna waste my time on a Fake or Liar...

[+ Travis69]

Is the email address a yahoo account? A lot of men who want to remain anonymous use those as they are very private and free. If you just want sex and he hooks up with you using just the email and never gives you his phone number would that be good or bad? All depends on what you are seeking.

[jjkrkwood]

Is the email address a yahoo account? A lot of men who want to remain anonymous use those as they are very private and free. If you just want sex and he hooks up with you using just the email and never gives you his phone number would that be good or bad? All depends on what you are seeking.

 

Its g-mail acct. The only reason I am even focusing on this is because HE brought up the possibility of emabrking on a dating relationship which could evolve into something more long-term. He says the right things, but just goes about following thru in the wrong way.... Anonymous sex is fun, but a LTR at my age would be welcum.... But not pinning my hopes on this one.

[Phil_musc]

Good luck to you and I hope it turns out well for you. Trying to get a relationship off the ground is never easy at any age. I wish you only the best.

[jjkrkwood]

Good luck to you and I hope it turns out well for you. Trying to get a relationship off the ground is never easy at any age. I wish you only the best.

 

You are gonna think I am a horrible person, but I have already been dating a guy I met in a similar situation, MUCH younger than I, however gorgeous he is, we dont seem to be sexually compatible, at least from MY viewpoint. So since I was never one to put all my eggs in one basket, thought this NEW liason my be a good backup plan. I project that they will both turn out disasterous. Tis' the Season....

[Steven_Draker]

Yeah, Always the Bridesmaid and Never the Bride. ;-)

 

Don't push the pram up the wedding aisle, honey. http://img215.imageshack.us/img215/8578/smileywink.png

 

Rome wasn't built in a day.

[Phil_musc]

Not to be catty - and I certainly hope that JJ wouldn't take my comment that way - but with all due respect, I think our JJ is probably past his child-bearing days.

 

And I think he is smart not to put all his eggs in that one proverbial basket (even if it's a really nice basket. . . )

[seeker630]

Its g-mail acct. The only reason I am even focusing on this is because HE brought up the possibility of emabrking on a dating relationship which could evolve into something more long-term. He says the right things, but just goes about following thru in the wrong way.... Anonymous sex is fun, but a LTR at my age would be welcum.... But not pinning my hopes on this one.

 

I have had similar things happen to me - and have also myself expressed a sincere interest which waned the day after, as I re-considered things in a more rational manner.

 

Once the passion passes, sometimes the more rational side reaches a different conclusion.

 

But I hope you find what you're looking for, JJK.

[Phil_musc]

But passion, like faith, is not an exercise in rationality. Even with the brain being the largest sex organ, rationality somehow doesn't factor in the equation.

[jjkrkwood]

Don't push the pram up the wedding aisle, honey. http://img215.imageshack.us/img215/8578/smileywink.png

 

Rome wasn't built in a day.[/color]

 

I'm already on Life-support. I dont have much time left. ;-)

[jjkrkwood]

Not to be catty - and I certainly hope that JJ wouldn't take my comment that way - but with all due respect, I think our JJ is probably past his child-bearing days.

 

And I think he is smart not to put all his eggs in that one proverbial basket (even if it's a really nice basket. . . )

 

No offense taken at all Phil, my Ovaries are prunes....

[jjkrkwood]

But passion, like faith, is not an exercise in rationality. Even with the brain being the largest sex organ, rationality somehow doesn't factor in the equation.

 

Thats exactly my feeling when I HIRE, I know I should NOT be spending the money, people are starving all over the world, but the feel and taste of those big ole monster cocks I purchase makes all "rationale" fly out the window. I'll write my check to Red Cross to erase the guilt and feed the hungry.

It's an A-Dick-tion.....

[Phil_musc]

JJ, I can't believe it but were we actually separated at birth? My long-lost twin?! Tell me, by any chance, was your mother named Rosemary?

[jjkrkwood]

JJ, I can't believe it but were we actually separated at birth? My long-lost twin?! Tell me, by any chance, was your mother named Rosemary?

 

As a matter of fact............