A diffiernet kind of "Coming Out"

[Racketjock]

Doit,

 

As a healthcare worker, I applaud your courage but more importantly applaud your honesty, with yourself and the pro-active decision to seek out the care that you need. Maybe or maybe not a perfectly smooth road ahead, but with such friendship as displayed here, and from what I read a great drive and determination to face what lies ahead, you have a great journey ahead. If I can offer any help, I am happy to do so. Wish you the best and good fortune, not to mention continued hot, mind-blowing times of passion!

 

RJ

[doitb4ugo]

I am HIV+ and I would never knowingly have sex with another HIV+ person. Safer sex not withstanding. I would rather not know and take the precautions that are available or not have sex at all.

 

First of all, Thanks ChgoBoy, for your comments and support. Bravery and honesty seem to be alive in many places. You mentioned not wanting to have sex with HIV+ guys....can you explain further why you feel this way...I have been making the assumption that it no longer made a difference given my + status. I certainly can't get what I already have,,,or is it more complex than that....any thoughts would be helpful as I am quite new at this new reality.

[josephga]

First of all, Thanks ChgoBoy, for your comments and support. Bravery and honesty seem to be alive in many places. You mentioned not wanting to have sex with HIV+ guys....can you explain further why you feel this way...I have been making the assumption that it no longer made a difference given my + status. I certainly can't get what I already have,,,or is it more complex than that....any thoughts would be helpful as I am quite new at this new reality.

 

It does make a difference. From what Ive read and seen on news reports there are different Strains. Even now that you have tested HIV+ it's still important to use protection even with others that have tested HIV+ there's other STD'S that a person could contract and those could effect your immune system

[seeker630]

It does make a difference. From what Ive read and seen on news reports there are different Strains. Even now that you have tested HIV+ it's still important to use protection even with others that have tested HIV+ there's other STD'S that a person could contract and those could effect your immune system

 

Joseph has it right! You still might contract a strain that affects you more or is more resistant to treatment

[josephga]

How I came to contract HIV, the short answer is "I don't know". There are a couple of possibilities and might be easier to determine if I knew when I contracted it....I am only aware of one instance of unsafe sex...someone penetrated me briefly without a condom telling me not to worry, he was only doing it for a short time and would not cum. This was my second M2M experience and occurred in November 2009.

 

My doctor does not believe this is when I contracted the virus....in December 2010 I had to go to the emergency room a couple of times to reduce a fever of 105/106 which would not go down with Ibuprofen. The doc tells me that having such a bout with fevers etc. very often occur shortly after infection. If that is the case, the explanation of becoming infected is murkier...and must be the result of accident or condom failure...

 

I will say that being a highly submissive bottom, adds to the uncertainty in that I very seldom can tell if the top is being safe or not...being tied up and sometimes blindfolded also plays a role. If this is the timing, I hired an escort who was himself HIV+, an assumption we all need to live with.

 

Thanks for your questions. I am, and have always tried, to be as open as I can.

 

 

One thing id add Someone told you not to worry, he was only doing it for a short time and would not cum. that person is wrong. It does matter there's pre cum. some people pre cum more than others HIV has been found in pre-cum samples in the labs. A person can become infected even if a person ejaculates or not.

[Steven_Draker]

Rich,

I was away over the weekend and I missed your thread.

 

Revealing your status is a very personal decision. In my eyes you're one honorable man. Revealing your status to everyone with whom you're having sex before the act makes you even more honorable. I wish there were more people like you in this world.

 

I have a few close friends who are HIV+ and I've met many during the AIDS LifeCycle in California. I do not discriminate against poz folks and feel that what you did is right. More power to you!

[BaronArtz]

Rich, I don't know you at all, but you post interesting thoughts and hot pictures here! I wish you all the best and my congratulations with coming out so bravely. It shows you are a MAN.

[dapurplebear]

baron --

 

I know Rich and he is the simplest of terms a good person -- which is the highest compliment!

[Guest ChgoBoy]

First of all, Thanks ChgoBoy, for your comments and support.

 

You're welcome.

 

Bravery and honesty seem to be alive in many places.

 

Fewer places than our society, or anyone else within it, for that matter, could ever be aware of or be champions for. Absent the rides and walks which bring attention to a cause and crisis.

 

You mentioned not wanting to have sex with HIV+ guys....can you explain further why you feel this way...I have been making the assumption that it no longer made a difference given my + status. I certainly can't get what I already have,,,or is it more complex than that....any thoughts would be helpful as I am quite new at this new reality.

 

I'd be more than happy to discuss this further with you privately. Most people here are ultimately only interested in one thing. And that one thing is getting sex when you've been realized that sex is no longer a common relationship which you can get on your own merit or with your own presence.

 

Sure, everyone wants the perfect sexual experience, but even people who do not have the need to hire those which they desire are no more more assured that their sexual experience will be any better than yours by purchase will be.

 

Reviewing sexual chemistry and satisfaction like someone might review a meal at a fast, or slow, highly rated restaurant, is much like being satisfied with common fare, yet complaining about it once you experienced it, and found it inferior.

 

In the end, I believe, sexual satisfaction resides between those who experiences it between themselves. Anything other than that is just a blind purchase with the hopes that one sized review fits all.

[NYTomcat]

my hero

 

Hero doesn't say enough... my friend. You have been a comrade and brother in so many ways. I'm not posting my feelings like I used to. However ... to not say how proud I am of you would be a shame.

 

I love you richard