Do you wish you were straight?

[MsGuy]

. As so many have said, "I am who I am". My feelings are my feelings. I can't change them any more than I can get my wish of being straight.

 

Few of us grow up without being conflicted in some degree about being gay, Leap Year, but you last post leaves me wondering: Do you actually wish to be straight or do you wish for the things (love, kids, home, family life, place in community) that you associate with being straight?

 

For me it's always been difficult to disentangle the two but they are not really the same.

[+ Tygerscent]

While I simply consider myself "sexually Orientated", I thoroughly enjoy sexual contact and Intimacy with other males. Do I think that someone choosing a strictly gay sexual preference should deprive themselves or be deprived of having a wife, husband, kids, soccer team, house, white picket fence, business, pets, friends etc? Absolutely not~

I already have the kids, soccer team, house, fence, business, friends and lots of hot encounters with guys I love to hang with. I already have the straight package but am sexually predominantly actively gay.

If meaning that I am straight also means that I deprive others who are not of having what I have then I really really do not want to be "straight".

I am wondering if your question is really something like: "Does anyone else wish that straight people, religions and various laws would accept gay preferences just like others such that being gay would not be such an oppressive experience?"

 

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After reading the "gay for pay" thread, I got to thinking... I am a gay guy who loves straight guys. I don't know why, nor do I care why... I just do. In thinking about this, I started thinking, "do I wish I were straight"? The answer is "yes". I know and accept that I am gay, but I do wish I were straight.

 

I know this is controversial, but being truthful, I have always wished I were straight. It is not because I was teased or bullied as a kid, I wasn't. I had a great childhood. I guess, when I think about it, I wish I had the whole straight package, wife, kids, soccer games, house with the white picket fence.

 

So, are there others like me? Do you wish you were straight, or are you totally content with being gay? Please don't make this judgmental. I think everyone should feel comfortable with who and what they are, but that doesn't mean we can't wish we were something else. Hell, I wish I were a billionaire too (a little plug for Travie McCoy!). So, please keep the discussion civil.

 

Thanks

[Guest TBinCHI]

I like the way you think, Tyger. I like the way you do other things, too, but that's fodder for another thread! :-)

 

 

While I simply consider myself "sexually Orientated", I thoroughly enjoy sexual contact and Intimacy with other males. Do I think that someone choosing a strictly gay sexual preference should deprive themselves or be deprived of having a wife, husband, kids, soccer team, house, white picket fence, business, pets, friends etc? Absolutely not~

I already have the kids, soccer team, house, fence, business, friends and lots of hot encounters with guys I love to hang with. I already have the straight package but am sexually predominantly actively gay.

If meaning that I am straight also means that I deprive others who are not of having what I have then I really really do not want to be "straight".

I am wondering if your question is really something like: "Does anyone else wish that straight people, religions and various laws would accept gay preferences just like others such that being gay would not be such an oppressive experience?"

 

Tyger!

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[+ Tygerscent]

Oh Man~ TBinCHI... Ditto that. I quite like the way you do other things too~ ...and I can think of more "things" we might enjoy about each other~ Thank Goodness spring is on the way... time for a trip back home soon~ Grarrrrrr~!

 

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I like the way you think, Tyger. I like the way you do other things, too, but that's fodder for another thread! :-)

[seeker630]

So, when I asked the question, "do you wish you were straight?", I knew the answer but thought I might be the only one. I am glad to see that that isn't the case. I am also happy that there are those (maybe even a majority) who feel the opposite. I never felt there was a "right" answer. People feel the way they do. They shouldn't be criticized for their feelings one way or the other. As so many have said, "I am who I am". My feelings are my feelings. I can't change them any more than I can get my wish of being straight.

 

I want to thank all of you who have responded to this thread. It has been so enlightening. To share such personal feelings, on both sides of this issue, has touched me beyond words. Thanks.

 

Leap Year,

Thanks for starting a very thought-provoking discussion and for sharing yourself in this way. And for this last summary.

[seeker630]

Few of us grow up without being conflicted in some degree about being gay, Leap Year, but you last post leaves me wondering: Do you actually wish to be straight or do you wish for the things (love, kids, home, family life, place in community) that you associate with being straight?

 

For me it's always been difficult to disentangle the two but they are not really the same.

 

MSGuy,

I think that's a very perceptive comment. When I wished I was straight, it wasn't really the sexual orientation that was the issue but rather the perceived benefits - the idyllic marriage people of my generation were indoctrinated with and perhaps the wish not to be 'different' (i.e., outside the mainstream).

[+ Tygerscent]

So many straight people seem to be at least "bi"... I just wish they would come clean with it and stop persecuting other people who are honest about it all?

 

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[leigh.bess.toad]

Leap Year,

Thanks for starting a very thought-provoking discussion and for sharing yourself in this way. And for this last summary.

 

As seeker as done, thank you Leap Year. This may have been one of the best threads I have ever been a part of on the forum. It has been so revealing and though provoking. Thank you so much.

[hunkymuscles]

I did the str8 thing for many years. I'm now openly gay and can proudly say that I'm 100% gay and have no problem with it at all. http://www.daddysreviews.com/review/raul_sf

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[JT Brooklyn]

Straight Hell No..RICH Hell Yes!

[Leap Year]

Thanks again for your generous comments. To answer a couple of you:

 

Tyger and MSGuy asked pretty much the same question: "I am wondering if your question is really something like: "Does anyone else wish that straight people, religions and various laws would accept gay preferences just like others such that being gay would not be such an oppressive experience?" and "Do you actually wish to be straight or do you wish for the things (love, kids, home, family life, place in community) that you associate with being straight?

 

This is certainly thought provoking. I don't know the answer to this. But you have me thinking. Thanks!

 

To hunkymuscles and all of the other members who have been married (to a woman) or were in committed relationships and had kids, I respect your decisions to go this route. I'll bet you are all great fathers. Could I have done this? No... for two reasons: first, as I said, I am not sexually attracted to females at all. There is no way I could have had sex with one and had kids; secondly, my personal belief is that I couldn't have deprived the woman I loved of my whole being. Since I couldn't have been true to her and satisfied her totally and committedly sexually, I think it would have been unfair to her. Please understand that this is just my personal position. I am totally non-judgmental of others who have chosen different paths. Out of high school, I truly believe that I loved my high school girlfriend. I don't think she knew that I was gay, but she may have thought so. She wanted to talk marriage. First, we were waaayyyy to young. Secondly, she said she didn't care that much about the sexual aspect of marriage ( I didn't believe her!). Third, I knew she wanted kids. So, I let her go off to college in one part of the country while I went to college 2000 miles away. We kept in touch throughout the year. On our first summer home, she told me she had found someone. I was sooo glad I made the decision I did and at the same time, sad and sorry for myself. But, in my mind, I made the right decision for her, and for that I am happy. She married this guy upon graduation. I went to their wedding and was happy for them both. All these years later, they are still together and have a great son.

 

I want to thank you all again for having this great discussion without sniping nor joking, nor getting too far off tangent. I have so enjoyed reading all of your replies.

[bcohen7719]

OK, guys, here's the answer to this question.

 

BC

 

[video=youtube;UfUTqawwI_Q]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UfUTqawwI_Q

[Guest]

There was a movie several years back I really enjoyed in which a gay guy, perhaps a senior in high school, bemoans being gay in a straight-dominated society. Something (I don't remember what) happens, and he's in an alternate universe in which gays are the majority, and "breeders" are bullied and discriminated against. Anyone here remember the name of that movie?