Difficult to cum with condoms

[HardnThick]

Of course, I always use condoms....however, there is such a loss in sensitivity for me (I'm a top) that I can hardly ever cum while fucking. I can do it for a long time, in different positions but invariably have to eventually pull out and ask to be "finished" manually.

 

This inability to cum inside my very close friend has become an emotional disappointment for me (and I think for him).

 

So many brands claim "increased sensitivity." Anybody know one that actually does?

[Guest fukamarine]

>Of course, I always use condoms....however, there is such a

>loss in sensitivity for me (I'm a top) that I can hardly

>ever cum while fucking. I can do it for a long time, in

>different positions

 

Well I don't mean to sound flippant, and I'm sure it is a problem for you and your boyfriend, but speaking strictly for myself and as a dedicated bottom, I would feel as if I had just won the lottery :-)

 

fukamarine

[chrismac]

Hard -

 

First - it's great that you can stay true to your nickname while wearing a condom - many cannot. In the interest of safety for both you and your partner, some things just have to be sacrificed. A small sacrifice, I think all would agree, compared to the risks of HIV and other STDs.

 

Unless the two of you are committed to monogamy, plan to stay that way, and get tested several times between now and 6 months from now (and, assuming you both test negative throughout the process), and thus can feel comfortable engaging in sex without protection - you should enjoy each other safely.

 

Besides, I think it's kinda hot to see each other come, rather than having it hidden inside. Neither of you should feel that by not coming inside your partner, you don't "feel" as hot about your encounters.

 

I haven't heard of any condoms that provide increased sensation while reducing risk at the same time. They all advertise these benefits - but most of them feel the same to me.

[Rod Hagen]

I've never come from topping. I've never come from bottoming. I've never come from a blow job, and I've never come from someone else's hand. In the 4 years I've been having gay sex, the only way I've ever been able to come is by using my own hand (and even then it takes ForFuckingEver). How messed up is that? Actually at this point I'm ready to concede that it's not one of my hundreds of mental hangups, but an actual physical impediment: different from other boys, as it were.

 

Of course it's bueno for my happy bottoms because I never stop. Even if he comes, if he's still in the mood to keep going, I'm sure as hell game for it. WOOF and OINK! It's a good thing that my second favorite bedroom-kitchen, bathroom, pantry-activity is Pounding Ass (number one being kissing/Cuddling). My orgasm is NOT my main priortity.

[Guest Merlin]

I suggest you try different types of condums. The Trojan Magnum and Magnum Extra Large allow for a looser fit and more movement within the condum. Trojan also sells a dry non-lubricated model. Perhaps if it is dry inside, it will provide more friction.

[Bob]

Oh, how I feel your pain. Back in my lusty youth I was a total top. I lived for the joy, the ecstacy of sliding my unfettered cock into a tight, warm ass and pounding to explosive orgasm. When AIDS hit the hinterlands that all stopped of course. I've tried all sorts of condoms but have found none that will allow me to cum. I've often wondered if it's a psychological quirk but it's so, so frustrating. Only recently have I given up and am in training as a bottom.

[Guest Merlin]

I would like to know if the guys who have trouble cuming while topping with condums are uncircumsized or not. I think it is more of a problem with the uncircumsized, since the condum prevents the foreskin from moving up and down on the edge of the head, and the foreskin insulates the head from friction. Anyone agree or disagree?

[+ honcho]

I'm circumsized, and am also almost never able to cum inside a condom. The "Avanti" utrathin polyurethane condoms felt great, but the 4 times I've tried them, they broke in 3 of the instances. I've given up on them. (But still use regular condoms and just finish off manually).

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

let's get physical

 

>I've never come from topping. I've never come from

>bottoming. I've never come from a blow job, and I've never

>come from someone else's hand. In the 4 years I've been

>having gay sex, the only way I've ever been able to come is

>by using my own hand (and even then it takes

>ForFuckingEver). How messed up is that? Actually at this

>point I'm ready to concede that it's not one of my hundreds

>of mental hangups, but an actual physical impediment:

>different from other boys, as it were.

 

It takes me forever to come but that is not a problem as I can come inside someone while fucking. My problem is coming in someone from oral sex. Beyond the safe sex issues, it is not something I can do even if I wanted to.

 

In my case, as I an uncircumcized, I find certain condoms work better than others but I have no problem with an orgasm. My problem is that I often make my partner come before I do and I am very loath to finish myself manually. Unless it is something I have agreed to do beforehand with a client, it is something I do not do at all - with a partner.

 

>My orgasm is NOT my main priortity.

 

JeffOH, and other escorts (I believe Jake Walker has commented on this, I know Rick Munroe has in other ways) have all reflected this belief and I think the really good escorts do have this attitude, including the desire to orgasm, even if doing so requires manual stimulation by our own hands, if that is what the client has requested and desires.

 

Back to the issues raised in this post, I can state I like the Maxxum and Kimono brand condoms, particularly the Beyond 7s. The Ultrathin polyurethane do tend to break and I also have seen studies suggesting they are not the best as preventing STDs as standard condoms but I would need to research that issue again. I can state that with me they have torn.

 

If you are well endowed, I would suggest you consider the Reality condom which would be inserted in the receptive partner. It was discussed at length several months ago on this Board.

 

Good luck!

[Guest Tomcal_]

>I've never come from topping. I've never come from

>bottoming. I've never come from a blow job, and I've never

>come from someone else's hand. In the 4 years I've been

>having gay sex, the only way I've ever been able to come is

>by using my own hand (and even then it takes

>ForFuckingEver). How messed up is that? Actually at this

>point I'm ready to concede that it's not one of my hundreds

>of mental hangups, but an actual physical impediment:

>different from other boys, as it were.

>

>Of course it's bueno for my happy bottoms because I never

>stop. Even if he comes, if he's still in the mood to keep

>going, I'm sure as hell game for it. WOOF and OINK! It's a

>good thing that my second favorite bedroom-kitchen,

>bathroom, pantry-activity is Pounding Ass (number one being

>kissing/Cuddling). My orgasm is NOT my main priortity.

 

Thanks for the above...I thought I was the only one with this "problem"!! I could have written the above Quote(except for the bottoming part, haven't done that ). }>

[Bob]

Interesting point. I am uncircumcised even though the foreskin is normally retracted. As I said, I absolutely cannot cum with a condom, and occasionally after a hard pounding the foreskin is chafed and blistered.

[HardnThick]

I’m relieved to learn that other guys also find it difficult to cum while wearing condoms.

 

Anyone figured out how to solve this problem? Particular brand of condoms? Technique? Position?

 

It would be ever so much more emotionally satisfying to climax while inside my friend (for both of us). Or am I asking the impossible?

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Technique

 

>Anyone figured out how to solve this problem? Particular

>brand of condoms? Technique? Position?

 

I commented on condom brands, I will also comment on positions. Many clients, especially the straight and bisexual ones, as well as many partners, like to be on their backs so we can see each other, especially at the moment of orgasm, and also, if they like to kiss, so we can do this while fucking. I can come easily in this position if the man I am with can be patient as in general I am known for taking my time. If the client really wants me to orgasm or I am having problem, I find what works for me personal is to stand behind him, on the edge of the bed, while he is on his hands and knees in front of me, and to slam into his ass. Watching the interplay of his back muscles and my hard dick go inside his ass always does the trick for me.

 

>It would be ever so much more emotionally satisfying to

>climax while inside my friend (for both of us). Or am I

>asking the impossible?

 

Not at all, it is exceptionally satisfying to do this mutually, at the exact time, which I have been lucky enough to manage with certain partners frequently. It may be that your partners may need more foreplay and a little more gentleness to keep up with you, this is the lesson I had to learn over time, which I think has made me a good partner and not just a good top.

[btmstudnyc]

RE: Technique

 

, I find what works for me personal is to

>stand behind him, on the edge of the bed, while he is on his

>hands and knees in front of me, and to slam into his ass.

>Watching the interplay of his back muscles and my hard dick

>go inside his ass always does the trick for me.

>

 

 

I'll be right over!!!!

 

Jim

 

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