Questions about Sucking

[12is12]

Hi Guys,

 

When fixing a date with an escort who's into sucking (describes himself as "bottom" or "oral both", etc.), should it be taken for granted that he sucks without condom and that the client can cum in his mouth, or should these things be asked in advance?

 

I'm aware of the consensus that it's always best to make expectations clear in advance, but:

1) I don't feel comfortable asking such questions;

2) it mights sound a bit like asking a top whether he fucks...

 

Thanks.

[Steven_Draker]

should it be taken for granted that he sucks without condom and that the client can cum in his mouth, or should these things be asked in advance?

 

12is12 thank you for asking. I wouldn't assume or take for granted anything when it comes to sex with an escort because everyone would have a different appreciation and vision. I would take it case by case. For me sucking without a condom would be fine, however cumming in the mouth is a big no-no. Why would you feel uncomfortable asking these questions? You can ask the escort ahead of time if it's important for you to make your hiring decision or in many cases you can ask in the heat of the action "where can I cum?" or "can I cum in your mouth?" and you'll get a frank and direct reply. Please, don't assume or take it for granted that you can cum in his mouth (if you don't know what his policy is or don't have a 'permission') as some would find it very inappropriate.

 

I hope others will chime in as well and give their opinions.

[leigh.bess.toad]

should it be taken for granted that he sucks without condom and that the client can cum in his mouth, or should these things be asked in advance?

 

Hi 12is12. I'm going to have to agree completely with Steven on this. I know this can be an uncomfortable conversation for some to have with an escort, but is certainly something they have heard many times before. From my experience, I have never encountered an escort who wants a condom worn during oral sex. However, I do know that there are escorts that do, so if you want to be absolutely sure, you must ask. However, the cumming in the mouth is quite a bit clearer to me. I do not have this conversation with the escort because my default assumption is that they will NOT swallow my cum. If they are interested, they will let me know through their actions at the appropriate time. That way they are instigator and doing something they would like to do. The other way seems more aggressive than need be. Swallowing cum has been a heated discussion on the forums before, just among guys debating it among themselves. Some guys acquire a taste for it, some guys don't. And I'd say it's probably pretty evenly split. So if you really feel terribly uncomfortable having this conversation, you need to assume that the escort will NOT swallow your cum. That to me seems the only way to do it without talking about it.

[Diverdan]

I agree with Lee and SD. You should assume that the escort will NOT swallow, unless he tells you otherwise. As with most other aspects of the encounter, frank and open conversation ahead of time is always the best policy. It might change in the heat of the moment, but most guys IMHO do not want to swallow. Enjoy the open communication before you meet, as that adds to the fun and expectation of the encounter.

DD

[Guest IndyMedic2006]

12is12 thank you for asking. I wouldn't assume or take for granted anything when it comes to sex with an escort[/color]

 

I would have to agree with Steven.... take nothing for granted. As I have recently been telling a member of the forum, communication is key to making the experience good for everyone. If you arent open about what you want, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. It can be a bit embarrassing, but if you do it quick like a bandaid it will be over and you can move on to somethings more fun to think about.