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[Guest greatness]

Yes you are so correct. Kisses and hugs~~~~

 

Let me guess ... in front of your computer?[/color]

[best hotel]

sorry i am late.....welcome back purplekow, and please stick around......hang in there tomcat.....and ryan, if that is you, welcome back to you, too, and, having been there, i can tell you it is best to let it go

[Guest countryboywny]

I have spent most of my time on this board reading posts, commenting where I thought humorous or when something touched me or hit close to home. I've always avoided threads that turn ugly or controversial because that's just not me. I respect anyone's privilege to post here whether I personally agree or not, or whether I find it offensive or not. It is not my job to judge or try the control other people's posts. I take what I read here at face value and move on. I walk the walk that NYTomcat has walked. I'm married with children and I'm at the very least bi, and more probably gay. Tom's posts about his journey have been of great benefit to me because it helps me to know that I am not alone, and reading about his thoughts and experiences have helped me a great deal.

 

Having said all that, I'm at a loss to understand Zack's attacks on Tom. Tom has chosen to openly discuss his progress through life. I don't feel that it is/was an attempt to gain attention by an ego maniac as Zack suggests. It's clear to me that Zack has some sort of vendetta against Tom and is playing it out on this forum. As a "life long gay man", Zack seems to have a problem with those of us who haven't lead that lifestyle. He thinks that only "out" gay men read this forum and therefore have no interest in what Tom writes. I think that is totally wrong. I think that there are probably more men reading this forum that are located in very many points along the gay-straight spectrum. We all have our reasons for living our lives the way we do. I have never found anything but empathy and acceptance from gay men who know my plight and my reasons for living that way. The attempt to ridicule Tom's posts as ego centric and fantasy, well it just doesn't sit well with me. Now, I don't know Tom, I have never had any "private" communication with him, but I would be very proud to be his friend.

 

If Zack has a problem with Tom, then they should resolve it privately. I know this is running on, but I also wanted to comment on Mr. Draker's post. I took it as very unsupportive of Tom to say that he is living in a fantasy world, this coming from a man who makes his income helping men live out their fantasies. I don't get it.

[gp0560]

I'm married with children and I'm at the very least bi, and more probably gay . . . I have never found anything but empathy and acceptance from gay men who know my plight and my reasons for living that way.

 

I'm in a very similar situation, except that the only gay men who know about my situation are escorts. It surprised me when two of them tried to convince me to come out, that I wasn't being honest if I didn't.

 

Any comment?

[Guest greatness]

Well if you are unhappy about your situation and want to change it then I guess it's better to come out. It's a very hard decision. Whatever you decided to do, you have our support. I personally didn't have to come out. People just know.

[leigh.bess.toad]

I'm in a very similar situation, except that the only gay men who know about my situation are escorts.

 

Well you and I both know that statement isn't entirely true. I know of at least one gay man who knows your situation quite well. And you'd better quickly inform me that one of the two escorts who said you weren't being honest isn't who I think it is. Because that doesn't sound like him and I would be disappointed if it were.

 

You don't owe it to anyone except yourself to decide how to make that decision. While I certainly appreciate when we have high profile "names" who come out, I vehemently disagree with out-ing someone simply because of some celebrity status they have. You do not owe it to "the gay community" to come out. The community I'm sure would welcome you with open arms if you did come out. But it will also get along with your public acknowledgement. You owe only yourself the best way for you to handle your business and your life.

 

That's wll, no one else.

 

 

 

And I thought you were on your way to the Carribean. What is it with you guys? Greatness is supposed to be in Hawaii and gives hints he's not. You're supposed to be in Jamaica and you're here. DO I NEED TO EXPLAIN THE MEANING OF THE PHRASE TROPICAL PARADISE. Neither of them include the state you currently reside in. HELL, IF YOU DON'T WANT TO GO, SEND ME YOUR PLANE TICKET. MY ASS IS OUT OF HERE!

 

If I'm really, really lucky, I get a weekend in Bumfuck, West Virginia.

 

<sigh>

[Guest greatness]

lol Lee, next time you will be invited to join me. I went there only for the conference portion and flew right back. I just have to vote, yes or no most of the time and I could take a couple of days there but decided not to. Been there many times and I was very lonely. I'm going through a personal crisis that I would like to share when the time is appropriate but not just now. I will come up visit you sometime. Kisses and hugs~~~