Sigh- Where is my prince who would say such a sweet thing!

[Guest greatness]

So in Laura Bush's book, Spoken from the Heart, there is a part it really touched my heart. Her dad served in the army during the WWII. While he was stationed in Europe, he wrote letters to his newly wed wife. In one letter, he wrote her that he didn't go to a club and have too many beers with his friends, "because then I get to missing you so much that I can't stand it" It was so sweet of him and it made me wet my eyes. I want my prince to be like that! lol.. I have given up meeting a prince though because a few guys I met want only younger hot guys to play with and don't want any meaningful relationship or one wanted only open relationship at best. Of coure I'm a bit imposing and not so attractive too. :o Who can blame them.. Sigh.. So I've decided to move on long time ago. I thought about adopting a child which was my the other dream but kids are not pets and I'm not sure I will be a good parent by myself. I will probably spoil my kid to death if I don't have someone to supervise me lol. So I recently decided not to adopt a child after giving a deep thought about it.

It is likely my two dreams will not come true. I hired escorts to console myself and to know what's like being with a guy, although it really helped me learn a lot, (thank you all, we should have a national thank you day for hard working escorts!) and I had good times, but hiring escorts made me more depressed and sad so I've decided not to hire anymore. I have ended my relationship with a former escort that I've been keeping in touch with for years last month.

 

I'm starting a new life and so be ready to be surprised to see THE new greatness. First thing I'm going to do is get my hair done and get a new pair of shoes. I will start from there.

 

 

Maybe I will get these two pairs.. Those are lovely~~~

 

[doitb4ugo]

Love

 

Greatness,

 

That was very moving. First, I want to thank you for the sweetness and light that you bring to the folks here. Your positive outlook is a powerful weapon which will aid you on your continued journey to new places.

 

It never seems it but life generally gives you many twists and turns but through it all, I believe, we grow and become even stronger and more attune to what our journey is all about.

 

Wishing you blue skies and much happiness.

 

P.S. I love the red oriental shoes the best.

[Guest greatness]

I know

 

I know they are so lovely... They should make something like those for men too.

 

P.S. I love the red oriental shoes the best.

[firsttimer]

Aww, greatness you know I'm a supporter of you adopting! I'll make sure you don't spoil her! I come from a very strict and stern upbringing anyways so I'd balance you out. And I'm a no to those red shoes for you, unless you want to buy them for your future daughter and save them

[Guest greatness]

lol

 

Thanks firsttimer~~~ It is dreadful to go through those adoption processes.. It makes me wonder whether I'm really qualified for that, seriously... I will send her to firsttimer bootcamp every summer and she doesn't have to worry when she gets sick. I don't have to worry about two things... lol...

 

Aww, greatness you know I'm a supporter of you adopting! I'll make sure you don't spoil her! I come from a very strict and stern upbringing anyways so I'd balance you out. And I'm a no to those red shoes for you, unless you want to buy them for your future daughter and save them

[josephga]

You will love having a child. I got sick of meeting people that wanted a open relationship. Id rather be alone that in that sort of relationship because if your not happy then your alone any way. I wanted a child but the guys I dated never did. Then 4 years ago A army buddy came to me with a offer. I knew his wife from our school years together and him from the service. They had one child already a little boy going on 5 years old, but due to an illness he couldn't father a second child. I figured with no child of my own I could at least give the gift of happiness to someone else. So I fathered their child. I get to see him a few times a year and he knows who I am.

[orbital sander]

"I had good times, but hiring escorts made me more depressed and sad so I've decided not to hire anymore"

 

I remember a regular poster (not sure who, maybe he is still here) on this forum when it was still called Hooboys. He used to state very seriously that he would only hire an escort one time and then move on. At that time I thought that sounded very odd, but as time went on I began to understand what may have been his reasoning. Getting attached to an escort for some folks could be very depressing, especially if you are "substituting" on some level (possibly subconsciously). Perhaps you can hire occasionally if you are on a trip and there is a natural ending when you go home?

 

 

Greatness,

 

I do not know you, but you seem to be a very sensitive and kind person from what I have read in your posts. I wished I had the answer for you, but advice is cheap as they say (or used to say anyway...). I will, however, suggest this: Concentrate on taking care of yourself, if you feel that you are out of shape, perhaps you can work on that. The person who is worthy of a kind and loving guy like you will care less about age and your size and more about who you are as a person. If you feel you need to make changes, do it for you...not to snag Mr. right. I am not sure how many years you have on this ball of dirt, but it is never too late to care about ourselves, and in doing so good people become more interested...

 

If you happen to be in Portland, I will even walk with you if you want to get some exercise... and talk.

 

Take care of yourself,

 

OS

[josephga]

"I had good times, but hiring escorts made me more depressed and sad so I've decided not to hire anymore"

 

I remember a regular poster (not sure who, maybe he is still here) on this forum when it was still called Hooboys. He used to state very seriously that he would only hire an escort one time and then move on. At that time I thought that sounded very odd, but as time went on I began to understand what may have been his reasoning. Getting attached to an escort for some folks could be very depressing, especially if you are "substituting" on some level (possibly subconsciously). Perhaps you can hire occasionally if you are on a trip and there is a natural ending when you go home?

 

 

Greatness,

 

I do not know you, but you seem to be a very sensitive and kind person from what I have read in your posts. I wished I had the answer for you, but advice is cheap as they say (or used to say anyway...). I will, however, suggest this: Concentrate on taking care of yourself, if you feel that you are out of shape, perhaps you can work on that. The person who is worthy of a kind and loving guy like you will care less about age and your size and more about who you are as a person. If you feel you need to make changes, do it for you...not to snag Mr. right. I am not sure how many years you have on this ball of dirt, but it is never too late to care about ourselves, and in doing so good people become more interested...

 

If you happen to be in Portland, I will even walk with you if you want to get some exercise... and talk.

 

Take care of yourself,

 

OS

 

 

I agree with you. Iv only had one hookup in my life. it was after a relationship ended. it was Christmas i didn't want to be alone at Christmas. the guy was an escort i knew however i didn't have to pay him. we went to dinner to the movies, he brought me flowers then we spent the night together. After he left the next day I felt sad and depressed.

[NYTomcat]

I have limited my escorting significantly. After having my first experience. I Just wanted to meet men. After a few non professional hookups I realized that I needed a connection To really enjoy sex. I mean the anonymous was fun but just left me feeling empty and alone

 

So I have stuck with the couple of escorts who I talk to regularly .. who know my life and I've gotten To know theirs. Its not a relationship but im not in a position for that so it is the closest substitute. I've also been blessed enough to meet a really special poster (yeah a civilian)here on the board and share Some special times with him. I am not saying im looking for monogamy. Im too new to even consider it. But I am enjoying meeting men and having some truly bonding and fun sexual experiences.

 

So g I applaud your decision as in time it will probably be mine. But im not Where you are yet. Though may I say I do respect the decisions and the feelings you express about hiring as the mark of a deeply feeling individual. I'd consider joining you if I wasn't still just discoving my own sexual identity.

[whipped guy]

A New Era

 

Greatness... You really are blessed in that you are able to look at most any situation from an optimistic point of view. That is my philosophy, but at times it is easier said than done. When faced with adversity I always ask myself, "What is the worst thing that can happen?" That gets me to often realize that it is something that I can somehow overcome. I think that you are so gifted with such a mindset, that you instinctively know what the deal is from the very beginning and are able to continue effectively from the outset.

 

Also, it is obvious that you are a kind individual and very thoughtful to boot! So being equipped with these qualities certainly is a recipe for success no matter what path you ultimately choose and how you eventually decide to travel down that road. In addition, you are a smart guy so I am quite confident that you will definitely make the correct and proper decisions as the “Epoch of the New Greatness” emerges. And as that era comes to see the light of day, I know that you are sharp enough to realize that something such as a new pair of shoes is really not necessary to achieve your goals as you already possess the personality, character, and aptitude that have you primed for success in this crazy adventure that we call “life”!

 

Bring on the New Greatness!

[Guest greatness]

oh my

 

You are so sweet. That child is so lucky~~.

 

You will love having a child. I got sick of meeting people that wanted a open relationship. Id rather be alone that in that sort of relationship because if your not happy then your alone any way. I wanted a child but the guys I dated never did. Then 4 years ago A army buddy came to me with a offer. I knew his wife from our school years together and him from the service. They had one child already a little boy going on 5 years old, but due to an illness he couldn't father a second child. I figured with no child of my own I could at least give the gift of happiness to someone else. So I fathered their child. I get to see him a few times a year and he knows who I am.

[Guest greatness]

Thank you!!

 

Thank you all for your nice words~~~. I am not depressed or anything. It's time for me to move on and try something new. But thank you all for your support and encouragement. You guys rock~~. I usually focus on things that I can do instead of I can't do. I can't have everything in my life but I can appreciate what I have and enjoy them. I have you all as my princes so I am the luckiest princess in the world. lol.. Kisses and hugs~~

[Guest greatness]

Thanks

 

Thank you orbital sander for your offer... It would be a nice walk with you.. You are too kind~~~

[rvwnsd]

Greatness:

Kudos to you for a) realizing that hiring was no longer working for you and b) doing something about it. Many people repeat the same behavior and complain about the result.

 

I hope you continue posting here, despite your decision. You always remain positive and kind. Your posts are always a breath of fresh air.

 

PS: I can't decide which pair I like better, so I suggest you get both of them. When you feel daring, you could wear one design on one foot and the other design on the other foot.

[best hotel]

greatness...some unsolicited advice here....i hope you will indulge me......just a thought....consider trying to be the prince for some other lonely guy....there are alot of us out there just waiting for the glass slipper or choo shoe to fit....flip it

[Guest greatness]

oh my~~~

 

Oh my you are so perspective~~~ Thanks~~~ That's right...

 

From Gone With The Wind..

 

Scarlet: " .... I'll think of some way to get him back (some way to be find a prince or be a prince.) After all tomorrow is another day"

 

[Guest greatness]

Thanks

 

I love you and your cat and it's great to have a loving relationship like that! I can see that in your post you are a very kind and loving person..

 

I know I would get them both though~~

 

Greatness:

 

PS: I can't decide which pair I like better, so I suggest you get both of them. When you feel daring, you could wear one design on one foot and the other design on the other foot.