For those who use other sites outside of escorting...

[JoeyBryant]

How upfront are you about your profession? Being that, say you are listed on a dating or social networking site...do you mention anything about being a male companion/escort?

 

Reason being is because I recently took a hiatus from the social networking sites because I would have people 'find out' I was an escort...and it was just too predictable to have someone come to me later on saying, "can I ask you a question..." And before I would even reply I say, "yes I am, where did you see my ad?"

 

I'm thinking about just listing it right away somewhere on my profile, but there tends to be so many ignorant people out there who don't understand it. So to have to put up with unnecessary 'banter' would be even more grounds to not be on other such social networking sites. Not that I could give a f**k about it anyways, but obviously I wouldn't be there for people's stupidity.

 

What do you say...should I be completely upfront, or just say something later on? If so, when do you usually mentioned it?

[Diverdan]

Agree with Anton

 

Once on the social networking sites you can never get it back, and you never know what some mean spirited person is going to do with that information. There are a lot of crazy people who troll the internet for information just to be mean spirited. It is one reason I will never have a face book account. I do use other sites but make the information only available to close friends.

[JoeyBryant]

I also learned that you can have friends whom you think you can trust your life. Then something silly goes wrong, and some of them will try to hurt you as much as they can (not all of them, but there are those who will).

 

Ok, either you just know how it is or you can see right thru what I've been dealing with lately! I noticed you said your friend being a 'she', perhaps that needs to be a lesson to many gay guys as they feel that women are these Holy, sanctified, Virgin Marys who will never do a gay friend wrong under any circumstances, and that other gay men are not to be trusted

 

My most recent 'encounter' was with someone I've known for several months, another working buddy. Sparing the details, he's now doing his best to get me 'off the scene'. Its unfortunant that I didnt find out he was just envious from day 1. Too many days, too many chances. Now enough is enough.

 

Anyhow, Im pretty much over most of the networking sites though, I havent been on myspace in years...just lost interest in it. All the stupid starry photographs and virtual bling was just so elementary and childish. Yet there's 24 and 25 year old men still spending hours on end creating those fairy-like photos. And their too busy to meet an actual human being?

 

I've found it difficult to meet mature men off the sites currently available e.g. Adam. They're either too caught up with the bars or the online hunt.

[Guest Wetnwildbear]

Well Comrade

 

How upfront are you about your profession? Being that, say you are listed on a dating or social networking site...do you mention anything about being a male companion/escort?QUOTE]

 

 

I generally say that I am employed, white collar, well educated, stable.

 

Other than that if people press for a specific occupation in the circumstances described -

 

I usually say that I am an organizer for either the Communist Party or the Tea Party.

 

Amazing how close the propoganda is between the two - But they both have

 

Totalitarian goals - just with a different marketing strategy.

[body2body]

I have hired on a regular basis a guy who has always been very disceet about his personal life outside our appointments. We communicate mostly by email. One day at work I get a request from a business associate to join Linkedin. So I do, and one step in the process is that it shows you all your contacts that are also members. Up pops this guys email address, full name, and his position. He happens to be a high level administrator in a state office. I suddenly had his full name, title, employer, educational background, and even his office phone number in front of me. I freaked out and just deleted everything, because I knew this was information he never wanted me to have. I have never said anything to him about the incident, but this thread leads me to believe that maybe I should.

[JoeyBryant]

I have never said anything to him about the incident, but this thread leads me to believe that maybe I should.

 

Now, thats just a little too 'personal' and social. I haven't used that site before...but it sounds deeper than myspace and facebook.

 

But agreeing with Wet, I guess its similar to what anyone else would put down for work. Im also very aware of parasites out there who like to think escorts have billions under the mattress (or who think their escort friend can lend them money whenever they ask for it ).

 

In some cases as well, people tend to 'abbreviate' their job status on their profiles. You know, instead of saying CEO of Boeing...they may say 'management'.

 

I still havent worked up signing on any of the social networking sites yet. Reading all this makes me in no rush to do so.

[josephga]

You never know who's looking on facebook. Most people use their real first and last name on that site. I had a girl message me this morning. She remembered me from her first grade class, She is looking for everyone she went to elementary school with. So far she has found 12 of us. I see people all the time on face book I haven't see in 20 years I never contact them. I grew up in a very small town full of rednecks and small minds and very homophobic types. I personally prefer not to see those from the past..