Can "massage" = "sex"?

[Guest Jonas]

My first thread, I hope I am not breaking any rules.

 

Sometimes I get phone calls about massage. I don't provide this and take extra care to never tick that option wherever I am listed. Is it possible that for some people the word is an euphemism for sexual favors?

 

The problem is, I could say massage it is then but if the guy actually expects such a thing he would be pretty disappointed. And no, I don't want to learn how to actually provide massages.

 

Thanks for your time.

[+ deej]

The two are commonly mixed up. It's just as much a problem for legitimate massage providers who constantly deal with clients that think they'll put out just because they offer massages. In some of the flyover states, "massage parlor" is considered a thinly-veiled cover for prostitution. (And to make things worse, it sometimes *is*!)

 

You best approach is to be honest with your callers. If massage isn't your thing, tell them.

[Guest greatness]

well

 

I tend to separate those two. I hire a male licensed therapist occasionally and he gives me a great massage. I got massages from several escorts who claim they have a license and it was TERRIBLE! Never again. Thank you for being honest though some escorts tell you they are licensed but actually not. I had to show one guy how to give massage one time. I was so good he gave me a discount. For me a good massage is better than sex!

 

My first thread, I hope I am not breaking any rules.

 

Sometimes I get phone calls about massage. I don't provide this and take extra care to never tick that option wherever I am listed. Is it possible that for some people the word is an euphemism for sexual favors?

 

The problem is, I could say massage it is then but if the guy actually expects such a thing he would be pretty disappointed. And no, I don't want to learn how to actually provide massages.

 

Thanks for your time.

[Guest Spanky]

Twice a month I get a hard core sports massage. It's from a legit business that does massage, personal training, nutritional counseling, etc. I do this to recover from my various sporting endeavors. It's deep tissue and it HURTS, so there is no way I'm getting aroused during it. Plus, the therapist is a lesbian, which further kills any erotic inkling I may have.

 

Sometimes I just want a relaxing "de-stressing" massage. So I go to a gay guy that is also a licensed therapist that gives legit massages. Yes, he'll do it in the nude, but he is not an escort and there is no release at the end of the session. I want a gay guy for this type of massage because then I'm not embarrassed when I get aroused, which I usually do (hey, it happens!). I was upfront with this guy before I started seeing him, and told him I just wanted a massage and nothing else and he was cool with it. My advice is that you just talk openly with whomever you want to hire and make your expectations clear. Then if he's not up for it (whatever "it" is) then just move on to the next guy.

[Guest Spanky]

Sorry Jonas, I read your post wrong. Sounds like YOU are the guy BEING hired, in which case just make it clear to your client what you offer so that he's not disappointed.

 

Apologies. I've been oogling that damn cam4 site all day and my brain is not working at all.

[Diverdan]

Be clear in what you say and do

 

There are some who advertize both massage and more. Some are very good at both, but usually the two don't mix very well. I have had some incredible therapeutic massages without anything more, even though I would consider it somewhat sensual. But the focus was on an excellent massage and sometimes we are both nude and sometimes not. I agree that one needs to be specific as to boundaries on both sides. There is nothing worse than someone who pretends that they are a massage therapist and they don't know the first thing about massage.

 

I have also had the pleasure of a great massage that evolved into something more, but only because both of us were interested in going that direction. I can think of a couple of guys who are versatile in the sense that they are incredibly good massage therapists, but also enjoy other interaction. One of the best escorts I ever had was also a chiropracter and an incredible therapeutic massage therapist. Unfortunately he retired from both escorting and massage and is happily living with a partner and has an incredible life.

 

This is a long answer to simply say, be specific on what you will or won't do, what your "expertise" might be and if you are not a masseur, be quite specific with your clients in advance of meeting. Better you turn down business ahead of time than disappoint a client later.

 

Good luck and enjoy what you do !!!!

[instudiocity]

You could say, "There's only one muscle I massage and that one until it's soft."

 

But seriously, if I want a massage. I don't want sex. I don't ever want anything but a nap at the end of a good hard massage. Sex must come before the message cuz I'm taking a nap once I'm nice and relaxed.

[whipped guy]

It's deep tissue and it HURTS, so there is no way I'm getting aroused during it.

Spanky not liking something that HURTS!?!? As first I was surprised... BUT...

 

 

...the therapist is a lesbian, which further kills any erotic inkling I may have.

That would kill it for me as well!

[Guest OCBeachbody]

Well I do not know what types of massages you offer, but from what I told some friends before and others is the general code is "full release" which would imply that the client "get's off". From experience and from what I learned from other full release can occur in the form of a simple hand job, oral, self hand job + oral, or just straight to sex (which is why 90% of the time of pass the whole full release).

Another thing too is comfort level, if I do ever ask for the special release, it may be after my 3rd or fourth massage. See how do dynamics are between me and my masseur... if there are any ques... and by all communicate!! Like if I feel something is about to happen or its is going somewhere I don't like I redirect it.

 

Oh yeah some other keywords I have heard are "intense prostate message", "tantric relaxation", "mutual release", "intense intimate moments", etc...

[Guest greatness]

Actually

 

I think female massage therapists are sometimes better than male therapists~~ Female therapists hate me though because I'm so picky.

 

Spanky not liking something that HURTS!?!? As first I was surprised... BUT...

 

 

That would kill it for me as well!

[Guest Jonas]

Thanks for all the input!

 

The problem is, for some the word sex is a "dirty" one. So they use a suggestive placeholder. But this is not always so, some genuinely want to be squeezed (allover) by an escort.

 

So if I say no, there is a risk the shy guy would run away. If I say yes I can potentially disappoint a guy. Pretty complicated these calls

[Guest Spanky]

Spanky not liking something that HURTS!?!? As first I was surprised... BUT...

 

 

That would kill it for me as well!

 

HA! Whip - you don't even know me, but you know me too well!