Considering hiring an escort...

[Guest fnbs]

OK, so I'm considering hiring an escort for the first time. My 25th birthday is coming up, and I've always had very specific sexual fantasies, and despite the best efforts of my ex-bf's, I'd love to try it with a professional. But before I do, I have some questions, (sorry, I'm a total newbie to this).

 

1) Is an escort's rate just that? Or is it customary to "tip"? Cost is an issue to me; I'm more than willing to pay an asking rate, but not sure about any extra.

 

2) If I'm asking an escort for specific scenario/roles to happen, am I going to have to pay extra? In particular, one aspect of what I'm looking for is that I'd like him to be sweaty, unshowered, like just after a workout. Is that something that some escorts might charge more for?

 

3) How can I make it clear that I'm exchanging time for money, and that anything else that happens is unrelated? I want to make sure that I don't say anything dumb that might get me in trouble. That being said, am I just being paranoid, or do people really get busted for this?

 

4) Some escort's reviews are kinda sparing on what sort of "special requests" they're willing to accomodate. What I'm looking for is someone who will take a dominant role... I'd want the guy to be sweaty, and it would be kind of a "buff sweaty perv-minded jock gets an hour to do whatever he wants to the kid he found sniffing his old jockstrap" scene. Is this the kind of thing that I'd want to find an escort who specializes in dominant role play, or is this a fairly simple request that most escorts should be able to handle? What's the best way to make sure I'm not getting someone who is just saying they'll go along with it just to get me in the door, only to not really make an effort?

 

Thanks for any help, I'm looking to make my 25th bday an awesome one!

[+ blondeq]

Not sure if you only want escorts to reply, but I will give you my humble opinion.

1) rates don't include a tip. A tip is customary for service above and beyond normal. I am sure the escort appreciates any tip, but most will tell you that they don't expect it.

2) Generally, role play or specific scenes are part of the rate; that may change if you are asking for a session that requires a lot of pre-work by the escort or requires him to make any special purchases. However, your fantasy sounds fairly straight forward so I can't imagine an escort asking more for your scene.

3) If you are concerned about an escort being an undercover cop, just ask him if he is a cop. I wouldn't worry too much about making sure he understands that the money is for his time only. More than likely, that approach will give the escort the impression that you are a cop. I would suggest using a reviewed escort as this will dramatically decrease your potential legal exposure.

4) Picking the right escort is always a little tricky. However, be very frank and honest with the escort about what you are looking to do. Think with your big head and really listen to their responses. If the escort is getting into your fantasy, you'll know by his responses to your suggestions and questions. Go with an escort that seems enthusiastic about your fantasy. Finally, ask the escort questions such as, "how will you get sweaty before our session?" If he says he's going to dust his apartment, you may want to look for another escort; if he says he's going to go pump iron for 30 min then do a run for 20, you may have found mr. Right.

 

Good luck

[AdamSmith]

(1) Tipping is nice if you get a great session. But he should not expect it. Generosity on both sides of the equation is the key. Did he give you more than you expected? If so, give him more than was agreed. Especially if you feel you might like to see him again.

 

(2) Specific scenario/roles: Settle this in your up-front discussions with the escort. Sweaty/unshowered, IMO, would not generally be an extra-charge item. He may just ask that you adjust the timing to accommodate his gym schedule.

 

(3) Don't worry about a sting. (Unless the unlikely event there has been a recent reported upsurge in such police foolishness in your city.) Just be sensitive, in talking to the escort, what he is comfortable discussing openly. Because, from his viewpoint, he may want to know that you are not a cop.

 

(4) Special requests: Talk about this openly (even tho my caveats in 3 above apply!) with the escort. If he is not willing or comfortable to talk about your particular wants, move on to the next guy.

 

Best of luck!

[Guest greatness]

You can post here

 

You can ask about the person you want to hire and other posters will probably give you their opinions. I didn't have any problems with well reviewed escorts here. Your fantasy is like reading a porn movie script. Hot!

 

 

 

4) What's the best way to make sure I'm not getting someone who is just saying they'll go along with it just to get me in the door, only to not really make an effort?

 

Thanks for any help, I'm looking to make my 25th bday an awesome one!

[MiamiLooker]

Your fantasy sounds a bit like the first scene in Inch by Inch, where Tony Stefano catches two twinks (Steve Henson and Brian Estevez) in his apartment stealing his worn underwear, except that Tony has just showered.

 

Both blondeq and AdamSmith give good advice on your question 4. Maybe if you identify the city you're looking in, others can give you specific recommendations.

[josephga]

One thing that came up in this thread someone said if you are worried about cops just ask the escort if they are a cop? the police do not have to identify themselves as police when asked that's only in the movies.