Barebacking becoming the norm?

[Guest roninx]

I've noticed from my last dozen encounters [what can I say it has been a good few weeks ] that it seems that more and more men expect to bareback.

 

I find this very disturbing that they are willing to bareback knowing nothing about the person with which they are about to have sex.

 

It seems that barebacking has become "the norm" when the norm should be to use a condom all the time.

 

Only when I tell them to use a condom do they use it. Otherwise, they would have been quite willing to bareback.

 

Has anyone else noticed this trend? while I know no sex can be 100% safe what has happened to practicing SAFE SEX?

[+ deej]

It's sad but true. It *is* becoming the norm. (Not im MY bed, by the way!)

 

The porn community is in a pitched battle over whether to use condoms in videos, and that's just an echo of what guys are doing in their private lives.

 

It's been discussed, debate, preached, and beaten to death around here.

 

It's a personal choice. My choice is to make sure the pole is covered before it goes in the hole. Others make a different choice for any number of reasons.

[Prime Muscle]

I escort and I agree that barebacking is more common when my client is seeking a bottom. However, when my clients are seeking a top, they still usually prefer protection. I had a new client yesterday (he was looking for a bottom) that made sure I brought lube because he was traveling and didn't have any. He didn't have condoms either but didn't mention that. He obviously wasn't looking to use a condom even though my web page specifically states safe sex and we also discussed it before meeting. I never leave home without both.

 

Of course there are different levels of safe sex. Some guys won't give/receive blow jobs without condoms while some guys consider swallowing cum to be safe. For anal sex, some guys won't top/bottom without a condom while other guys define safe sex as no cum up the ass. It all depends on how much you know and trust your sex partner.

 

When escorting, I obviously do not know my client enough to know his sexual history so a higher level of safety is required. I personally don't use condoms for ORAL sex but if there are any open sores I will not continue. I won't consider anal sex without a condom. When I bottom, I honestly can't feel a difference between a wrapped or a raw cock anyway so why not be safe. When I top, I agree raw feels better but the good thing about wearing a condom when escorting (other than being safe) is that I can fuck longer and harder which the client wants.

[Guest chubsksesc]

Your observation is sad but true. I travel quite extensively and have encountered this phenomenon most everywhere I go. In my personal view, it is disturbing and selfish.

 

In a recent roundtable at Starbucks on Lincoln Rd. here in South Beach, a group of friends and I discussed this new trend. We were all amazed that people could be so selfish.

 

It's one thing if you are only putting yourself at risk, but you are putting yourself and your partner at risk. Even if you are both Poz, the exchange of your different strains of the virus are only going to make things worse.

 

Now some would argue. "If the guy wants to take the risk, it's on him." Bottom line, if you infect someone, at the end of the day, you may very well be condemning him to a lifetime of illness, harsh drug regiments or worse death.

 

If you see a man on a bridge peering down the side and he asks you to push him over do you????

 

Now as a big man, I have had my share of Chubby Chasers. But how insane are these new "Bug Chasers?" Just because some young kid wants to belong to your POZ fraternity, I again ask, do you give him the push off your bridge?

 

Bottom line, how selfish is it to risk the life of others over 30 Min. sexual pleasure.

[Dbltrblescorts]

Just thought I'd put my two cents in. I have come across alot of clients and escorts in recent months that dont seem to worried about safe sex which I classify as using a condom for any and all anal penetration. I dont understand why people are beginning to think it is ok. We are just as at risk now as we were 20 years ago to get things like HIV, its just that now there are so many drugs to control the virus and other STD's that people think it isnt a Big deal. I wish people would realize it is a big deal and use protection, you dont really no anyone well enough to have unprotected sex with them.Thats just my opinion, I value my life.

 

Sincerely, Adrian A. -www.doubletroublescorts.com

[buttnovice]

In the last year or so, I too have notice an increase in those wishing to engage in BB sex. Hang out in the chat rooms and just count the numbers of those who advertise and even solicit it. Regretfully, there are those escorts who I have discovered have mutliple screen names. One for safe activity and one for BB.

 

One should be in control of his own level of safety. As for this disturbing trend, NOT for me and NOT with me. NO WAY, Ever!!!!

[Guest Spunk]

I don't feel it has become the "norm." I do feel that attitudes of Gay men have become very relaxed about being infected with HIV and other STD.

 

This is probably due to lack of coverage in both mainstream and Gay media. Out of sight, out of mind.

 

I'm curious if this is simply happening here in the States or is it occuring in other parts of the world. Maybe some posters outside the US can share their thoughts.

 

Personally, I don't feel like cliff jumping just yet.

[ad rian]

>I don't feel it has become the "norm."

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I am not sure I would say norm, but a a client I have detected much less resistance than in the past. While I don't BB, I have been surprised how many escorts that bottom seem willing. So far, I have been disciplined. Last week, one guy from Rentboy refused to put the condom on me so I put it on myself which seemed to have disapointed him. In the end we had great fun, and given the length and depth, I am sure glad I had it on.

 

>I'm curious if this is simply happening here in the States

>or is it occuring in other parts of the world. Maybe some

>posters outside the US can share their thoughts.

>

In my experience, the boys in Amsterdam are much more careful. Afrer moving back to the States last year, I was pleasantly surprised to see that guys over here suck without insisting on a condom. In my Amsterdam experience condoms are required for fucking and sucking.

 

I guess my current worry is about STDs like HPV or Molluscum Contagiosum which one can get either through a condom or just through genital contact. I think there is a rise of these STDs, perhaps even an epidemic. On the one hand, I wonder whether this explains in part why guys are giving up on condoms. Although neither is as serious as HIV, maybe the fact that even with protection one runs a risk is leading guys to a "take my chances" attitude. On the other hand, I sometimes wonder whether sloppy BB practices are the cause of the rise of some of these other STDs.