Serious question for the single guys..

[LurkerSpeaks]

Is there any specific time of year that causes you to get depressed about being single and alone? If so, what do u do to deal with it?

 

For me, it is now, around the 4th of July. I have no real idea why, except that I have this romantic idea of watching fireworks with someone special, holding each other, oohing and ahhing as the sounds and colors explode overhead.

 

Normally I am perfectly content being by myself, but for some reason, this time of year has gotten to me the last few years..

[Guest RianB]

 

Normally I am perfectly content being by myself, but for some reason, this time of year has gotten to me the last few years..

 

thats because we have this thing that on the 4th of July you MUST be picnicing outside with gnat bites up and down your legs baking in the hot Florida sun and getting full and wasted.

 

For one, there has been some 4th of July's I've spent with boyfriends but other times its been with friends and their families. Over time though I dont care for it all that much anymore because of that. Meeting someone's family and friends who I dont know from adam is intimidating and uncomfortable. Last 4th of July me and a friend sat in a big family/friends circle, half of the circle were these wealthy people who snubbed you and in the center was my friend's older boyfriend's mother who would chat non-stop. And dont let yourself get the spotlight during one of those 'gatherings' as you'll be critiqued and have to constantly come up with something to say.

 

This time I did it differently, vacationed myself and enjoying it. Granted I am missing some things, Like real food but 4th of July isnt New Years, it only lasts 1 night. Me and a friend back home are going to be around after hours for people who 'need' us

[josephga]

for me its Christmas as the most depressing time

[+ Gar1eth]

for me its Christmas as the most depressing time

 

 

I guess the question for me is lonely for what. On the romantic relationship side--New Year's is a big downer--with Valentine's Day less so--maybe the thought of candy and Valentine's Day parties when I was in elementary school help me around this one.

 

For not being part of a family--and I mean my own little grouping--not my large extended family--graduations, school reunions, and to some extent Memorial Day/Labor Day/ and the 4th of July.

 

Gman:cool:

[Guest greatness]

hmm

 

For me it's Christmas.

[best hotel]

..New Year's Eve......and weddings

[+ glutes]

Even 'coupled' people get lonely and depressed...

[josephga]

Even 'coupled' people get lonely and depressed...

 

that's true, very true

[mmk123]

well

 

I actually think it is much easier to handle being lonely when you are single. You are used to being by yourself because it is a part of your life. When you are in a relationship or part of a couple and you are lonely I think that is extremely hard to take.

 

For me, I have been single since 2002. I have only been in two serious relationships, both lasted under a year. I have no problem being single. I think I am so used to it it would be hard for me to be in a relationship. It is so funny because I here so many of my friends who are in relationships say "you are so lucky you are single". My response to that is "no one is holding a gun to your head to stay in your relationship".

 

I do get lonely but I think it is the fact that I have no fuck buddies. (Maybe that means I am just horny.)

[josephga]

I'v been single since 02 too haven't even gone on a date since 05. I found myself more depressed when in relationships that i do being single