new blog

[+ Tom Isern]

hi guys. month before last i started a blog and i'd love to hear what folks think--what you like/don't like/think needs work. my goal was to keep it tightly focused on sex--professional and personal and how they come together.

 

i want to write about sex with clients but also fun personal adventures. they can inform each other, i believe. i'm not sure how to distinguish the two, however, or if i even need to. the first post that's up now, "favorite things: ready, willing, and able"--those are actually pics from a client's camera that he had me take and then suggested i post. should that info be included? do i call him a "client"? isn't that a little impersonal?

 

a second issue i am having is whether people want to read about matters that aren't related to sex. i've included posts here about clients who have taken me to lake tahoe and skinny dipping with phosphorescent jellyfish. another client took me to "hair" this past week and we ended up dancing on stage in front of a live audience--surely a once-in-a-lifetime event for me. do i write about it? or is that kind of stuff not all that interesting to you guys in general?

 

a penny for your thoughts? here's the blog link:

 

http://www.tomisern.blogspot.com

[Ivan]

Great blog, great pictures

 

Short version: Great blog, keep up the good work. You've kept the text short and meaningful, and the pictures are great.

 

hi guys. month before last i started a blog and i'd love to hear what folks think--what you like/don't like/think needs work. my goal was to keep it tightly focused on sex--professional and personal and how they come together.

 

i want to write about sex with clients but also fun personal adventures. they can inform each other, i believe. i'm not sure how to distinguish the two, however, or if i even need to. the first post that's up now, "favorite things: ready, willing, and able"--those are actually pics from a client's camera that he had me take and then suggested i post. should that info be included? do i call him a "client"? isn't that a little impersonal?

 

The goal is admirable, the content should be interesting because you lead an active life. You are the escort and he is the client -- these terms don't seem impersonal to me. Presumably you cannot get personal and use names. For "reading, willing, and able" the pictures say it all, who cares if it's a client or boyfriend or someone you met that evening. Clients will get the idea of what you can do, regardless of whom you are doing it to. Hell, sure gave me ideas of what you can do to the bf when I bring him in for some fun at your place.

 

a second issue i am having is whether people want to read about matters that aren't related to sex. i've included posts here about clients who have taken me to lake tahoe and skinny dipping with phosphorescent jellyfish. another client took me to "hair" this past week and we ended up dancing on stage in front of a live audience--surely a once-in-a-lifetime event for me. do i write about it? or is that kind of stuff not all that interesting to you guys in general?

 

Even if it's not directly about sex, include it if it's interesting. By extension, hearing what other clients have done with an escort is interesting -- and the jellyfish themselves and dancing on the stage are interesting to hear about. Hey, I saw the original Hair when I first moved to NYC and danced on the stage too -- haven't seen this one because I don't want to ruin the memory of those times.

 

What we don't necessarily need are listings of your travels or what you saw film you rented last night -- unless you have something interesting to say about the city or the film.

 

Random thoughts: (1) You are being coy about your "work" (your word) and buddies (you word, not sure if these are clients or fuckbuddies) -- why not be more direct that you are an escort? (2) Ditch the apology -- looks more finishted than lots of blogs, which are always under construction and morphing, it ain't a dissertation. (3) I would post a comment if it were easier, I don't participate in any of the forums listed.

 

Even the Melville was interesting, first reaction was "What the f---?" until I reread it and saw it was a quote - had to actually read it rather than the usual skimming!

 

Interesting content, well written and nicly illustrated -- a good idea for a blog. Please remember to contribute at least weekly to make it worth our while to check. (I had it bookmarked even before you posted this appeal for feedback.)

[JoshAB]

Awesome!

 

Hey Tom,

 

I'm not a big reader of blogs. Your niche blog is very interesting. Have to admit to a hard on most of the way through it...I assume that's something you were going for!

 

Bookmarked. Hope you keep it up! ;-)

 

J.

[Lankypeters]

a book in store?

 

Are you planning to turn material from the blog into a book?

[rvwnsd]

Your blog

 

Hi Tom:

 

I like your blog today as much as I liked it when it first launched. It is succinct, interesting, and organized - three characteristics that make for easy, enjoyable reading. I like your use of keywords such as "favorite things," and "private hard-ons" in titles. Good way to grab attention.

 

Posting about topics unrelated to sex is fine. It is nice of you to ask what we think, but it is your blog so post whatever you like. Personally, I find the sex postings and the non-sex postings equally interesting. I second the motion that you should post on regular intervals. When I had a blog a few years ago, i wrote posts in advance so I had something to post on those days when I wasn't up to writing something.

 

Thanks again for asking for feedback and keep up the good work!

[OceanTraveller]

Thumbs Up !!!

 

I very much like the blog !!! It makes me want to get to know you better !! 2 thumbs up Tom !!

[uwsman2]

Enjoy the blog!

 

Hi, Tom. I've been blogging for a few years now (non-sexual) and my experience is that in order to keep your readership and see it expand, you need to write fairly regularly.

 

I enjoyed reading what you have posted so far, although I'll admit that the sexual adventures were more interesting to me than your travel accounts. You have a promising future as a writer of gay porn.

 

Also, if you continue to give detailed descriptions of your bondage-SM adventures, you are sure to attract an interesting new type of clientele!

[pierrot]

blog impressions

 

Hi Tom,

I'll be honest, I'm actually turned off by bondage -- it makes me a little claustrophobic to even think of it -- and a good deal of your blog is about that. It's fine for people who like it of course, and I don't suggest you write to please me. But since you asked, I think vanilla sex is more appealing, and that's what you don't want to write about.

So I think you efforts are good and the photos are terrific, but the stuff you seem to specialize in just isn't my bag.

By the way, in the photo of the three way, is that you in the middle?

Pierrot

[OceanTraveller]

I'm not into bondage either but I think the blog shows that Tom is a very very sexually charged guy and I like that !!

And if I get to hire Tom someday we will not do bondage but will most certainly do everything else !!!

[+ Tom Isern]

Hi guys,

 

Thanks so much for the very thoughtful responses!! I really appreciate it!! You have helped me focus more and resolved several issues that were troubling me. For instance, I really didn't like the word "client"--too impersonal. Also potentially too revealing. Maybe even legally problematic.

 

I'm delighted to hear that some were getting hard-ons reading it. That is, as I say there, one of my hopes. I try to write it when I'm hard so that the energy comes through.

 

A book? Don't think so. Too many irons... However, one of the more interesting developments--to me anyway--is the number of guys who come to me saying that they've read my blog and want to try these new things.

 

When I was in San Francisco in April, for instance, I had this guy come to me who said "I'm really not into anything but vanilla, so I'll be really easy for you..." But, when we started fooling around, it became really clear to me that he was in fact very turned on by domination, by physical restraint, by a cock lodged deep in his throat and ass. I was astonished by how far I was able to push him along my favorite lines of play.

 

Turned out that he was as well. He told me afterwards that during our play session he'd had my blog in mind, and he was remembering the things I'd written about, and he found himself wanting to go there and try them, and the more he went there the more he liked it. So, never say never. Desire is always perverse.

 

I've always suspected that watching porn is one way that gay guys learn about sex and expand their sexual repertoires. I now suspect that my blog is helping to do that for a few. I think that is totally cool and I'm very happy about that.

 

There's so much more to good sex than the missionary position!