Sexual preference scale----where do you stand?

[Guest happyday]

Suppose there is a sexual preference scale of 1 thru 10. 1 equals 100% straight and 10 equals 100 % gay. Where do you stand today? Also, assuming you believe it is possible for a person's sexual preference to fluctuate throughout life, where would you have stood 5, 10, or 20 years ago?

 

thanks and take care

[ready182]

Since you asked, I broke out the home testing kit and measured myself as 7.612. Immediately after jerking off it usually drops to around 7.0

[Guest JT]

Ready, I think you might have misplaced your cum in the home test kit. AND make sure you're looking at the right pic! I repeat, the pic on the top left-hand corner when you open the kit IS not a GUY! Now go and repeat the test again! }>

 

 

JT

[Guest WetDream]

Well, I have to confess that I am a perfect 10 (eat your heart out Bo D!). And I have been throughout my life. I've always had many female friends but I've never wanted to have sex with them. Who know what the future may bring though. A got a fortune cookie once that said: You are doomed to be perpetually attractive to members of the opposite sex.

[Laurent]

Twenty years ago I would have called myself a 9.5. Ten and five years ago probably would have produced the same response. Interestingly, I just saw a woman my age whom I had a fling with one summer when we were undergraduates. I found her highly appealing. Can I have gone to 5.0? Since I'm seeing my favorite escort in the world this weekend, I'll probably go back to 9.5.

[Guest]

It's interesting. In the animal kingdom, individuals go only after one gender or the other. In other words, one doesn't see bisexuality in the animal kingdom, even in experimentally induced homosexuals (i.e. those who have been manipulated into a sexual preference). Humans may indeed be unlike all other animals, but I have my doubts.

[Will]

This isn't so. There are many species, not all of them primates, whose members copulate with others of both sexes. Our closest relatives, the bonobo, have sex all the time with everybody in sight. Inasmuch as we share 98% of our genetic material with them, it makes one wonder about that 2% we don't share. Among other things, bonobos are notoriously pacific, unlike their extremely violent cousins the chimpanzees. We resemble them more closely behaviorally, though not genotypically. But homosexual behavior has been observed among all the primate species most closely related to humans.

[Will]

There are two ways to answer this question, the simple and the complex.

 

First, the simple. Like my great pen-pal WetDream, I too am a Perfect Ten and so not plan to alter my lifelong membership in the Great Tradition.

 

Second, the complex. For several reasons, I take issue with the term "sexual preference."

 

Most important, it implies that erotic object-choice is voluntary, such that one day a man might "prefer" a woman and another day he might "prefer" a man. This is exactly the rhetoric that right-wing homophobes consciously adopt; and, worse still, it is the rhetoric that well-intentioned heterosexists use because they think it sounds non-judgmental. (A preference, after all, is a preference and everybody knows that there's no debate where matters of taste are concerned.) Thus it is that Senator Helms and the Reverend Messers Falwell and Robertson may argue that the "homosexual life-style" is simple a matter of deliberate perversion on behalf of a bunch of queers; that because it is deliberate, young men can be "seduced" into it; and that legislating against it both temporally and eternally is not only a good thing for the health of society, but for the health of all those virgin souls.

 

I'd guess that most of the over-forty men who visit this site regularly have at one time or another tried to change their "preference" from men to women. I'd further guess that their efforts were in vain. I know that mine were, and I went first-class on the journey to discovering my Straight Self. I learned, almost too late, that the territory is littered with wounded, maimed, and dead men; some dead physically from suicide and suicidal behavior with drugs and alcohol, others dead spiritually. All of them had failed to discover their Straight Self, and all of them had punished themselves for the failure.

 

Nobody told me that there was no Straight Self to discover. I had to find that out for myself.

 

I believe that erotic object-choice among humans is a matter of unconscious psychological and physiological orientation. I further believe that we do not understand the dynamics of that orientation either in its etiology or in its expression in lived experience. I know, rather than "believe," two things about orientation, however: (1) it may range anywhere from your "1" to "10;" (2) it is unalterable at the involuntary level of both the body and the psyche.

[Guest cmp]

I have been using the term "preference", I was not aware it sounded biased. Is there a better one? I don't mind using a different term if you give me one.

 

By the way, I'm a perfect 5.0 and I love it. I was the same 5, 10, ... ,35 years ago. I know there are people here who claim that's impossible. I guess they are just envious :9

[Guest FLsweetguy]

Like "Ready" I think it fluctuates with activity. No guys for a month and I'm a 9.9. After three encounters in a week, I drop to a 6. Masturbation doesn't seem to effect the rating. So what does this mean: I love the one I'm not with?

[Guest BenDover]

The word I prefer over sexual preference is "sexual orientation." I believe it addresses the concern Will so well pointed out.

 

As far as where I am on the scale, I would have to say 9.99 gay, always wanting to leave even a remote possibility that my mother's desire for me to marry, godresthersoul, is still alive.

[Will]

With BenDover, I suggest "sexual orientation" rather than "sexual preference." As you know, this morning I outlined one set of reasons why I think the term "sexual preference" is potentially dangerous to gay people. There are others, too. As best I can tell, all of them mask behind polite language the assumption that erotic responses are a matter of whim -- "preference" -- and therefore malleable. It's a small step from that assumption to the next, namely, that people can be trained to "prefer" the opposite sex.

 

I have no doubt that people can be trained to ACT straight, including exclusively heterosexual behavior. But I have encountered no credible evidence in support of the notion that erotic object-focus is susceptible to purposeful re-arrangement at the level of involuntary physical and psychological responses.

[Will]

I would have to say 9.99

>gay, always wanting to leave even a remote possibility that

>my mother's desire for me to marry, godresthersoul, is still

>alive.

 

Not me. My mother died a long time ago, and maybe that's why I cashed in the .01% I was saving in reserve!

[ready182]

I don't believe in 10's, 1's, nor 5's

 

To me, no one is a perfect 1, 10, nor 5.

 

For example, A perfect "1" would be so straight that:

 

-- touching thier own dick would be repulsive;

-- could not enjoy a BJ with their eyes closed (for fear the slurper was switched to a guy);

-- straight porn would be repulsive;

-- Looking at themselves naked in the mirror would be repulsive;

-- Getting slapped on the butt "on the field" or in the locker room would be cause for suicide;

-- European traditions like a kiss on the cheek or a hug from a man would be tramatic life-changing experiences;

-- at the urinal or in the shower they never "looked";

-- never ever wondered what it would be like if ...

-- never was a boy scout;

-- etc. etc. etc.

 

In the words of the late Kirk Cobain, "What else can I say -- everyone is gay" -- well, at least a little bit.

[ted]

Another 10 here, and have been for longer than I care to tell.

[ready182]

RE: I don't believe in 10's, 1's, nor 5's

 

Opps b4 someone else corrects me, I think it's Curt Cobain.

[ready182]

F' Everyone!

 

Sorry guys, (to me) there is nothing more masculine than fuckin' everything in sight (male or female).

[buzz]

I've got a couple problems.

 

1. In my innocent youth I did it with a couple of women, but I have repented such folly and have been a good boy for many years....screwing only with men. I guess I can never claim 100% but in my heart I know I'm 100% queer.

 

2. Also, from time to time, I really go for a scene with a she-male, especially if she/he is well-hung with big boobs. What does this do to my percentage?

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

>2. Also, from time to time, I really go for a scene with a

>she-male, especially if she/he is well-hung with big boobs.

>What does this do to my percentage?

 

What does that do to your pocket book?? :-)

[buzz]

Actually, a hot she-male escort usually charges about the same as a hot all-guy escort. This is a real niche market and several of my he/she friends tell me that most of their clients are guys who claim to be "straight" -- a lot of marrieds.

 

I budget carefully for both she-male and he-male escorts...and I enjoy scenes with both.