"if my gay friends discover"

[Guest happyday]

I have been seeing an escort on a regular basis. He is young (25) been escorting for just a few months and a super nice young man. In a recent conversation he told me that if his gay friends discover he is escorting they would disown him. This really surprised me as I had read in Matt Adams book "Hustlers, Escorts and Porn Stars" (title subject to correction) that male escorts were usually held in high esteem by their gay friends.

Strangely enough after thinking in depth about this it all became more of a personal affront to me than a reflection on the escort. In other words if this escort's friends would actually disown him then their perception of me and any other client would be that we are all crazed, sex starved, perverted, dirty old men. Got a little carried away but you get my point. I suppose it is possible that his friends would be disturbed about the legality of escorting but sort of doubt this. It is also possible that the escort's perceptions of his friends attitudes are wrong. Matt Adams may also be wrong or perhaps there are exceptions all over the place and no generalities can be drawn. Anyway ,as a client and as an old sociology major, I am curious. Any feed back especially from escorts out there would be appreciated.

[Guest delhi]

As an old sociology major you probably noticed that the book you mentioned does not refer to any verifiable sources for a lot of the assertions it makes, so the author might just as well have made them up and no one would be the wiser.

 

I don't know why anyone would assume that gay men would have a different attitude toward prostitution than anyone else. Can you think of any reason?

[Rod Hagen]

Delhi is entirely correct. Matt's book is helpful, but it certainly isn't resarched in anything approacing a traditional method.

 

Add me to the list of escorts who lie to all friends, gay and straight, about what it is I do for a living.

 

-Hagen

 

http://www.rodhagen.com

"Good afternoon Oceania traffic. Trinidad 5 Golf Tango taking the active two-five runway for a left turn at the shoreline"

[Guest sdmuscl4hire]

Having come to the escorting industry yet a second time a bit later on in life, from a different city, after a split up with my lover I can attest to the fact of "Friends" reactions to finding out your an escort.

 

My ex and I had what you would call the "perfect" looking life, I was an executive assistant to the CEO of a major brokerage firm for a few years, made normal wages, lived life had lots of friends, was I guess considered on the so called A list "whatever that is" and then we split up and I decided I was burnt out from working at this particular job, got a severence package and resigned. Started escorting to get by while looking for another career so I didnt jump at the first thing that came my way and due to me escorting have lost every one of my friends. Talking behind my back that I am POZ, a slut, cant believe I would stoop so low ect. I guess all in all I am glad to have done this to show me exactly what kind of people I had come to call my friends. Next time around I will make a better judgment call when meeting new ones.

[Guest jeffOH]

There's hardly anyone in my life who doesn't know what I do for a living. Just the other night an escort friend and I were out

at one of the local clubs here in Columbus. It was my first time out dancing here in town since '95. Anyway, we're leaning up against a wall...chests exposed and this guy starts chatting me up. Within minutes he asked, "So what do you do?", I said that I was an escort and he asked if my friend was also...I said yes.

He looked us both up and down and said, "Well, I can see why."

"Are you guys working?" I said, "No, it's Hookers' Night Off."

If people are going to judge me over the fact that I work as a

prostitute, FUCK'EM. The Sickle of Truth can weed alot of people out of your life. But, you know what?, it's worth it, because I know exactly where I stand with my friends and I don't have to live in fear of them finding out.

 

I know who I am and so do my friends. They love me for my warmth,

my honesty and for my ability to allow them to not be afraid to

be themselves. I know from experience what The Truth Shall Set You Free means. It is liberating and it's a hell of alot easier

than keeping track of who knows what. It was a bumpy road getting

to this point in my life, but I'd do everything the same way if I had it to do over.

 

Jeff4hire@aol.com

[Guest happyday]

Prostitution is legal in Holland. I think you can probably make the assumption that Hollanders are not quite as hung up about prostitution as Americans. This does not mean that Hollanders are any lesser of a people. They just happen to be a little more open minded about sex. I do not know that this is the case but let us say that gay American men in general are a little more liberal about sex than straight American men. If this is true their attitude concerning prostitution might also be more liberal.

Matt Adams has lived the life of an escort and although he does not quote any sources his life experiences certainly would give him some advantage on the subject.

[Guest DickHo]

I lived in Holland for 3 years (Amsterdam). The Dutch may be open minded but they are not more tolerant of prostitutes (male or female). It's all OK with them as long as it is not one of their kids or relatives. They actually prefer that all their prostitutes be non-Dutch. When you visit the actual whore houses and houses of boys, you'll notice that most of the workers are non-Dutch...coincidence?

 

Non of the Dutch escorts I met (and you know I met a bunch!) would admit to anyone that they were escorts. Most of them had trouble admitting they were gay.

 

The Dutch are truly an enigma. Liberals and tolerant on the outside and to the rest of the world. Conservative and very judgemental on the inside.

[Matt_Vancouver]

I'm pretty open about what I do, however it wasn't always this way.

I remember not too long ago creating all kinds of professions to tell people, when the inevitable question came up, "so what do you do?"

Our society judges people way too much on the so called 'status' of the career they've chosen. Well I've made my choice, I'm intelligent enough to do pretty much anything I put my mind too, career-wise, yet I've chosen escorting. Why? Because I truly enjoy what I do, in some way (and I know this is going to get chuckles and probably a few snide jabs) I feel like I'm fulfilling my destiny. Call me strange, but I honestly believe that.

So why was I worried before about what my friends would think about what I do? Well because the general perception of escorting/hookers/whores, is pretty grim. And most people do not differenciate between what I do and what the girl on the corner with track marks all over her body, does.

I've since decided, I'm proud of what I do, I am successful, I make a decent living, I'm content, I make people happy, and how many others can truly say that?

So when someone asks "what do you do?" my friends all turn their attention to me, to see what will come out of my mouth this time: ) I can be pretty bold in my responces, but the best was once, a girl was having drinks with myself and a group of friends at a local pub, she asked "what do you do?", my responce was..."I'm a whore" she said "yeah we all know that, but what do you do for a living?" I liked her right away: )

I choose to surround myself with non-judmental people, some of my best friends are dr.'s, lawyers, waiters, hairstylists, chemists, pilots.....the list goes on, but I'm the only hooker in the bunch and they accept me as is.

Matt(mom still doesn't know though... shhhh)

 

http://go.to/mattsplace

matt_escort@yahoo.com

[Guest sdmuscl4hire]

Just for clerification, It was brought to me attention that I appeared to be stating I was Poz, I am not hiv positive. I was stating rumors