Head shots...

[Guest youngblood]

I recently emailed an escort from the escorts4you site and got an interesting response. I said that I liked what I saw of his body and was very interested in meeting him, but since I am into kissing, I would like to see a picture of his face. The reply was, "I will send you a picture of my face after you send me yours."

 

My instincts are telling me that this guy is probably not sensitive to client needs, and is perhaps somewhat rude. For my privacy, I would never send a picture to an escort.

 

According to the advice of Aaron Lawrence, I should forget about him. Any other thoughts?

[Guest johnnnnn]

It's your money make up your own mind. I don't think that I would be taking too much notice of Aaron Lawrence.

[Guest youngblood]

My posting is not intended to be a discussion of the merits of Aaron Lawrence. I just would like to hear what other escorts and clients think about the exchange of head shots prior to a first meeting.

[Rod Hagen]

If you like him, if you think he's hot, if you want to fuck his butt really bad, don't let this little thing get in the way. Bullshit-posturing (I'll show you mine, if you show me yours first) gets people nowhere fast.

 

If the appointment goes bad-his stuborness may be a sign that it may or it may be a sign that he's new to the biz and treats it more like online FUN sex, where pics are exchanged regularily, than like a business-at least you'll know you met this silly Man more than 1/2 way. However it could be one of your BEST experiences, in which case you will be glad you conceded a bit.

 

But if you're lukewarm on him, move on. His policy will eventually change, or he will simply disappear (from the business).

 

-Hagen

[Guest Tex]

In my opinion, there are probably circumstances where exchange of facial photos in preliminary contacts is not appropriate. However, the escort should be careful to explain his hesitation in an unoffensive manner. For example, if he has a high profile regular job, etc. After the horror stories we've read on this site, I have more respect for cautious escorts who I would have considered annoying in the past.

 

It's not what he said but how he said it. Maybe we should modify that expression to "It's not that he paid but how much he paid!" I think "how much" is often much more definitive about an escort's performance than what's usually discussed on this site.

[Guest mike]

Here's how I look at it...........I like to have hot sexual encounters with escorts. I know that some escorts will not be turned on by me while others possibly will. I am more than willing to exchange photos with a potential date. I even send an X-rated shot of myself that would send ME running in the other direction. If the potential escort gets a look at me and takes a hike, so mush the better. I have been spared some kind of unpleasant encounter. If he remains interested, there is a half decent chance that we are going to have fun together. I realize that some guys will have good reasons not to send their pic out on the internet, but for those of us that are not concerned with that, sending a pic is a good policy in my opinion. I figure there is somebody out there for all of us in the turn-on department, and I am trying to conncect with escorts that can get with my vibe. Pics help to facilitate that.

[Guest JustANametoPlay]

As I have said elsewhere, photos can be misleadig. IMHO, it is always good to have an "out" clause when meeting for the first time, meaning that if for any reason you feel uncomfortable with the escort within say the first ten minutes, all bets are off and you pay an agreed upon fee.

[Guest torjon]

I can't imagine a truly professional escort asking for a photo before he will accept a booking. If that were even close to being the rule, our overworked and underpaid HOOBOY would have time on his hands! This profession would shrink dramatically,because I'm betting few clients would agree to this. It's the escort who is marketing his time, and if there are to be pictures, then they should be his. I find descriptions,reviews and especially telephone contact, to be adequate to decide on an escort I wish to see. If there's disappointment on my side, I make the most of it and chalk it up to experience, and there are no repeats. I don't think Im a "dog" in anyone's eyes, but I'll be damned if I'll send my picture to an escort for his "approval" to take my money. The very fact of his asking for one would tell me I don't wish to spend my time with him. My first year with this has been a great learning experience, and it's been my good fortune to have chosen some very special guys...the kind that give "escorts" a good name.I know now exactly what I want and expect from the man I hire, and invariably these remarkable young men deliver beautifully. I'm not naive...and I know there are lots of "bad" escorts...I've had two..but overall I've done rather well, and all without sending any pics, and frequently without seeing theirs. Interesting thread this....I hope it stays on topic.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

youngblood,

 

No way!

 

Move on... there are many great fish in the ocean that don't make such demands.

[Guest MrB]

If you're comfortable sending him the pic, send it. If not, move on, most guys don't require this. This is not rocket science :-)

[Guest Tex]

Fine, but would you send the x-rated photo during the very early stages of getting acquainted?

 

Hey, Hoo, how about an x-rated photo of YOU? I hear there used to be one of you getting fisted by biker-trash on the back wall at Mary's in Houston.

 

Damn, I wish Skeptic was around to make me laugh. I think I've spotted him in a different thread, but too nice to be any fun. I'd pay to see a note from him readin' some unknowing, new contributor to filth.

[Guest merlin]

He only asked for your photo after you asked for his. This suggests that he is weeding out the guys who ask for photos but are not serious about hiring him. He is not requiring a photo to provide the service, only for providing his photo.

[N.N.]

Clients are certainly selective about who they hire; I have no

problem with an escort being selective about who they work for.

I'd rather have an escort tell me I'm not his type than go

through the motions and deliver a so-so performance.

 

My hat is off to the escorts who can work well with a wide

range of people; more power to ya. But I don't find it

unprofessional to not be so adaptable.

[OceanTraveller]

I had an escort that is well reviewed on this site ask me for a pic . He said it was to make sure that I am normal.

Wonder what normal is ?

[Rod Hagen]

Hey Hooboy, how about mandating photos into profiles? Since the clients on this board know what most of us look like from our posted pics, it's only fair that.... :-) well, maybe not.

 

-Hagen

[Guest Midnight Cowboy]

Youngblood,

 

The way you describe what transpires, I'd suggest listening to your instincts. But I don't automatically take it as a sign of unprofessional or insensitive behavior if an escort asks me for a pic. I agree with Tex, it depends upon the circumstances -- mostly, I think, the rapport he and I have established and the comfort-level we've reached by the time he asks. If I'm leaning well in favor of paying someone a fair amount of money to invite him into my home or be invited into his to have sex, I personally don't see what's the big deal about sending a pic. I do avoid the self-described "elite" escorts who more or less want you to fill out an application before they'll entertain the notion of taking your money.

 

Of course, I started hiring escorts in the days when there were as many ads without pics as with, and no way to zip one through the ether. So I'm neither as adamant as most seem to be about the necessity of seeing one, nor as bothered by the prospect of sending one.

[Guest youngblood]

Midnight Cowboy,

 

Thank you for your response which is right on point. It is the manner in which he answered which was offensive. If he had politely said that it was against his policy to send out face shots, I would have respected that and made my decision accordingly.

 

I have not always asked escorts for head shots, but since I like to kiss, a recent accurate photo can make a big difference in the experience. I have been disappointed several times lately, specifically with men from Maximum Escorts, when not seeing their faces first. Maximum says that they don't show faces for privacy purposes, but after my experiences with several of their men, I believe that it is for marketing purposes as well!