Asian International Student in San Francisco

[gooduslife]

I am a young Asian student studying in San Francisco. I am gay. 

 

I always have been interested in becoming a provider to older guys. Yes I like older guys. There's something I like about them for me. I like to taste the water to see what it is like. I am interested in escorting, boyfriend experience, becoming foodie friends and so on. 

 

However,  i didn't gather courage to provide my identification and my face pic & number on rent men. I prefer to be careful for my future career and opportunities. 

What should I do? 

Comments and pm both welcome!

 

FYI, I am 5'6 140 24, fit, tattoo free,  disease and drug free, polite , understanding and caring.

 

 

 

 

[+ FrankR]

25 minutes ago, gooduslife said:

I am a young Asian student studying in San Francisco. I am gay. 

 

I always have been interested in becoming a provider to older guys. Yes I like older guys. There's something I like about them for me. I like to taste the water to see what it is like. I am interested in escorting, boyfriend experience, becoming foodie friends and so on. 

 

However,  i didn't gather courage to provide my identification and my face pic & number on rent men. I prefer to be careful for my future career and opportunities. 

What should I do? 

Comments and pm both welcome!

 

FYI, I am 5'6 140 24, fit, tattoo free,  disease and drug free, polite , understanding and caring.

 

 

 

 

Hello @gooduslife and welcome to the discussion forum. 

It is wise of you to see out advice - I am sure you will get valuable responses.  As for myself, an older gay, I would be remiss if I did not advice you to take care of your health first.  Before you get more sexually active, please ensure that you get all the recommended vaccinations (HPV, Hepatitis, Meningococcal - you can look it up on the internet as there is specific guidance for men who have sex with men) from you student medical center or a city health clinic.  You may also want to get on PreP if you are not already. 

My second piece of advice is that you join a local gay community group - some of the most valuable friendships I have is from meeting older gay men at my local community center; they have been a great resource for me in life with guidance and support when I needed it.  They understand life as a young gay man and have always been willing to help when I needed a sympathetic ear or was struggling.  And all it cost me was a cup of coffee and to stay in touch.  

From the information you provided, I conclude that you are studying in San Francisco on a student visa.  If that is the case and you are not a US citizen, you should be aware that as a guest in the USA you are particularly vulnerable to law enforcement scrutiny. San Fran is a fairly liberal city where escorting isn't a priority for law enforcement, but if you should travel (with a man or without) and questions are raised about you escorting, it could impact your visa and ability to finish your studies.  So you have to do what you can to maintain a lower profile.  Not posting your face on rentmen is smart - get the "burner" app for your phone and use that "burner" number exclusively for your side business. 

Most men will only agree to meet if they see your face, so consider how much you will be willing to share even if it is via text/whatsapp.  Consider the type of client you want (a few local men that you see repeatedly vs traveling men who may be able to host at their hotel and pay more, but you are always seeing someone new and not building up a client base). If you do decide to create a rentmen profile - my advice is to be honest in your profile - use pics that are of you, even if it does not show your face, make sure they know what you are willing to do and not do and then communicate clearly and quickly. If you are meeting a man you have never met before, my advice is to meet in a public place first (hotel lobby, coffee shop) so you can look him in the eye before you get intimate.  Video calls also work - get a sense for the guy and protect yourself against time wasters and scammers. 

Good luck and reach out to me if you have any questions.

[Whippoorwill]

I am familiar with a young Asian student in SF on a student visa. His RentMasseur add does not show his face, and says he offers Therapeutic and Sensual massages, but not Erotic. What you do in private is your business, but as Frank R say, better to be a little discrete in your public advertisements.