"Complex" Questions

[SAdler]

I live in an apartment complex with a gentleman who OBVIOUSLY likes to hire. Two to three nights a week I've seen different boys on his balcony, many I've recognized from meeting in person and others from professional encounters on this site.

 

After living here for a little over a year and a BUNCH of awkward exchanges and "stares" when I walked by, he approached me in passing. He was very discreet and asked about hiring me.

 

I told him given the circumstances I'd have to think about it but appreciated his interest.

 

On one hand traveling and incalls are really a moot point Definitely be convenient for last minute get togethers etc. On the other hand, I'm afraid of the possible awkwardness it could really spark.

 

So, this question is for BOTH sides of the aisle. Is this something any of you would consider doing?

[Epigonos]

Three reactions:

First hasty reaction:

ABSOLUTELY NOT -- too many potential problems

 

Second more considered reaction:

Only you can judge. You have met the guy if he seems to

have his head on straight --- Why not?

 

Third more highly considered reaction:

Tell the guy that while reserving the right to say NO you

are willing to have coffee with him and discuss some

concerns you have. If he agrees during that time clearly

explains those concerns and what special limits you have

on having a client living in the same building as

yourself. Then based on his reactions make your decision

[Txpaytoplay]

Oooohhh.....I think I would keep my neighbor just that a neighbor. Just my 2 cents worth.

[SAdler]

That's why I'm trying to look at it from a client's point of view. I've stated in other threads the idea of "experience" being limited to an individual escorts. The question is then whether or not you would ignore the fact you are neighbors BECAUSE you wanted to hire THAT escort.

[Guest firem66803]

from the perspective of a client, i would not hire an escort who lived in the same building/complex. it could be great at first but there is always the potential for one of you not wanting to see the other for various reasons. i would stick to being neighbors.

[SAdler]

OK WOW.

 

SERIOUS IRONY. Of course the minute there are replies on the topic and I'm thinking about it more and more ...

 

I just walked out to put my trash in the chute which involves walking across the courtyard in view of his balcony...shirtless...not necessary but it was easier. He and another young escort are sitting there having a cigar and he invited me up to have one with them.

 

I politely declined and here I am. But thanks fireman, I'm beginning to think more and more that will be the best idea. At this point, I was wondering if any other escorts had experienced anything similar.

[whipped guy]

Remember... you don't shit where you eat...

[Txpaytoplay]

>Remember... you don't shit where you eat...

 

Or sleep!

[sashek]

Scott, writing as someone who occasionally hires escorts, I think this could be a potentially bad situation for you. Reading past threads, the theme of clients falling in love with escorts keeps coming up again and again. Not to say this guy could/would fall in love with you, but proximity could definitely be a complicating factor. This is bad enough when a client lives somewhere else, but in your own apartment complex?? Too many potential problems for you, I think - particularly because you can't predict how he might react if things don't go his way. Would you want to have to start apartment hunting, if the situation got out of control? Probably one call to your building manager, stating that you're escorting from your apartment, would be enough to get you evicted. None of this might happen, but I think you're better to keep "worst case" scenarios in mind, and politely decline his offer. Just my two cents worth.

Sashek

[whipped guy]

How many escorts out there have had problems with stalkers... One guy I saw a while back had such a problem... he had to get a lawyer involved... restraining orders... change his telephone number... etc.etc.etc. Fortunately the guy could not easily enter the building... but he did so on more than one occasion...

 

In your particular case... well you get the point... too much potential for disaster!!! Don't do anything foolish!

[Guest Merlin]

Since he knows where you live already, I think these questions about stalking are overblown. The other side of the coin is that if you are close, you may be the first he will think of when he gets horny, and you would have no travel time. Could be good for business, and fun since he seems to hire more than one at a time.

[SAdler]

Eh. My owner knows. He likes the guaranteed rent in cash every month but I definitely agree and understand your points.

[Guest skrubber]

I would LOVE to have an escort living above me. Of course I may not have any money left.

[noviceny]

Bro I would probably not do it...he already gives "awkward stares and glances" Also, what do you think about him asking you up to do the cigar thing ? People (especially some clients) can take certain liberties that you might not want to have where you live.

 

 

My best argument is this : Your home is your sanctuary. It is where you go to regroup, to live, to be at peace. Even if you work at home, the person leaves at some time and you are in your place again, just you and your thoughts. When your work is always around you (as in right next door) it can kinda fuck with your equilibrium.

[+ friendofsheila]

There are neighbors of mine I never even SEE, but you do. That makes an entry-way for problems.

 

If it's somebody you know already is not as nutty as a squirrel turd and won't become a stalker, it could be a no problem. But you don't know him at all.

 

Do any of his boys know him? Maybe try buttonholing one of them and ask if he's been a problem.

[Flower]

>The question is then

>whether or not you would ignore the fact you are neighbors

>BECAUSE you wanted to hire THAT escort.

 

Although I don't get involved in this type of litigation, over many years of practice, I have never seen more unreasonable and senseless litigation as that between neighbors. Right up there with dissolution of marriage in high drama, lack of reason, and vindictiveness--and that's only concerning less personal things like common fences, barking dogs, house color, etc.

 

You are talking SEX and some element of personal interaction which can go crazy under the best of circumstances, but here, if it goes sour as often these things might, then proximity, familiarity, and ease in retribution are all factors that should concern you. Obviously, I'd say no to the proposal. If he knows you are an escort he may already be reading this thread }( so becareful what you write.

[augustman]

Dear Scott:

The question that would concern me is how does he knw you are an escort? It is one thing to know your neighbor hires, no effect on him if he stops because you know, but he obviously has the upper hand unless you plan on stopping what you are doing tomorrow.

 

I do not like the situation at all and to be honest I would consider moving. Even when the time comes for you to quit and he sees you with a boyfirend a little remark passing the hallway could open a lot of questions.

 

This guy is obviously not conerned about privacy or discretion and that would bother me a great deal. To be honest if you have figured out what is going on, do you think the rest of the building might have a clue too. I do not care how well you know the owner if it becomes public knowledge what your profession is, it will become very uncomfortable for you.

 

I have always said where money is involved never do business with family friends or neighbors. If someone ever borrows money from me I always consider it a gift, if it come back great otherwise I never bring it up. You do not want to be uncomfortable where you live. Your home is suppose to be your refuge. I do not know how that can be if you are looking over your shoulder as to who is watching.

[BigK]

"try buttonholing one of them"

 

hmmmmmmmmm...thats a new one... }(

[+ friendofsheila]

>"try buttonholing one of them"

>

>hmmmmmmmmm...thats a new one... }(

 

Hee, hee! Actually the dictionary says it's from 1862. So old it's new!