Changing Plans

[giovoni]

Do any of you out there have a policy or rules that you try to follow which help you to decide when to tell a client to look elsewhere after changing plans on you. I'm not talking about a long time established sort of client here, rather someone who hasn't seen you before and makes dates with you which he has to reschedule or cancel one day or hours before the scheduled time. When you DO tell them to look somewhere else.. or reconsider hiring at all if they can't follow through, how do you go about that? We have had a spate of reschedules and cancellations in the last month and one in particular that has had to move his appt 4 times (I think we're being overly generous with this particular person letting him reschedule so many times.) I realize that people's plans change and that peoples families do indeed get sick, but there must be a reasonable limit.

 

Where is that limit for some of you other guys?

 

Gio in Denver

http://www.angelfire.com/co3/massagebygio

[Guest Julian Kaye]

obv you're pretty patient. w/new clients, 2 times would be my limit w/i 1 month.

[guyinsf]

I'm not an escort and I don't play one on TV, but...

 

I would say that it's reasonable to decline to meet a potential client when he attempts to reschedule a second time, particularly if he's doing it with such short notice.

 

As to how to deliver the message, I think the less said the better. Politely decline to schedule a third meeting. If the potential client tries to force a discussion as to why, I would suggest not going there. The client knows why; he just wants to argue with you.

[AaronScottDC]

I don't have any set rules that I follow regarding cancellations and resheduling. The vast majority of my clients don't cancel our meeting time, and since I often see business travelers to the DC area, if they do have to cancel for some reason they often can't reschedule for another day. So, I don't run into this problem that much.

 

However, I do have the occasional guy who calls me, discusses getting together on a certain day and tells me he will call me again to set the time. Then the day comes and goes and I don't hear from him. A couple of days later, he calls again and the whole dance starts all over again. I can usually chalk this type of experience up to a guy who is not really serious about actually meeting and just wants to talk. So, I just discount his requests after a couple of these phone conversations.

 

Aaron Scott DC

http://www.erados.com/AaronScottDC

http://www.male4malescorts.com/reviews/aaronscottdc.html

[Barry]

>However, I do have the occasional guy who calls me, discusses

>getting together on a certain day and tells me he will call me

>again to set the time. Then the day comes and goes and I

>don't hear from him. A couple of days later, he calls again

>and the whole dance starts all over again.

 

Sorry....that's just rude. If the client's plans change he should show the courtesy of calling you before or minimally, early the day of to discuss a change. Calling a day or a couple of days later should take him off your dance card totally. IMHO

 

Barry

[Barry]

>We have had a spate of

>reschedules and cancellations in the last month and one in

>particular that has had to move his appt 4 times (I think

>we're being overly generous with this particular person

>letting him reschedule so many times.)

 

4 times? Yes....I think you've been more than understanding. If these are set appts. (date/time) and a "prospective" client keeps rescheduling you need to do something. Either respectfully decline or request a non-refundable deposit since you are blocking a time and potentially turning down other business. You would have to decide how many reschedules would be the appropriate trigger point to decline or ask for a deposit.

 

Barry

[giovoni]

>However, I do have the occasional guy who calls me, discusses

>getting together on a certain day and tells me he will call me

>again to set the time. Then the day comes and goes and I

>don't hear from him. A couple of days later, he calls again

>and the whole dance starts all over again. I can usually

>chalk this type of experience up to a guy who is not really

>serious about actually meeting and just wants to talk. So, I

>just discount his requests after a couple of these phone

>conversations.

 

Aaron that's another issue too. Do you indulge this person with conversations? If you know he's not serious then how much of your time do you give to him just on the phone. We have had a couple people do similar things to us as well, in particular a person from the East Coast calls us everytime one of us gets a review. He'll be in Denver on a certain day.. the day comes and goes, eventually TJ just told him to stop calling until he actually got to Denver to schedule an appointment. Is this a pretty widespread problem as well?

 

>Aaron Scott DC

>http://www.erados.com/AaronScottDC

>http://www.male4malescorts.com/reviews/aaronscottdc.html

[Guest gentle guy]

Gio,

 

If you want another non-escort opinion: I would have no problem with one cancellation (after all, life does happen). I would probably accept the second cancellation, unless my intuition told me otherwise. However, with someone whom I've never seen, three strikes and you're out! I think that a third cancellation would mean that the guy is too ambivalent or anxious to make a commitment, or that someone is yanking your chain. Even if a regular client cancels or skips three appointments, that should send up a red flag.

 

I would follow the above advice and decline further appointments politely and simply, with a statement like, "This doesn't seem to be working out between us. Let me refer you to..."

 

You and TJ sound incredibly patient and understanding with your clients--but that's probably why you are popular in the first place.

 

Good luck!

[AaronScottDC]

>Aaron that's another issue too. Do you indulge this person

>with conversations? If you know he's not serious then how

>much of your time do you give to him just on the phone. We

>have had a couple people do similar things to us as well, in

>particular a person from the East Coast calls us everytime one

>of us gets a review. He'll be in Denver on a certain day..

>the day comes and goes, eventually TJ just told him to stop

>calling until he actually got to Denver to schedule an

>appointment. Is this a pretty widespread problem as well?

 

Well, I am not usually bombarded with phone calls, so it isn't a big deal for me to chat briefly with someone even though I am pretty sure it is not going to lead to anything. I have heard of some escorts reporting that they receive 15-20 phone calls a day inquiring about appointments. If I received that many, then my patience for such nonsense would dwindle quite quickly. Since I don't have any print advertising and only have ads on the internet, most of the guys who contact me do so via email and the majority of them end up actually seeing me, so it isn't a huge problem with me.

 

Aaron Scott DC

http://www.erados.com/AaronScottDC

http://www.male4malescorts.com/reviews/aaronscottdc.html

[giovoni]

>I would follow the above advice and decline further

>appointments politely and simply, with a statement like, "This

>doesn't seem to be working out between us. Let me refer you

>to..."

 

 

Ok quick.. who in the Mile High City area wants all of the clients that cancell or no show on us.. you can replace the "..." hehehe.

 

Thanks Gentle Guy and everyone who has replied so far. At least if I do tell this particular guy to look elsewhere I can do so with a clear conscience.

 

Gio in Denver

http://www.angelfire.com/co3/massagebygio

[Guest gentle guy]

>Ok quick.. who in the Mile High City area wants all of the

>clients that cancell or no show on us.. you can replace the

>"..." hehehe.

 

lol

 

I originally was going to suggest a few names }( but then I thought it best to live up to my handle and use an ellipsis instead. After all, the better part of wisdom is often left unsaid.

[giovoni]

>your chain. Even if a regular client cancels or skips

 

Oh yeah someone Skipping is JUST what we need more of!

 

You and your hidden meanings lol.. I have to be so careful reading or I look like I'm not paying attention :-P

 

:-*