New Escorts, Versatile one Month, Strictly Top the Next

[Guest countryboy76]

My partner and I hire a 3rd boy about 1 or 2 times a year. While the number of boys in our area is rather slim we did find one who fit the bill. He has been on the site about 6 months and over that past couple of months we followed his reviews. Origanally he billed himself as versatile and his reviews reflected that. Then within the course of a week he changed his description to top and had a review that also listed him as a top by the client. Since then I have contacted him to set something up and asked him to clarify whether he was willing to be versatile or if he was now strictly a top. In the course of talking with him he explained that he had tried bottoming and had had a very painful experience with it. Putting together the info in his reviews and our converations, it isn't hard to figure out that the boy had a bad experience with a particular client.

 

Just for discussions sake, how can boys new to the business handle things to avoid having a bad experience, and what about clients who know that they are hiring someone who is new to the business.

 

Naturally communication is probably a big part of it.

 

Interested.

CB76

[Rod Hagen]

RE: New Escorts, Versatile one Month, Strictly Top the ...

 

I was versatile for my first six months of escorting, though I really did not like bottoming. I'd grit my teeth and smile for the sake of making the client happy as all manner of limp, hard, big, small, and o-mi-god went up my chute. In any and all positions no matter how much prepping we did, I'd end up constipated for days afterward, and my gut would wrench in pain. I knew eventually I'd end up hurting someone's feelings by saying something like, "Ow, stop. Changed my mind, want to go home." I didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings; I want us both to always have fun. So I stopped taking it up the ass.

 

Bottoming can be fun sure, but when I felt obligated to do it, no matter how painful it was, no matter how hard my stomach clenched against the invasion, because someone was paying me, I began to resent the sexual act itself (but truly not the clients, who could not have known how uncomfortable it was for me and therefore were not culpable). So I switched over to Top only. It's what I prefer in the best and worst of situations (where my sensitive stomach is concerned--Aren't I a delicate flower?).

 

At the beginning I'd read that you make more money being versatile. Statistically, it's impossible to prove that that's the case, and it's been extremely rare for a first time caller to say, "I'll pass" when I tell him I don't bottom (not professionally, anyway). So I think some people start out as versatile, expecting to make more money that way, and then perhaps settle on one or the other eventually. Or maybe that was just me because I'm such an uptight freak.:-)

-Hagen

[Guest DevonSFescort]

>Just for discussions sake, how can boys new to the business

>handle things to avoid having a bad experience

 

One thing that has served me very well has been to be very open on my website about what I get into and what my limits are. This gives clients more info to go on and increases the likelihood that we'll both have a good time. I think enjoying myself on the job means I'll last longer in the biz and that my clients will also have a better time.

 

Hagen is right, I think, about some guys starting out versatile to make more money, then shifting to one or the other based on what they learn about their actual ability to perform or to enjoy themselves. I would encourage new escorts to start out by erring on the side of promising less, then expanding their services as they feel comfortable doing so. I was surprised to discover how "unnecessary" fucking was to my business (this could have something to do with San Francisco's high HIV/STD rate which has created a market of clients who only want "ultra-safe" sex). And though I still advertise as, and consider myself, versatile, I also throw in some caveats (about being a tight squeeze, etc.) and tell clients on my site that I'm a better choice for them if fucking is something that they're open to as part of a menu of possibilities than if it's "the whole point." The resulting mix of business means it basically works out in the end that I fuck or get fucked about as often as I want to. I'm with Hagen on that point -- it's no fun feeling pressured to get fucked.

 

, and what about

>clients who know that they are hiring someone who is new to

>the business.

>

>Naturally communication is probably a big part of it.

 

Yes -- and just because someone's new, of course, doesn't mean that they're NOT actually versatile and don't just love to bottom. But as has been discussed before the words top, bottom and versatile can be vague and understood differently by different people. So you've got to talk to them about what you like and draw them out about what they like (and try to discuss things in those terms -- "what you like" -- and not in terms of "will you do x for y number of dollars" -- so they don't think you're a cop).

 

Then, when you're actually fucking him, whether he's new or a veteran to the biz, just try to be patient and attentive to how easy or difficult your entry is for him, and to respond to his cues, to try switching positions, etc. If this escort had bad experiences it was probably guys just trying to ram it in, ignoring the pained look on his face and his hands pushing against their thighs. (It was that kind of thing that prompted me to start emphasizing on my site that I couldn't guarantee a particular outcome re bottoming.)

[Guest BenAJ]

RE: New Escorts, Versatile one Month, Strictly Top the ...

 

Good postings by both Rod and Devon. I agree entirely. I advertise as versatile and it was going great for a while. (I too was suprised in the beginning at how little sex I actually had).

 

Never had a bad experience then one came and another...the problem with bottoming is you need to prepare ahead of time so it is harder to make the impromptu appointments. As a top you can pretty much go at a moments notice.

 

The second of course is the occasional pain. Sometimes two guys with the same "length" can be totally different ....one is great while the other can be painful. So even going by length you can't tell if it will be painful or not. It depends totally on the person topping...some guys just love to pound hard which can make it worse.

 

At this point, I wanna be more choosy about when I bottom.

 

Like Devon, I try to make clear my limits and what I do. That helps because the clients knows what to expect and hires you because of it.

[+ deej]

It's not always a marketing ploy. Several guys have told me that when they first started they didn't know much about the business and thought most clients were looking for tops.

 

When they found out how many clients actually wanted to fuck them, they clarified their ads.

 

One kid continued to bottom for me long after he changed his ad to read NO ANAL. He explained that he enjoyed it when done right (quite a compliment!) but he got tired of guys that just want to shove it in, or shove it in dry, or shove it in uncovered, so he took it off the table.