A little advice, please

[Guest coololdguy]

I have a regular escort I see for two hours a couple times a month. We have a great time and I probably feel more comfortable with him than any other man I have ever been with. The problem is that I occasionally have this terrific need to top a guy and my escort does not bottom. I totally totally respect the fact that he does not bottom but I am sort of at the point where I need to at least occasionally hire a bottom guy. My question is would it be inappropriate for me to ask my regular escort to recommend a versatile escort who he thinks I would like? I am an older sort of shy guy who hates the "hiring an escort the first time" scene and knowing me as well as he does I know my regular escort would probably suggest someone I would have a good shot at liking. I by all means want to continue seeing my regular and do not want to jeopardize our business relationship or do anything deemed inappropriate. I have considered requesting a threesome including my regular but am not sure I have the nerve or stamina at my age for a threesome. If the third guy ended up being equally as cute and sexy it might well be cardiac city for yours truly. Any tips, suggestions, or sensitive criticism would be appreciated. Thanks.

[Flower]

> I by all means want to continue seeing

>my regular and do not want to jeopardize our business

>relationship or do anything deemed inappropriate.

 

Hey coololdguy--you said so yourself--it's a business relationship. True, they can get quite personal, but unless you and your favorite escort have an arrangement to the contrary, you should be just as free to hire other escorts as he is to take on other clients. It's called MUTUALITY, and applies to almost all relationships from marriage to business contracts--in fact in contracts, the law even implies mutuality.

 

That was the easy part. You obviously like this guy and don't want to hurt his feelings, but I doubt if they would be hurt, but why even tell him? Again, you have a 2-hour-every-other-week business arrangement with him, unless you two have agreed to some exclusive arrangement, which I doubt---so go for it and don't feel compelled to tell him. And don't think you are violating a trust or cheating on him either--ya gotta keep in mind--with you and him it's business. --IMHO :+

 

Flower :*

[OneFinger]

>...would it be inappropriate for me to ask my regular escort to recommend a versatile escort who he thinks I would like?

 

I think it is fine to ask your regular for another referral. You've apparently asked him before about being a bottom so he knows you have that desire. Most good escorts know their "competition" and I'm sure he can make a good recommendation.

 

I would be sure to tell him that you're not planning to stop seeing him. If he knows you're going to keep seeing him, I'm sure he'll make sure to give you a quality referral.

[Guest elwood]

coololdguy,

You are way too self critical about this. YOU are paying and you are obviously treating the escort honestly and with respect. You have a perfect right to hire someone to bottom.Why do you need to ask your current escort?

If you do ask him for recommendations and he is offended..I would be very surprised.This is his BUSINESS...he is not in love with you.He sounds like a nice guy..but he is a professional and this should be no problem for him. This is a transaction even though a really good escort makes it seem far more and that is why a true professional is worth a reasonable fee.But don't take it for more than it is.My prediction is that while you may feel you have to pay for sex...you do not have to pay for friendship or love.Can't be done anyway.

[Gigiloz4me]

... oh, come on Pops! Have you lived in Iowa all your life?? Just ask your main squeeze and try not to blush.

[Guest coololdguy]

>... oh, come on Pops! Have you lived in Iowa all your life??

 

WOW! I have never been referred to as "Pops" before. Guess I asked for it with the "coololdguy" username and all of the oldster talk. I am pushing 60 but will not be there for a while and plan on exiting my 50's in style. By the way, I don't live in Iowa but I could be there in a little under two hours and my roots are a stone's throw away. Hummmmm! I also would like to clarify that I do not expect a 25 year old escort to "love" me. It is a foolish and unrealistic expectation. I was mainly curious as to how an escort would feel and respond if one of their regular clients asked them for a referral under the particular circumstances I explained. I appreciate the feedback in the above posts. Pops

[Guest jeffOH]

I'd tell the escort what you just told us here about your desire to

top and you're wondering if he knows of a bottom that he thinks you would like. You might try the 3-way if you think your heart can stand it.;-)

 

You might also mention that this would in no way affect your business relationship with him.

 

Have Fun!

 

JEFF

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