Explicit Language

[Guest hiringhairy]

I am discussing an appointment with a new (to me and I think to the business) guy and he has said regarding our email:

 

>please no sexually explicit language to keep us both out of trouble...<

 

This request surprises as no other guy I have hired has suggetsed this. And frankly, I prefer to have everything clearly spelled out before setting an appointment to minimize disappointment or misunderstanding.

 

What do you guys think ?

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Honestly, it's upfront intelligence... but also somewhat of a smokescreen for some escorts~

 

 

There have been times when i have had potential clients want to know, in GREAT detail, what i will do for my fee. My auto-response mechanism always kicks in (aka, my need to be 'jail-free') and i email back stating that this is for companionship/time only and would appreciate if they would respect that. Any client with any escort experience would know why this was said, so usually things smooth out after that and then evening goes as planned.

 

I almost never have to do this with client, but every now and then something strange comes along and i move to protect my ass... or any other body part for that matter. I don't find it to be a rude trait (unless in excess) and it keeps things much safer for both the client and the escort. This is assuming that your hired escort is a good guy and not a total hustler... Like i said above, some escorts use this as a smokescreen to simply parlay the set fee upwards when face-to-face with a client.

 

 

... and that is simply reprehensible~ An escort like that should be beaten with a pillowcase of door knobs, Soprano-style.

 

 

Okay, well, maybe not that harsh, but at least a bad review

 

 

 

 

 

Warmest Regards,

 

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

Escort@ChiKindaKid.com

http://www.ChiKindaKid.com

[Guest Hole_4_Hire]

I think the kid is being overly cautious. He probably thinks that detailed e-mails could be used against him if he's caught by the cops.

 

I don't think that should exclude you from hiring him if you're really turned on by him. But, I think you better assume it may take him a little time to "warm up" and get down to business. You better feel comfortable making the first move because he probably won't.

[Guest hiringhairy]

What I was trying to find out was if the guy fucks or not but he says stuff like: "I'm mostly top and oral but could bottom also" which isn't clear to me and his attempts at clarifying "I already answered that" have not helped much.

 

I understand discretion and have had no trouble with this with other guys.

 

I think I'm just going to pass on him. It's too bad because he's cute and hairy and guys with those attributes don't seem to be common around here.

[Boston Guy]

>What I was trying to find out was if the guy fucks or not

>but he says stuff like: "I'm mostly top and oral but could

>bottom also" which isn't clear to me and his attempts at

>clarifying "I already answered that" have not helped much.

>

>I understand discretion and have had no trouble with this

>with other guys.

>

>I think I'm just going to pass on him. It's too bad because

>he's cute and hairy and guys with those attributes don't

>seem to be common around here.

 

You might want to re-think that decision. It sounds to me like he did already answer your question -- in the affirmative.

 

BG

[phage]

>What I was trying to find out was if the guy fucks or not

>but he says stuff like: "I'm mostly top and oral but could

>bottom also" which isn't clear to me and his attempts at

>clarifying "I already answered that" have not helped much.

 

Not to be rude, but what part of that sentence don’t you understand? I can see why he would be a little nervous about getting more graphic than that.

 

The oral part is not 100% clear because you have to assume he is talking about giving oral, but that’s a pretty safe bet since everybody and their gay brother receives oral. The fucking part seems pretty clear though. Are you European? Does “mostly active but could be passive” help any?

[Flower]

>I think the kid is being overly cautious. He probably thinks

>that detailed e-mails could be used against him if he's

>caught by the cops.

 

And it absolutely could! :-(

 

>I don't think that should exclude you from hiring him if

>you're really turned on by him. But, I think you better

>assume it may take him a little time to "warm up" and get

>down to business. You better feel comfortable making the

>first move because he probably won't.

 

I'm not sure how you read all that into his email. Quite frankly, I think the escort gave a pretty direct answer and am not sure why the thread even got started, unless someone had as much time on there hands as I do tonight .

 

Actually, I don't think this was evasive at all, but certainly have seen evaisive answers and agree that it allows for misunderstanding and/or scams later on. Not the case here, IMHO

 

Flower :*

[Guest hiringhairy]

Okay, apparently I'm really dense or have too much free time. It's the "and oral" bit that confused me and his subsequent reluctance to clarify. I didn't mention it earlier but he clearly stated his rates in the sentence before the "and oral" one.

 

If I'm too cautious it's because anal is the only reason I hire. I don't want romance or smooching or to suck dick, I want fucking. And I want to know the guy is willing and capable before I offer up a commitment of a couple of hundred bucks and let a stranger into my home. And since I've had some experiences where guys didn't do what they clearly and explicitly stated they would, I feel justified in wanting clarity upfront.

 

So if I hire him and it turns out he's expecting me to blow him and says "I never said I fuck", will you guys chip in to reimburse me ?

[Flower]

>So if I hire him and it turns out he's expecting me to blow

>him and says "I never said I fuck", will you guys chip in to

>reimburse me ?

Yeah, right LOL :-) The only green you get from me is here in the FONT :+

 

However, I'd just send him an email saying exactly what you said here, if that be the case, and tell him it is with those expectations that you are asking him over--if he agrees, but when there really doesn't fairly meet the written expectations, then don't pay him--and tell him that in the email also--put everything on the table and make it simple. As long as you spell it out, his agreeing to come over is his implicit agreement to the terms }>

 

Flower :*

[Guest Kalifornia]

I don't speak in tounges and I don't want my escorts to do so either. If you're not comforable with email then lets talk on the phone. But I am not paying you till we have the rules in place.

 

Sounds like a newbie escort or a scam, either way it is a red flag.

 

Mark -Kalifornia

[ad rian]

>Sounds like a newbie escort or a scam, either way it is a

>red flag.

 

I agree! I am surprised by the posts that thought the message was clear. For me, after I see the pictures, I ask three questions: how old are you; are you smooth; and are you versatile. If I don't get clear answers to those questions, I decline. I don't think you need to get more explicit than that so any equivocation around those questions is a red flag for me!

[Guest hiringhairy]

>>Sounds like a newbie escort or a scam, either way it is a

>>red flag.

>

>I agree! I am surprised by the posts that thought the

>message was clear. For me, after I see the pictures, I ask

>three questions: how old are you; are you smooth; and are

>you versatile. If I don't get clear answers to those

>questions, I decline. I don't think you need to get more

>explicit than that so any equivocation around those

>questions is a red flag for me!

 

Well it's been 48 hours since I sent an email stating I was only interested in him if he tops for anal and no reply. I either scared him off or he's not up for it (so to speak).

 

On a brighter note, a former regular who recently moved out of town happened to be back around this weekend and we had a great evening with him.

[btmstudnyc]

Being a Hairy Escort/Masseur, I always get asked these same questions. I always think that my handle is self-explanatory(btmstudnyc..some people think this means I search and love bottoms)...but for some reason....when your hairy....some guys assume you top or are versatile (I guess it's that hairy daddy/boy thing.) Hell, there are so many guys that still want to hire me to top even though I tell them I get performance anxiety (If I like a butt.....watch out...my TOP muscles definitely cum into play.) I can only top under my circumstances...not some specific scenario...but to bottom....you can throw my legs anywhere and anyway you want. At least I KNOW when I can totally guarantee and back myself up. NO PUN INTENDED

 

Tell me hiringhairy....Would this above paragraph have answered your question?

 

Cuz it's usually the way I answer. It's truthful, but doesn't get you any closer to knowing if YOUR GONNA GET IT GOOD from me (or just knowing YOURGONNAGETIT.)

 

JIM

 

:+

[Guest hiringhairy]

>Tell me hiringhairy....Would this above paragraph have

>answered your question?

 

It sure would have answered my question. I think having your sexual abilities and preferences stated in your nickname or profile helps prospective contacts a lot.