Falling in love with an escort

[latinolover]

Would any of you guys who have contributed to this topic like to read my review of "Milton" under Spain and help me with your comments (And yes of course I did fall in love with him - I still think about him every hour, every day).

[Guest lipstick]

Latinlover,

 

From your review this guy seems entirely manipulative and quite overbearing, yet you have these deep feelings for him, either as the idea Latin lover or the greatest sex you've ever had. Before reading the review, I was expecting you to say he was sweet and generous with his feelings.

 

I am going through something similar, though the guy is hugely sweet and supportive, and definitely not out to hit me up for more money. My problem is controlling my "love" part, when I know it will always be mostly based on the business arrangement. So I am working on that to get a more realistic balance, expectation and APPROACH to two things: the client/escort relationship and to my own Gay life in general, 'cause the two get mixed up a lot!!!

 

I think you need to decide how to handle your situation. How you deal with it is the hardest question for you to answer. But I sense that despite the physical and sensual perfection of your sessions, you truly do acknowledge that the relationship was based also on aggravation and manipulation of the worst sort, which can be emotionally draining for you and which can take out a lot of the joy in hooking up with others. Which is why you've decided to break it off with this bad boy.

 

So, if I'm anywhere near the mark here, it may be helpful for you to definitely meet with other escorts, and maybe people like yourself. I think you will pleasantly find (I hope I do!!!) that there are lots of folks out there who are emotionally generous and open, and genuinely appreciative of other cool people. Once you get the contrasts and experience the wide spectrum of who else is out there, I think it will be easier for you to get over this bad boy hunk.

 

Because the other option is to sulk, get depressed, feel resentful and angry, then bitter, and we've got a lot of these folks already in the world.

 

Good luck to you!

[guyinsf]

It doesn't sound to me like you are "falling in love" with the escort. You certainly have a strong infatuation, but you are also clear that he is rude, manipulative, and stoic. Unless you love those qualities in someone, I suggest that you are experience strong lust, not love.

 

I must say that I got confused by the money/time part at the end of your review. Are you trying to say that you spend 3 days in the area in which he lives, and you plan to hire him for 6 hours out of those three days? You hire him on day #1 and then he asks for a 50% tip so you don't keep appointments on days #2 and #3?

 

At any rate, his rate is currently equal to $94 in U.S. currency. I see that a lot of the guys listed in Madrid are near this rate (and Andres in Barcelona appears to charge US$28 per half hour!), but from a U.S. perspective adding $47 to his "base rate" still makes his fee a reasonable US$141. What seems unreasonable is his asking for the tip and saying that you promised to pay it to him (which I am assuming you didn't).