Straight guy tied up?

[StraitToBeTied]

Hey guys, As my user name mentions I’m a straight guy but in the last few years I’ve had interest in exploring men a bit. I’m 37 and have never hooked up with a guy in any way, as a matter of fact I’m not even attracted to men. Here is my deal, lately I’ve wanted to try bondage with a gay guy or gay couple. Mainly I want to have role play and be tied up by him/them and have some psychical contact. I have a long term girlfriend and we’ve explored similar “fetishes” and I’m very happy in my relationship but I can’t figure out why now in my mid 30’s I want to be bound and gagged by gay men?? Has anyone heard of this? Thoughts?

[Ds35mm]

You have deep rooted desire to have sex with men. The desire to be tied up indicates that this is something you consider is out of your control. Just hook up with a guy and see where it goes

[+ sync]

Hey guys, As my user name mentions I’m a straight guy but in the last few years I’ve had interest in exploring men a bit. I’m 37 and have never hooked up with a guy in any way, as a matter of fact I’m not even attracted to men. Here is my deal, lately I’ve wanted to try bondage with a gay guy or gay couple. Mainly I want to have role play and be tied up by him/them and have some psychical contact. I have a long term girlfriend and we’ve explored similar “fetishes” and I’m very happy in my relationship but I can’t figure out why now in my mid 30’s I want to be bound and gagged by gay men?? Has anyone heard of this? Thoughts?

Your post highlights some intense inner conflicts. You may garner greater benefit from discussing your desires with an emotions specialist rather than an open forum.

[StraitToBeTied]

It’s more about the bondage than sex, I wouldn’t hook up with a guy of bondage wasn’t involved. I’m open to sexual contact but only if I was tied up. I wouldn’t know where to find a guy or gay couple that what to tie a straight guy up anyway.

[StraitToBeTied]

i am conflicted but I’m okay with that. Emotionally I’m fine, this something I’d like to explore.

[+ BlueSky]

It seems like hiring for this fantasy is the same as hiring in general. Many escorts advertise these kind of bondage services, and some have good reviews here and on Daddys. If there's someone you are already interested in?

[+ honcho]

It’s more about the bondage than sex, I wouldn’t hook up with a guy of bondage wasn’t involved. I’m open to sexual contact but only if I was tied up. I wouldn’t know where to find a guy or gay couple that what to tie a straight guy up anyway.

 

So, "Bondage" is an attribute you can search for on Rentmen.eu providers.

 

If you live in a large city, there may be a chapter of "The Janus Society" there, in which you can find meetings of bi, gay and straight people into Bondage/SM. It's pan-sexual.

 

You could also post a profile on recon.com stating your interests and limitations. It's free to join. (And you can do a limited number of searches for like minded deviants per day).

[+ m_writer]

To @StraitToBeTied welcome to the forum.

 

First off, thank you for sharing your desire and asking questions. That's the first step to a safe and sane experience.

 

I agree with the idea that you and your girlfriend can visit a friendly bondage group or information gathering. They are open to all races and gender and personally, where I live in SoCal, there's the SoCal Bondage Club which offers events where one can explore and safely try out bondage activities with newbies and experts alike.

 

And of course, there are escorts on RM who will be happy to perform such a service.

 

However, I want to let you know that you must take it slow and read up on safety and making sure you're comfortable with a relative stranger or escort tying you up. Consent and being safe and sane are very important, and in no way should you feel pressured into doing something you have misgivings for later. Get your feet wet first and try the Janus society or a bondage meetup where you and your girlfriend can learn the proper resources and techniques before asking a gay guy to tie you up.

 

I also find it admirable that you are being honest with your girlfriend and bringing her in the loop on your desires instead of trying to hide it from her. That goes a long way.

 

Being bound and gagged by a gay guy isn't weird in the slightest, and as @Ds35mm said, it most likely roots from a desire to being taken against your will and being forced to do something out of your control (but I'm not a psychologist so please don't take my opinion as the factual truth).

 

If you feel you want to explore, there are numerous events and resources out there that can help you explore this safely and in a good way.