Provider health status

[Jose Anmo]

Is it rude to ask for provider’s std and hiv status?

[+ Jamesp]

I think its a very difficult conversation. I prefer actual massage and HE. In those close conditions sometimes it gets very interactive. I generally state my limit while booking appointment. PrEP is a red flag for me. I am glad they are careful but it can stop only certain things not all. I will rather not go.

 

I knew a well known performer, has lot of videos performing unprotected but also gives excellent massage. Once he started going on different track leaning towards performance. I was shocked. I stopped at that point, paid and left. I think he thought it was rude. For my next appointment with him, He went completely therapeutic and was fully covered all time. I got the message and stopped booking him. I prefer that over constant doubt. Since that incident I am very clear (may be a bit overboard) about limits.

[Dmitri]

Is it rude to ask for provider’s std and hiv status?

 

This is a forum re: masseurs ,(not escorts)....so the only reason to ask is if you think you will be engaging in sexual activity with your masseur. If that is the case, no....it is not rude to ask std and hiv status, as you would anyone you would be having sex with, paid or not. With that being said, I never ask anyone, masseur or escort, their std or hiv status. Two reasons why 1) I would not trust anyone with telling me the truth. Their are tons of honest masseurs and escorts that will tell you the truth.....and also tons that will lie to get your business. So I go into any sexual situation assuming the person might have an std or be hiv positive and play safe at all times, whatever they tell me. 2) The masseur or escort might be totally honest and tell you they do not have an std or they are hiv negative, and be totally unaware they have been exposed and are in an "incubation period", and show no symptoms.....at the time they are with you. Then a short time later they learn they had been exposed to something prior to being with you. So they were being honest when you asked, but were unaware of their health status at the time they were with you. General rule : Always play safe. That way you never even need to ask...... or worry about their std or hiv status.

Edited March 15, 2019 by Dmitri

[hypothetically]

Is it rude to ask for provider’s std and hiv status?

 

Not rude, but unnecessary if you just intend to receive a massage.