Tipping

[marylander1940]

The tip should be included in their price.

 

Some clients tip and some don't.

 

This is just like escorts charging more for an outcall and then asking you to Uber them to you. That is ridiculous. I should pay more to host?

 

Yes you should pay more to host because it takes time for the escort to get to you, that's why outcalls are more expensive than incalls.

 

Tipping was a learning curve for me. I have learned better as I have inquired about things in the forum and worked with good providers. Sometimes, I ask, what do I get for being a superior client? You should receive outstanding or superior service for the escort’s fee.

 

That's a good reason to tip, someone gives a better than expected service.

 

Superior client? This ain't frequent flyer, you don't get Subway tokens for a discount later, unless you hire him a few times a month and the 2 of you agree something like this.

 

Some do not deserve their full fee and some are not priced according to their experience.

 

Have you underpay/stiffed any escorts? Sounds like you're suggesting that.

 

A good warning: if someone even mentions a tip in advance, they are an amateur and you are destined for a bad experience. Mark my words.

 

I never heard of someone asking for a tip in advance. They just want to get paid X for their service.

 

Amateur: some would call them fresh, not jaded. Btw I only hire professionals but I'm sure all of them at one point in their lives were amateur. We all had a day 1 in many jobs.

 

Almost guaranteed. Similarly, those who ask for payment up front. They have a plan to escape halfway through the exercise.

 

I don't know about escaping... but unless is late at night and the client looks wasted there's no excuse to ask for upfront payment.

[marylander1940]

Why shouldn’t you expect to pay a little more if someone makes a housecall to you and adds additional time to his work day ... I’m not sure you really thought that one through.

 

I smell entitlement and resentment on his post.

[marylander1940]

Seriously, why do you care what they think? They took the job agreeing to the terms. They're supposed to be serving your needs. Hell they're paid to do so. Who cares what they think, their job is to pretend they're having an amazing time. Their job is to create a fantasy. It's not an actual date where you have to offer the best version of yourself to get another date. You just pay them. I see so much of this weird deference shown to escort on here. Some of the posters here seem really hard up for companionship.

 

Of course there has to be mutual respect, but I see so much over the top efforts to please the escort. It's a transaction, stop deluding yourself they actually care.

 

The good ones make it feel like a hook up.

[+ OliverSaks]

I smell entitlement and resentment on his post.

Ah yes, I’m entitled because I think that a provider should be compensated for the extra time and effort he takes in order to serve his clients need.

 

Ha!

[marylander1940]

Ah yes, I’m entitled because I think that a provider should be compensated for the extra time and effort he takes in order to serve his clients need.

 

Ha!

 

The "entitlement" was directed at the post by @lookingforfunny just to make it clear, some folks reading your comment might think otherwise.

 

It's common sense that unless the client is next door an escort should get paid more money to go to his place.

[+ OliverSaks]

You had me confused, thanks for clearing it up

 

The "entitlement" was directed at the post by @lookingforfunny just to make it clear, some folks reading your comment might think otherwise.

 

It's common sense that unless the client is next door an escort should get paid more money to go to his place.

[marylander1940]

You had me confused, thanks for clearing it up

 

It happens to all posters.

 

Glad it's all clear!

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

I believe that Tipping is a small city in China, but I could be wrong

[wklucas]

You had me confused, thanks for clearing it up

 

 

"I’m not sure you really thought that one through."

[Trick]

 

I just want you to know that I care. I do this work because I care about other human beings and this is work that matches well with my skill set and passions.

 

 

I attest to this

[+ lookingforfunny]

Some clients tip and some don't.

 

 

 

Yes you should pay more to host because it takes time for the escort to get to you, that's why outcalls are more expensive than incalls.

 

@marylander1940 To clarify: Of course you will pay more for an outcall, but add an Uber on top of the inflated charge? That is ridiculous! Some providers request the expected upcharge for an outcall and have the nerve to request car service, in addition to their outcall rate.

 

 

That's a good reason to tip, someone gives a better than expected service.

 

Superior client? This ain't frequent flyer, you don't get Subway tokens for a discount later, unless you hire him a few times a month and the 2 of you agree something like this.

 

@marylander1940 Perhaps you selected a few of my posts to “rant,” but if you reread them, you have taken them out of context. I agree with you. The point I made was related to service delivery. If your time is $300. The time should be worth $300. There should be no expectation of a tip. “Expectation” is the key word. A client is entitled to do as they please. However, if service is subpar, a client is not going to pay less.

 

Have you underpay/stiffed any escorts? Sounds like you're suggesting that.

 

@marylander1940 I have never negotiated, nor have I shortchanged anyone. The sentiment is noted in my statement. Once again, the point is: you should receive good service for the rate paid. Am I wrong for making this assumption? On the other hand, if you have a poor experience, the client takes the loss.

 

 

 

I never heard of someone asking for a tip in advance. They just want to get paid X for their service.

 

Amateur: some would call them fresh, not jaded. Btw I only hire professionals but I'm sure all of them at one point in their lives were amateur. We all had a day 1 in many jobs.

 

@marylander1940 I would hope that the gentlemen here also hire professionals. Why else would we spend our time sharing if we only hired hooligans? Thanks for playing.

 

I don't know about escaping... but unless is late at night and the client looks wasted there's no excuse to ask for upfront payment.

[+ lookingforfunny]

Why shouldn’t you expect to pay a little more if someone makes a housecall to you and adds additional time to his work day ... I’m not sure you really thought that one through.

If you agree to pay $400/hr for an outcall versus going to the escorts place for $350/hr, do you think you should pay more than the $400, inclusive of the surcharge? That is what was meant by “tip should be included in the rate.” Which is the same as, “what is your outcall rate?” Is it appropriate for the escort to then ask you for a tip or mention it? I think you read my post quickly. I will make it really clear: When you book, the provider should give an ALL INCLUSIVE RATE for outcall, wine, extra linens, airfare, chocolate body paint, or whatever you request. Otherwise, in my opinion, it is the same as a client trying to shortchange or renegotiate the escorts rate, upon arrival. Both are in poor taste. Be clear up front, so everyone has a positive experience. Otherwise, it gets messy and turns into a bazaar.

[hypothetically]

First, let me apologize if this thread has already been exhausted elsewhere. I did a search but didn’t find what I was looking for specifically. I apologize if it’s redundant.

 

I have a weekend BFE scheduled for the middle of September. I’ve already paid for the escort’s plane ticket. He has told me a very good rate because we already have an established relationship via the Internet. I would like to treat him well and appropriately so I have been wondering what the appropriate tip is if at all. Any wisdom that anyone here has I would greatly appreciate!

 

This entire thread is like asking WebMd “Do I have cancer?” ..you’ll never find a concrete answer. It’s YOUR money. If you are inclined to tip, do so. Individuals (who are able) tip all the time outside of traditional expectation because they can, and want to. As a provider, I would never insinuate, ask or expect a tip. I’m delighted when I receive them but it is never an expectation. Money is an issue for most clients, some it is not.

[+ FrankR]

If you agree to pay $400/hr for an outcall versus going to the escorts place for $350/hr, do you think you should pay more than the $400, inclusive of the surcharge? That is what was meant by “tip should be included in the rate.” Which is the same as, “what is your outcall rate?” Is it appropriate for the escort to then ask you for a tip or mention it? I think you read my post quickly. I will make it really clear: When you book, the provider should give an ALL INCLUSIVE RATE for outcall, wine, extra linens, airfare, chocolate body paint, or whatever you request. Otherwise, in my opinion, it is the same as a client trying to shortchange or renegotiate the escorts rate, upon arrival. Both are in poor taste. Be clear up front, so everyone has a positive experience. Otherwise, it gets messy and turns into a bazaar.

For your amusement - I did not know the origins of tipping but in this clip Adam lays it out...

[+ lookingforfunny]

What I read here is that you think that escorts are being paid to do a job and that the rate we ask is fair for us to do that job without needing or expecting a tip. I agree with you.

 

At the end, you stated "stop deluding yourself that they actually care." I just want you to know that I care. I do this work because I care about other human beings and this is work that matches well with my skill set and passions. There might be some folks who don't care, and that's OK - there are TONS of us who do.

 

And that is why Eric Hassan is highly praised for his skill and ability to connect with his clients. Friendships can be attained and most of us would like to have repeat experiences with someone we trust. Loyalty is the key ingredient to building a successful brand. No wonder why so many of the unprofessional types change profile names and come on and off the scene so quickly. If you are in it to just make a quick buck and deliver average experiences, your career will be short lived.