nysouthpaw

His name is javier, He was such macho man but sweet and fun. I was first nervous he has a great shape body we spoke in Spanish and we played for three hours and he charged me for one. I highly recommend him

I found him he changed his profile to THE_INK.  You know for me to meet men is to find comfort. He was making excuses that his cat ran away, then somebody robbed his apartment. . I have waited for 4 hours and he kept stating he was coming. I requested my  money and he blocked me. I was  annoyed by rentmen. they took like "oh so sorry to hear that" and yet he is still there. 

@nysouthpaw I'm somewhat of a newbie myself, just under two years.  My first hire was a local provider whose ad I admired for a long time.  I finally took the plunge and contacted him.  Aside from his physical attributes, he was pleasant, friendly, and personable. I arranged for two hours at my place and he never once requested any form of deposit. He knew I was new to this and a bit apprehensive, but he treated me with such kindness and understanding that I felt comfortable with him immediately.  Fast forward to today, we've met almost a dozen times and all subsequent meetings with him have been overnights.  We've had meals together.  We keep in touch between sessions.  We value each other as people. 
My point in sharing this.....keep searching for your version of my guy.  You had a bad experience and learned an expensive lesson, but there are some wonderful, kind, understanding men out there who appreciate loyal, respectful clients.  Search the threads here.  If you don't find anything, start one.  While there's always a possibility that your personalities don't click, if several people share their positive experiences, at least you get a better picture of how your prospective guy operates.
Good luck!        

Sorry you learned the hard way, but here is another classic case of what happens when you pay up front.  No matter what sob story they give you, never ever pay upfront.

If one needs to adopt multiple screen personalities to make a position appear legitimate and have support, then said position is weak at best and speaks volumes to one's integrity and character, or lack thereof.   
I'm also sorry this happened to you @nysouthpaw.  It's an expensive lesson.  
I've said before, the most successful providers are engaging, pleasant, personable, and don't treat potential clients with contempt or like a walking ATM.  For me, an abrasive personality extinguishes any interest I might have in a provider, regrdless of how physically attractive he is.