I have just recently started using Seeking in August as I had an arrangement with someone else for 4 years and now thinking we should end it. It has now been a little over a month of trying out Seeking and I'm kinda in the same boat as a lot of people on the thread.
I live in the Los Angeles area and I turned to Seeking because the people out here (I'm sure like in every metropolitan area) are complete flakes and the cities here are so far apart with traffic making it hard to actually date someone. I was also tired of just renting because I wanted a more meaningful relationship that was both beneficial, I generally like taking care of and helping people out.
When I signed up, I also noticed that so many guys said they lived in LA but they really didn't or said I'm planning to move to LA soon. Some were just there to be attractive and expect that their beauty would be enough for a relationship. Some reached out to me and turned into the LA flakey people and never wanted to set up a meeting. I had one guy that we meet in West Hollywood and literally turned around and walked away after 5 minutes of meeting them.
I did end up narrowing it down to 4 potential guys, all of them saying that weren't really looking for someone to take care of them, so I've been confused and completely not used to how to handle this situation like @Coolwave35 was mentioning.
3 of those guys eventually just fell off my radar, but with the one final guy we've been texting since August and have meet up twice in person. I was starting to notice that I kinda was falling for him, he's in his last semester of college and I helped with his books and dorming this week, he passed along nudes to me without me asking which made so happy. I did ask in return for the books and dorming that we meet up this weekend and he said yes. I have been texting him since this past Friday to make the plans, he never committed. I then found out via social media that he ended up going out and parting with his friends while I could have used what I helped him this week to have a good time at Adonis and not feeling lonely by myself on a Saturday night.
I'm still trying to make sense of Seeking, but I can't tell if this normal LA flakiness or maybe I'm just not being as direct as I should be. Anyone have thoughts?