Well responsible players always play safely and sanely. Of course we all have a different definition of what safely and sanely references. Given that premise, it is important for the dom and sub to be on the exact same wavelength.... with in the majority of situations the limits of the sub being the factor determining how far and how fast the action proceeds.
Unfortunately I have seen situations where the dom refused to respect the sub’s limits. Once I had to physically stop the self-proclaimed hotshot dom from causing injury to the sub who was a friend. In such situations the dom must remember that it is not all about his personal gratification. It is a two way commitment of mutual respect.
Of course I have seen situations where the dom has refused to go as far as the sub wishes to go and that’s not a bad thing. It is always obviously best to err on the side of caution. Still the bottom line is the same. The players must respect each others limits.
With experience and the use of safe words... and respecting those words... limits can be safely be pushed by degrees on both sides of the equation.
PS: incidentally I would never get involved with a choking scene or any situation where the airway or breathing might be obstructed.
