Are you counting only insertive sex? (oral, fucking).
Would going to the local J/O club count or participating naked in an SM/Bondage play party?
Would *visual* sex count? (e.g. skype/wire/cam4/dudesnude/chaturbate)?
I'm lucky enough to have a boyfriend these days so I have insertive sex twice a week.
But I play cam2cam almost every day.
I would have gone to SF Jacks every time I could but they meet on monday nights, which conflicts with an amateur orchestra I play in.
SF Jacks is currently on hiatus, but there's a NYC Jacks which happens twice a week (which, unfortunately for me is 2700 miles away).
The regular scheduled SM Play Parties in SF are usually on saturday nights, and I often have concerts to play the next day -
if I stay up too late or play too hard it clobbers my concentration, so I've only been to two of those in the past year.