I just returned from three weeks in Palm Springs. Spent the first two at a fantastic Misterbnb casita, and the last week at INNdulge. INNdulge is fantastic. Great rooms. Beautiful pool and hot tub. Excellent breakfast and fun late-afternoon cocktail hour. AND, of course the men. A terrific bunch of guys from all over the country - friendly, intelligent and playful. The hotel is in a great Warm Sands location close to everything - the bars on Arenas, the Tool Shed on Sunny Dunes, Townie Bagels, and only a short drive to the Barracks in Cathedral City.
The Hacienda is across the street. It is much more upscale but MUCH smaller. If you are looking for a better social experience, stay at INNdulge.