I am also new to the massage scene only getting massages going on less than 3 months. Being that I’m a bigger person, in my initial email to the therapist when they don’t mention they accept people of all shapes and sizes, I always make it clear that I am big and if they have body type restrictions to please let me know. I understand that folks have problems with weight so I’m not here/there to waste anybody’s times. Luckily for me, I have not yet received any rejections other than some therapists never texting me back (that’s my queue to move along). I’m pretty considerate with my massage exchanges and like massagelife has mentioned. I’m never upfront about the details of how I would like my massage. I let the therapist give me the details and just roll with the punches.
Now getting to the sensual/erotic and what it means to me.
Sensual: I’m nude on the table while the therapist sometimes may have at least a pair of shorts/underwear to start off the session. During the massage, there are a light brushes here and there between my butt crack, balls, light touches to bring the tingles enough to get me turned on. MT is less inclined during the massage portion, but at times can be acceptable during the HE (depending on the therapist, they may not offer HE).
Erotic: We both start nude and the therapist goes to work with the massage. There is more touch involved and more often throughout the session. The body language is there for more mutual touch and the therapists focuses more on arousing the client and MT most times are encouraged throughout the duration and the HE for both therapist and the client.
I too have lucked out where the therapists offers just sensual, they’ve allowed me to touch them while they work on my climax. I do sometimes wonder if they allow such thing because during the massage itself, my hands are kept to myself like a good little schoolboy. I only get to touch when they graze my body and hand accidentally that they are more lenient with the MT towards the end. During the erotic sessions, I too keep my cool during the massage, unless there is encouragement to touch etc, that’s when I take that queue and work with it, but again reserving myself to not look like I’m just there to tug away at the therapists genitals. I’ve been pretty happy with the outcome of all massages I’ve gotten so far minus 2. Both of those times were those guys that give you the magic word “you can jerk yourself off”. Oh how I despise that phrase.
Sorry for this long message, but I thought some of these factors that I present may be useful for others.