final_impact

I have been hiring escorts now for seventeen years. I have always believed, and I still believe, that if my life or career would be destroyed if the fact that I hire escorts became generally known then I should NOT be hiring them. There is NO absolutely full proof way that a client can guarantee that he can't or won't be outed. I always prefer to meet ecorts at my place where I can cook a meal and the escort and I can spend approximately three hours together. I use my personal cell phone and my personal desk top to communicate with all the guys I hire. Additionally all the escorts I hire know my full real name. Over the last seventeen years I have hire dozens, if not hundreds, of escorts and I have NOT once had a problem with the escort knowing any of my above personal information. Lucky you say - NOT AT ALL. I have always carefully researched the guy I hire on this site and I only hire well reviewed and known escorts.

And if you DO want to engage in those sorts of things, be sure to spell those out to your escort in advance. No one likes surprises in this business.
 
Ditto to everything else he and others mentioned. Great advice on these forums.

Welcome, @final_impact. Here are my thoughts:
 

I use my real first name. I also use my cell phone number, although I am transitioning to a Google Voice number, mainly because after switching from an Apple MacBook Pro to an HP laptop I can't get texts on my laptop.

You need to do whatever makes you comfortable. In the past I used a fake name, but I'd usually slip up and use my actual first name at some point. It is just easier to use my actual name.

My very first hire was at my place. This was pre-Internet and I had absolutely no problems. Since then, I've hosted guys at my home, visited them in their homes, hosted at my own hotel room, and visited them at their hotel room. Again, you have to do what feels comfortable to you.

Some clients do, others don't. I typically do not tip, although I have bought small gifts for guys, such as some body products a guy liked and a gift card to a guy's favorite store. Both times were after a stellar session. Both were extremely grateful. One escort I hired fairly frequently once told me that at $250/hour he does not think tipping is appropriate because the rate is already high.

A couple of things are important, IMO:

Be clear with an escort about what you want. I usually say something like "Hey, [insert name of escort here] your ad caught my eye and I wanted to see if we are compatible. I'm into [describe what I like]. How does this sound to you? rvwnsd"
Be clear with yourself about your own personal limits. If there is something you don't want to engage in, don't let yourself get pressured into doing so. This includes PNP, bareback sex, dirty talk, BDSM, breath control, and rough play.
Be comfortable with walking away. If an escort says or does something that raises a red flag with you, walk away. It is OK.
Do not pre-pay. 'nuff said.
Use the Forum as a resource. If there's an escort who interests you, search for them or ask about them here on the Forum.
Use your own judgement. If you get a "funny feeling," politely decline to continue contact.

I've only been doing this for a few years so maybe I've been lucky. I prefer to host at my home. I'm more comfortable here and out of probably 200, I've only sent away 3 or 4 and even then with $100 for their trouble.
 
I use my real name as well.
 
I won't say that it's the safest choice but it's what I choose to do.
 
My neighbors "know" that I "tutor" a lot of college students by the hour.

The use of an alternate name is perfectly OK. While I use "Sam" as both my forum persona and my email address, I often forget about "Sam" when I introduce myself in person and use my real name. It took me a while, but I've learned to answer to "Sam" when in person.

Welcome to the Forum @final_impact .
 
I use my real first name and some trusted escorts know my last name as well. A few escorts who I’ve seen regularly over the years have dropped the pretense and shared real names and such with me. This is a trust level built up over years.
 
If you want to establish a different identity for hiring then do so for your comfort level. Not making light of the privacy issue but some clients do take to the extreme with burner phones, google voice, and all the masking apps. From my point of view, if one is that paranoid about identity issues then perhaps this hobby is not a good idea.
 
I do not recommend seeing guys at your own home. Better to see a guy at his hotel or one that you have arranged yourself. Situations can arise and the last thing you need is for your home to no longer be a safe haven.
 
I don’t tip unless the guy works for an agency. I will cover transportation costs either hotel parking, taxi, or Uber for guys coming to my hotel. I always tell the guy I’ll cover these costs while making arrangements. Usually this is not more than additional $50 expense.
 
Relax and enjoy yourself.

Fine for one hire, but very awkward for many subsequent hires with the same provider.

My advice:
- establish a false name, NEVER give your real name
- establish an email account based on that name used solely for this hobby
- establish a google voice account to get a false phone number for txting used solely for this hobby
- some only use encrypted chat (whatsapp is one), that's your call
- meet in a neutral location, NEVER your home. Escorts place is OK if they are well reviewed.
- tips are nice but not required. if you got the service, pay the rate. Tip if the experience was exceptional.
- Never send pictures that can be "google image searched" to locate your facebook or instagram account (in other words, if you do send s pic it should be one you have not posted elsewhere)
 
Pay attention to reviews and your "inner voice" when you interact with the provider.
 
Good luck!
 
Jack